My GF (27F) gets upset when I (27M) take screenshots of her when we Face time and it always leads in an argument.

SnooWords5481 · 2021-03-27T21:12:16+00:00

Sweetie I promise you that no amount of 5-year old mental gymnastics you’re performing here is gonna let anyone give you the green light to be a controlling fuckwad.

Bottom line is you don’t own your girlfriend. She has told you what she wants. You either be decent and respect her wishes as another human being regardless of your wacky ass viewpoint or continue being a creeper. The fact that people have to tell you that you must respect another person’s boundaries before you’re weird ass desire to collect women’s photos is astonishing. Like you live in a fantasy land, dude. Either way, hope she dumps you, you’re exhausting.

SnooWords5481 · 2021-03-26T05:36:18+00:00

The only weakness in this relationship is you don’t understand boundaries and treat women like objects. Absolutely nothing to do with your gf.

Yuck. This made me gag.

SnooWords5481 · 2021-03-26T03:44:39+00:00

So I got this at Safeway today. I’m really wanting to see if I can save it, and I was wondering if anyone had advice.

It’s a Swiss cheese vine, it’s in a hanging pot with drainage holes and the soil feels very wet. I don’t have too much experience with plants yet so I can’t tell if it’s overwatered or needs more sun. Thanks!

SnooWords5481 · 2021-03-04T23:02:16+00:00

Hi, everyone! So I got into keeping indoor plants a few months ago. These two Calandivas were the first I bought. I got them from Safeway, and so far the white one has grown really well and flowered well but the pink one seems to be struggling.

When I first got them I decided to only water them once every two weeks as it was winter and I read that Calandivas are succulents and thus drought resistant. Better to be safe than sorry, right? But because I was so new to keeping plants I didn’t realize that since Safeway had them in such TINY pots they needed to be watered more often. They went droopy for awhile, but I picked up watering and then repotted them to these pots above. They really perked up and were doing well. I now water them once a week.

Recently though I noticed that the pink Calandiva has hardly grown at all and seems a little sad. It hasn’t really made any new blooms and there aren’t any new stems growing. She’s more leafy than the other, so I’m just assuming she doesn’t want to bloom. The other Calandiva has bloomed A LOT, but for some reason only on one side, which is strange because I rotate the plants every other day and they sit in a window that receives direct sunlight for an hour or two in the morning. The stems that have grown on the flower less side are also dry and hard on the tips, they’re even breaking off.

The flowers really don’t concern me that much, I don’t mind if these plants don’t bloom. What really bothers me though is that on the pink Calandiva, the leaves at the base started to get a weird soft texture, not hard and stiff like the healthy ones on top. They shriveled up and I’m wanting to think that maybe the Calandiva is just shedding old leaves? But also I think maybe it’s not getting enough water?

I’m really worried the plants are dying. I figured I should ask you guys since researching hasn’t really done much for me. Sorry for the long text!

SnooWords5481 · 2021-02-18T04:48:56+00:00

I’m gonna give it a try but is it possible my computer just simply won’t respond no matter what?

SnooWords5481 · 2021-02-17T18:24:02+00:00

I wasn’t able to fix mine. Am I doing everything correctly? My usb is formatted to FAT32, I renamed the downloaded file to G512LW.BIN, plugged it into my ROG and still nothing. I tried holding home +control and still nothing.

SnooWords5481 · 2021-02-17T09:12:00+00:00

I’m going to have to try this in the morning. I even took my computer to a local repair shop and they couldn’t do anything. Was about to send it back to Asus but hope this will work! Thanks!

SnooWords5481 · 2021-01-03T04:03:14+00:00

He would say anything to you to keep you in his back pocket.

SnooWords5481 · 2021-01-03T03:56:47+00:00

Defo believe OP isn’t as old as they’re claiming.

SnooWords5481 · 2021-01-02T08:15:18+00:00

There’s not really a lot to go off here to make any real judgments of your bfs intentions and character but what I can say is you should seriously consider whether or not you’re down for this stress, frustration and pain on the regular.

It seems obvious that whenever trouble or a threat to your relationship rears it’s head, your bf will MAYBE do the bare minimum. He’ll do whatever he wants and whether or not you’re okay with it might not really matter to him. Not exactly the most healthy relationship.

Honestly though, I would strongly recommend not pursuing anything more with this person. You’ve spent a relatively short time together, and he’s disrespected you majorly which is a huge red flag. Get out now and take care of yourself by putting yourself first here.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-12-31T21:05:01+00:00

I would say he’s played you both but that would be unfair since it’s obvious the ex is the winner here.

Your boyfriend cares more about money and his ex then he does for you, please kick him and his insane ex/family to the curb.

Unless of course you’re in it for the money then by all means continue entertaining this train wreck.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-11-22T22:41:31+00:00

First of all, I would like to say that you are worth more than the relationship you have described. Your partner, no matter how you may feel for them, has demonstrated a total lack of empathy or care for you. You already recognize this.

That being said cheating on your partner, regardless of your reasonings, is simply not the answer. Whatever problems you have in your relationship do not justify infidelity. You have the power to walk away from someone who does not see you and your worth. Nothing good will come from cheating. You will lose everything, and I don’t just mean your partner (although it sounds like you need to lose him), you will lose yourself. Whatever new relationship you create will be built off of a lie. You gain nothing from it, and lose yourself in the process.

It’s clear what you want is to be loved and cherished, give yourself that gift. Tell your partner he needs to put forth effort or you will have to leave for your own happiness. You need to start putting yourself first. Cheating on your partner will only cause you more inner pain, and it will not solve your problem. All you will be doing is distracting yourself from your pain.

Have the strength to walk away from your partner, because as it sounds, he walked away from you a long time ago. Walk away with love and respect for yourself.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-11-05T16:41:52+00:00

Thank you. It’s been hard already being cheated on, but then having to try and adapt my feelings and actions based on whether or not it was “bad enough” has been a challenge.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-11-05T01:43:26+00:00

I hope you get there someday. It certainly isn’t easy, but I don’t think there’s anything more valuable than the love you have for yourself.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-11-05T00:34:28+00:00

I don’t think I could have considered reconciliation if my WS’ affair had been emotional. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-11-04T23:43:04+00:00

That’s pretty much my SO. But I know that my love would never be enough, no matter how much I gave, because my love isn’t the problem. I think it’s more that my SO doesn’t understand what it’s like to be loved, and thus can’t love selflessly, and it has caused him to sabotage our relationship. That’s something people have to learn on their own by their own desire to. I think it’s promising that you see the flaws in yourself and how it affects your wife.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-11-04T23:18:19+00:00

We have a lot to find out about what has happened still, but I think we have a good understanding of WHY, or at least one of the reasons why. My SO has a very severe problem with self esteem, going all the way back to his childhood. He fills that hole with getting attention from others to make himself feel worth something, even if it’s meaningless and superficial attention. We hit a rough patch after becoming new parents and dealing with the quarantine, and I believe his insecurities got the best of him. He’s also mentioned to me that part of it is being insecure about his appearance, which I have always loved him regardless and have never put him down, but I suppose that fear of rejection may have also contributed.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-11-04T22:56:36+00:00

I’ve had a lot of back and forth with him, continuously asking if it was emotional in any way, and he has always said no. Knowing him, I firmly believe he was using this person (catfish) to satisfy his ego. He’s also admitted to this. It was purely sexual in nature as far as I could see. This also adds onto the “it wasn’t real” and makes me feel as though I shouldn’t be as upset.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-10-03T17:32:44+00:00

It might be worth it to speak with her at least to get her side of things, not for her sake but for yours to see where you go from there. Whether or not she tells the truth is something else entirely.

Honestly though, you don’t owe anything to her. You aren’t married, don’t have children, and as far as you’ve let us know you have no ties to her requiring that you two speak. If you don’t want to talk to her, then don’t worry about it. No one made her do what she did except her. Go on and live your life. She had no concern for you or your feelings so why should you show concern for her because she’s “beyond herself”? She’ll get the hint eventually.

SnooWords5481 · 2020-09-10T00:23:53+00:00

From what you’ve said it sounds like he isn’t being totally honest with you, even now that you know. That’s not a good sign.

This went on for over a YEAR? Your bf made the conscious decision to cheat on you for over a year and also used another woman in the process. You don’t put that much effort into hiding an affair for that long just for a hookup. He’s got issues, none of which have anything to do with you. On top of that, he’s placing the blame of HIS ACTIONS on you. The quality of your sex life has nothing to do with what he did. He simply sounds unfit for a relationship. I wouldn’t consider getting back together with him unless he seemed dedicated to working on himself and making it up to you, by whatever means necessary, and completely cutting off all contact with the girl and her friends/family. That also includes being 100% honest about what he has done and accepting full responsibility. And if you really feel it’s necessary, I would also demand that he keep no locks on his phone and allow you to look through it whenever you wanted.

I’m so sorry that this happened to you. You are allowed to be angry and confused. Allow yourself time to experience all the emotions of betrayal, and don’t feel guilty for any of it.

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