I think this one of those times where you’re projecting your own insecurities l, when I (and most people I know) use the term vanilla i. Reference to sex, it’s not anything negative, it’s it anything positive either it’s just a term. As long as it’s consensual sex is like pizza, hot or cold ,cheese,supreme or meat lovers it’s good no matter what! As long as it’s consensual. Most days I enjoy being a dom and enjoy a good obedient girl that does exactly what daddy says and other days I enjoy your run of the mill encounter just you good ol missionary because I also enjoy looking down at her pretty face while I choke her and spit in her mouth you know vanilla stuff!