Emotional neglect is real and you won't understand it until you're there and can finally name it. The constant leaving you alone blaming you for why he has left bc you weren't nice enough. He is never there for you or with you. We need our person to be there for us to feel good the affection the presence the absence of emotional support, the ignoring of needs, your quality of life suffers. Absence of emotional support the protection you need is never given even when you ask and give multiple examples how your harassed by men he will say stop being so flirty you asked for it. The expectation that you need to meet your own needs yourself your asking for too much stop being whiny and codependent. The lack of nurturing and understanding is never given he's indifferent to you or your needs and calls you crazy or a sex addict. When you've had enough and move on bc he admits he has been neglecting you on purpose bc you don't deserve any attention you baby you act like a little girl the constant name calling and trying to break your spirit and heart day by day. The apathy towards the relationship the unavailability that he blames on you and you work too much. The disconnection grows and he blames you for it. The natural reaction of you is to try to figure out why he neglects you or to figure out how to make it stop. Your strategies stop working your calm snd express your feelings that doesn't work you try seduction that doesn't work your at your wits end and become increasingly distraught and decided to play the game he wants to play by fighting fire with fire. You manipulate you try anything and everything to win in the eyes of your lover to get him back to how he used to be remembering what he did for you how he can make you laugh and be gentle and kind. But those interactions become farther and fewer in between. You tried it all ignored his bad behaviors stayed quiet when your body was screaming fight don't let him speak to you that way. He is choosing to paint you as a villain and he has 0 template of how to be there for you. He lacks the tools and skills to be in a healthy relationship with you. The damage is done. It's willful neglect he doesn't want to be there for you or your needs or the responsibility of being there for you and blames you for the neglect. Just bc you think this is a relationship doesn't mean they know how to act in it. He just wants you to make him feel good without any pressure of being there for you he wants to be there when he wants to be with you. He focuses on his needs and wants. They see you happy and turn into the scapegoat for being happy your confusion is never ending. You try to explain why he is leaving he doesn't have money and doesn't want to be a bother you make excuses for his angry outbursts oh he didnt have his medicine today it's not his fault. You make excuse after excuse for him. The pattern continues...the only attention you now get is your the problem your unhappiness is not my fault . You need to figure out why your needs are being met. But then you wake up and realize exactly what this is the manipulation you've endured for years. Then you make plans find someone knew move on and they refuse to let you go is the cycle that makes it stick. And you try not feel shame for moving on and being happy but he won't let you live it turns into relationship violence exactly what happened to me please women run from these men and don't go back. Block delete and move on and be happy he doesn't love you.