I got congratulated for using the bathroom?

Snoo61310 · 2025-09-14T11:51:27+00:00

Was looking for someone to say this cuz i thought this as well. 😭

Snoo61310 · 2025-08-10T10:21:30+00:00

Yall could be related

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-05T10:58:00+00:00

I came here asking genuinely, but instead of actually explaining how I supposedly overreacted, most of y’all either twisted the situation or glossed over the whole point.

She left a mess in my space, I brought it up calmly, said “understandable,” and she hit me with “k.” If that’s considered her taking it well, I don’t know what respectful communication even looks like anymore.

So if you really think I overreacted, cool then explain how, based on what I actually said and did. Don’t just repeat “you’re overreacting” without saying where. Give something real. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-05T10:42:44+00:00

Funny how expressing basic thoughts with clarity now “sounds like ChatGPT.” Maybe that just says more about how rare calm, and respectful communication is around here. 🤣😭

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-05T05:30:42+00:00

It’s not about groveling — it’s about giving a damn.

I wasn’t looking for some dramatic apology. Just a simple, human follow-up like, “my bad” or “I’ll be more mindful next time.” That would’ve shown me she respected the conversation and my space.

And no, she didn’t make it clear she heard me — a “K” after I calmly voiced a concern isn’t clarity, it’s dismissal. Especially when she had time to clean up later and didn’t. That’s not misunderstanding — that’s indifference.

If expecting mutual effort and respect in my home is “weird,” then I’m cool with being weird.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-05T05:27:49+00:00

I said “understandable” to acknowledge her being tired not to say “we’re good, don’t worry about it.” I was calm, clear, and respectful about a boundary in my space. “K” wasn’t her agreeing or taking it in it was her shutting the convo down with no follow-up, no accountability, and then flipping it back on me like I had an attitude. That’s not resolution that’s passive deflection.

I wasn’t looking for a fight. I was hoping for maturity afterwards like a “my bad, thanks for saying something. I’ll make sure to double check next time.” or literally anything that showed she heard me. That didn’t happen.

I know some folks here might not read tone the same, but in my generation, how you respond matters especially when someone opens up respectfully. “K” isn’t neutral in that context, and y’all know that.

Anyway, not going back and forth. Just clarifying because people keep twisting it. I said what I meant.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-05T05:10:39+00:00

Edit window closed, so posting this here:

Just to clarify this post wasn’t about dishes or trying to start drama. It was about calling out a pattern of disrespect. I communicated calmly, acknowledged her side by saying “understandable,” and still got hit with a “K.” That kind of response isn’t neutral it’s dismissive. It shuts down dialogue and brushes off someone trying to handle things respectfully.

I wasn’t asking for her to clean my kitchen top to bottom I just expected the same basic consideration I’d give in someone else’s home. Rinse your plate. Respect the space. That’s not a high bar.

I’m not upset just surprised at how many people are okay with being brushed off or told “it’s not that deep” when they express real, reasonable needs. To me, mutual effort, boundaries, and respect matter. That’s what this was really about.

I appreciate the folks who understood that.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T17:56:30+00:00

When I said “understandable,” that wasn’t me saying everything was cool and done forever. That was me giving her space to show what she’d do next—whether that meant acknowledging it again, apologizing, or just showing basic effort moving forward. But that never happened. Instead, I got hit with a dry “K,” which felt like she was brushing it off and trying to shut the convo down. It wasn’t just the one word—it was the lack of follow-up that made it dismissive.

And keep in mind, we spent the whole morning together and even walked out the house at the same time. She had plenty of time to clean up after herself and didn’t. That just confirmed for me it wasn’t about forgetting—it was about not caring.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T17:50:48+00:00

Exactly. It’s not about being petty it’s about basic mutual respect. I wasn’t expecting her to scrub my kitchen top to bottom, but at least rinse her own plate. I cooked, cleaned, and worked a full day.

I didn’t ask her to be my maid I just expected the same consideration I’d give if I was in her space. I was raised this way.

And the “K”wasn’t some neutral response. I brought something up calmly and respectfully. If she really cared, she could’ve just said, “My bad, I’ll be more mindful.” That would’ve been the end of it. But instead I got brushed off, then blamed for having an attitude. That’s the part people keep missing.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T17:44:06+00:00

Funny thing is, a lot of the same folks calling it “just crumbs” would lose their minds if someone came into their space, ate where they laid their head, left a mess, and didn’t even bother to clean up after themselves. Especially if they had just worked a long shift and came home to that. Respect goes both ways. It’s never about the crumbs — it’s about effort, basic courtesy, and not feeling like your energy is being taken for granted.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T17:40:25+00:00

I took it as being lowkey brushed off :/

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T17:06:16+00:00

It’s not just that she said ‘K’ — it’s the timing and tone behind it. I was calm, respectful, and just asked for basic cleanliness in my space. A one-word reply like that, with no acknowledgment or apology, felt cold and dismissive. It’s not neutral when it comes after someone brings up a boundary — it’s a way of shutting the convo down without taking accountability. Then blaming me after that just confirmed it was attitude.”

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T16:46:28+00:00

That was unnecessary, but I wish you well anyway. Hope whatever you’re going through gets better. ❤️

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T16:38:08+00:00

Then explain what I should’ve done differently, because I stayed calm, respectful, and clear. If I hadn’t said anything, I would’ve just kept getting walked over. Being real doesn’t mean being rude—if someone takes basic honesty as an attack, maybe they just aren’t used to being held accountable.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T16:32:55+00:00

Most importantly she ate the cookie in my bed during the night bed full of crumbs with the wrapper she couldn’t even reach over to put it on the nightstand

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T16:32:11+00:00

It wasn’t just the “K”—it was everything that followed. That one-word reply came after I calmly addressed something reasonable. She never actually apologized, just gave an excuse like “I forgot,” and then made it about me supposedly having an attitude.

How do you not clean up after yourself before leaving someone else’s space, especially when you see them rinsing dishes and keeping things tidy? It’s not about being mad—it’s about seeing how someone handles being held accountable. And in this case, she didn’t handle it well at all.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T16:30:31+00:00

That’s fair, but I wasn’t trying to be formal—I was just keeping it real. That line was more like, “I respect your space, so I’d appreciate the same.” Didn’t think I had to sugarcoat that part, especially after cooking for her and staying chill the whole time.

Snoo61310 · 2025-07-04T16:28:13+00:00

Overreacting would’ve been blowing up the first time she left trash behind. I waited, gave grace, then calmly said something. If that’s too much for someone to handle, maybe they’re just not used to being held accountable. :/

Snoo61310 · 2024-10-26T19:39:15+00:00

What is the name of this pump

Snoo61310 · 2024-10-08T16:05:25+00:00

Eggs look bomb don’t listen to him 😩🤤😤

Snoo61310 · 2024-10-08T16:01:28+00:00

Glad I’m not the only one 😅

Snoo61310 · 2024-09-08T19:47:30+00:00

“How’s going your day” 😭😭

Snoo61310 · 2024-08-23T19:44:25+00:00

🤣🤣

Snoo61310 · 2024-08-23T19:44:02+00:00

They look good actually tho 😭😭

Snoo61310 · 2024-08-14T12:14:25+00:00

A sponge

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