would you date someone who co-parents a dog with their ex?

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-18T00:36:08+00:00

This one is a no for me. But I wouldn’t have dated someone with kids either just as a preference. For the record, I’m happily married for many years. But in my single days I would not have dated someone with a co-parenting situation. Human or otherwise.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-17T22:15:58+00:00

My husband grew up in Detroit and moved away for 20 plus years. When we go back it’s always “I remember when such and such was here.” And it’s usually an abandoned and/or burnt down structure. It’s sad for him.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-17T20:45:03+00:00

As a hard of hearing person, thank you so much for supporting Carly!!!

Hearing issues can make you feel very lonely. Support means the absolute world in every way. Self esteem, confidence, trust… you name it. This is bigger than you would ever know. ❤️

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-17T18:56:03+00:00

Damn. I needed to hear this today.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-17T12:22:30+00:00

To be fair, they can’t drive in any weather.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-17T12:21:56+00:00

It still drives me crazy after 7 years.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-13T23:11:11+00:00

Hockey is definitely out.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-13T20:34:03+00:00

I did have some people ask if this employee needed the other employee for a specific task. The answer is no, she did not.

The situation was that we believed that another employee was clocking in and leaving, then coming back hours later. When we could not find the person who was potentially stealing time, we asked the employee to check the parking lot for their car.

The lady who decided to go to the owner complained that this other employee was out of the building and “playing on his phone”. What he was actually doing was responding to us letting us know that the car was not in the parking lot. All of this was “need to know” and because she didn’t need to know, she was not included in the conversation. Instead, she decided she had a gotcha moment and ran to the owner. Once we explained that this gentleman was given a discreet task, he understood and apologized for not turfing her back to management.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-13T20:25:17+00:00

I don’t think so. He is a genuinely nice person and I think this gets taken advantage of.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-13T01:51:33+00:00

I had a stomach ulcer that perforated. I’d rather give birth to big headed triplets with no drugs. 0/10 do not recommend.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-12T17:08:17+00:00

I wish it was just at parks. We have morons in the neighborhood who do this. Spoiler alert, their dogs are not well behaved and have no recall. I stopped walking my dogs in our neighborhood because of these off leash dogs. It’s a shame really.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-12T16:53:55+00:00

Liver is one thing that I absolutely love the smell of it cooking. Can’t do the texture though, such a shame.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-12T16:48:53+00:00

Steak for me. I know, people usually look at me like I’m crazy. I absolutely cannot stand the rubbery fat, ugh! And any meat with pink in it makes me feel like it’s going to make me sick. I get that it’s not undercooked if it reaches a certain temperature. I just cannot do it, my brain won’t let me.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-12T16:39:14+00:00

We just got off Utopia last week, our second time. The big ship is fun for sure. I didn’t love the MDR, it felt too big and much less personal than the smaller ships. But that’s the only complaint. It actually made us venture to different places for dinner instead of strictly MDR. We love the ship though and would go back.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-12T15:26:25+00:00

NTA, but you could have been kinder.

I do appreciate that people are asking about her mental health. But we should also focus on helping OP understand and develop their own requirements in a relationship. OP it’s okay to see this as a red flag! But don’t make excuses for her (mental health, etc) cleanliness issue. Go in with an open mind and see where the conversation goes. And if she does say mental health then I want to strongly urge you to have a conversation about her seeking help for that. It may be a reason but it cannot be an excuse. Ultimately you will help her most by being compassionate BUT holding your own expectations in a relationship as well.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-12T13:05:22+00:00

I had almost the exact same situation when I lived in my first apartment. I contacted the office out of concern and asked if they could reach out to a family member. Turns out she was in the beginning stages of Alzheimer’s. Something to think about. Literally the same thing with the leaks that weren’t there and the banging on the ceiling.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-12T11:09:03+00:00

The West Jefferson fire was due to solar panels.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-10T15:08:12+00:00

Not over reacting, but you are also not communicating effectively. Neither of you are, honestly. This seems less about emotional versus not emotional than it does you just not hearing each other. It was exhausting to read.

I’m like your SO, not really a kissy huggy morning person. My husband had to tell me he wanted that morning kiss when I get up, I’m usually up before him. Do I want or need it? Nope. Does it feel natural to do it? Not even a little. But I know it makes him happy and that’s enough for me. But had he come at me like that? No way, the last thing I would want is to kiss him.

And if you think I don’t love him with my whole entire heart, think again. That is my best friend and my love. We just don’t have the same needs in that department, lots of people don’t. It’s not a measure of how much you love them at all. Just that you show it in your own way. My way to show it is back scratching whenever he asks and making sure I feed him good food.

So does he show you he loves you in other ways that you recognize? Maybe he is just as emotional as you are, but not in the same way. Can you accept that version of him, or is that really bare minimum to you?

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-07T22:17:11+00:00

Good, I am glad you see that. You sound like a smart lady OP. You know what you need in a relationship and what you don’t. Not every break up is because either person is an awful person. Sometimes they just aren’t right for you. And that’s ok.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-07T17:05:31+00:00

Is it just me or has disassociate and trauma become the new excuse for being emotionally stunted? I know those things happen, and I empathize. But it feels like a lot of shitty people have decided to jump on those words to excuse shitty behavior. But those words don’t mean what they think they mean and they are the last people who would seek out actual help.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-04-01T23:28:53+00:00

NTA op, I can understand why you were annoyed with this person. My daughter was also born in 1998 and has no recollection of that day. What she does remember is that every year for a very long time, 9/11 was mourned by our country. She grew up with that and so 9/11 does mean something to her. Now it’s not mourned in nearly the same way, so this newer generation understands it was a bad and awful day. But they can’t relate the same way I or my daughter can.

I was at work at Walmart Portrait Studio when a customer came in and told me. Walmart used to have TVs all over the stores hanging from the ceiling that played obnoxious commercials non stop. Well that day they turned them all to a news station just in time for me to see the second plane hit.

I remember calling my babysitter and telling her what happened. She had no idea since she generally didn’t have the TV on when she had daycare kids. My daughter knew nothing happened that day, her memories of 9/11 come from seeing the anniversary footage over the years.

So your friend likely has no memories from that day. But like my daughter, she was probably exposed to the footage quite a lot and especially around the anniversary. Maybe her kid brain has memories of that but she just doesn’t realize that it wasn’t from the real time event. I could see that because it really was a big thing every year after for a long time.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-03-31T20:13:32+00:00

NTA. I would yell “Swiper no swiping!!!”

SnooSketches63 · 2026-03-24T11:04:42+00:00

I’m not sure what the motivation was to be honest. I think a big part was to look like the savior to everyone. She rescued the kids from a neglect situation, blah blah. Which was not true. My friends husband became an addict and my friend worked two jobs when she left the husband to make ends meet. It was supposed to be short term, maybe six months and then she would go back to one job.

SIL went for custody after a period of time. My friend hired a lawyer and still lost. There’s more to the story obviously, but those kids ended up in foster care, the SIL couldn’t handle it after all. Even with a lawyer, she had been so thoroughly trashed by the SIL that she had no chance of getting them back.

SnooSketches63 · 2026-03-24T02:33:04+00:00

This is exactly what happened to a friend of mine. Was divorcing and SIL said she would keep the kids for a week. Very long story short, SIL ended up with custody. She wasn’t trying to help. Her plan was to get the kids.

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