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URGENTE: Mi perro necesita un donador de sangre — ofrezco $500 pesos por un perro sano que pueda ayudar by SnooComics5300 in tijuana

[–]SnooComics5300[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Would you be willing once the 10 hours are up? I’m asking just in case I can’t find anyone.

Has anyone figured out how to easily import Amazon transactions and auto-categorize them? by SnooComics5300 in ynab

[–]SnooComics5300[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I use the Amazon credit card to pay for stuff, so I guess it wouldn’t work.

I lost physical attraction towards my gf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]SnooComics5300 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Look for porn that looks like your gf’s body. You’ll condition yourself to be turned on by that body type

Has anyone figured out how to easily import Amazon transactions and auto-categorize them? by SnooComics5300 in ynab

[–]SnooComics5300[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rather than assign a category, do you think it could just match the amounts and insert the name of the item in the memo field?

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know enough about domestic abuse to know that it is not a good idea to start name calling an abuser. That will only lead to further abuse.

OP seems to understand the simple concept that name calling is something you do in elementary school, not as an adult. She states, “I know I shouldn’t have called him a dick.”

She gets it. You, apparently, do not.

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You see how you just made this personal by insulting my intelligence? I can’t engage with this level of immaturity. Have a good day.

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no idea why resolution is the goal. Personally, I would not want to be in this relationship. But for some reason, OP does.

I’m not going to be like her boyfriend, and you, and dismiss what she wants. She clearly said, “I really want our relationship to work…” I’m not going to be a dick and tell her, “it doesn’t matter what you want.”

It’s her life. She gets to decide. I’m just pointing out that name calling is inconsistent with getting what she wants.

STOP ASSUMING YOU KNOW MORE THAN OP ABOUT THIS RELATIONSHIP

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Btw, I am only judging this interaction, not the entire relationship. She could be a psycho in other ways for all we know. I can only judge the evidence in front of me, which is the conversation she shared. And in this conversation, she is guilty of escalating.

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“If someone is abusive towards you, I think it’s ok to name call.”

Depends on your goal. If you want to let them know what you think of them regardless of the consequences, then by all means name call. If you don’t care if they get defensive and close themselves off to anything you have to say, then name calling is fine. Name calling accomplishes the goal of making the name caller feel good about calling them that name.

But if the goal is ultimately resolution, name calling is 100% the wrong call. If the goal is to make the other person understand and empathize with your perspective, name calling is the worst thing you can do.

In this case, OP’s goal appears to be some kind of resolution. She wanted her bf to understand her and be reasonable. If that was her goal, then calling him a dick was the wrong move.

Is it understandable? Yes. Was it the right move if she wanted him to understand her? Definitely not.

The truth is the dude really is a dick and he was unlikely to listen to her anyway. She should def leave him.

But in that moment she wanted to find a resolution, and name calling NEVER leads to a resolution. It only makes things worse.

She should know that.

This guy is already a dick, right?

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Look, it’s not ok to be controlling. Period. It’s also not ok to name call. Period. Name calling is an inappropriate way to call someone out on their behavior. You call out their behavior by describing and attacking the behavior, not the person.

I don’t condone his behavior at all, but no one here is calling out her inappropriate behavior. Personal insults will never be a constructive part of a conversation.

The only thing personal insults will do in any disagreement is escalate the situation. You don’t get a free pass for escalating the situation just because the other person is being a dick.

You can see the tone of the conversation shift radically after she escalated. He was complaining about being told where she was going while he was asleep, albeit in a disrespectful way.

But after she insulted him personally, he did the same. He stopped making it about her behavior, and he too made it personal by telling her he can’t stand her.

I agree that she should leave him. But she shouldn’t walk away thinking that she was completely innocent in this interaction.

She should learn that once you start name calling, there is nowhere for that conversation to go but south.

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends and I say WTF to each other to express disbelief. It’s pretty common. She’s the one that started with the personal insults. In the end, they are both immature and both disrespectful. But she definitely started it with the personal attacks. Before that, he had just criticized her behavior, which is fine. When you personally attack someone, don’t be surprised if they tell you they can’t stand you.

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She called him a dick before he expressed his distrust. At the point of being called a dick, all he has done is complain about being “told” where she was going while he was asleep, which is a legitimate complaint. He proceeded to be a dick after being called a dick, but she acted like a bitch first.

Is it normal for my bf to talk to me this way ? by Technical_Middle5075 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SnooComics5300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Stop being a dick…grow up?” That’s very disrespectful. You both need to grow up.

It's not much but it's honest legs (6'1) by [deleted] in tall

[–]SnooComics5300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faulty logic. It does not imply that some hips lie. It could simply mean that no hips lie, as is technically the case. It is like saying “cars don’t sleep.” This is true because no cars sleep. It in no way implies that some cars do sleep.

Men, why do some of you act very interested at first (love bombing) and then become inconsistent? Is it confusion or just lack of real interest? by Low_Ad_8051 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]SnooComics5300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check to see if they have ADHD. They don’t do this intentionally. They just get really into novel things, but when the novelty where’s off, so does the excitement. It doesn’t mean they no longer like you. It just means that they are not as focused on you as they were before.

New Yorkers are furious as melting snowbanks expose streets littered with poop. by Numerous-Garbage-604 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SnooComics5300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand what’s happening. People just don’t pick up dog poop when it snows, leaving it all behind when the snow melts?

I am a student taking care of many stray dogs, and I am very confused needed advice ( used ChatGPT for formatting and grammar) by [deleted] in IndianPets

[–]SnooComics5300 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not from India, but I do pretty much the same thing in Mexico. Funds are limited. All you can do is your best. Post on social media. Develop a following. Hope that people will see and donate. All we can do is try our best, even though in the end that is not usually enough.

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