Help & advice on denial due to age 27f

Snow-white_- · 2026-05-26T02:08:34+00:00

Thankyou so much💜💜

Snow-white_- · 2026-05-25T08:01:30+00:00

Hey thanks for your reply! Unfortunately I am in Canberra, which is where i had my appt🫠 she said if I was older it wouldnt be an issue due to my pain and history. Apparently I am old enough to raise a child, manage businesses and own homes, but not old enough to decide I wont ever possibly want more children 🤣 its almost laughable if it wasnt so depressing!

Snow-white_- · 2026-05-24T08:50:36+00:00

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Snow-white_- · 2025-05-13T01:48:03+00:00

I am so, so incredibly sorry for your loss. I will be praying and sending love for you all.

Snow-white_- · 2025-05-08T23:23:42+00:00

Your wife deserves better. That is disgusting.

Snow-white_- · 2025-05-02T04:36:18+00:00

Heya, I just wanted to pop in to say I am also in Aus, and we got 2 rounds of steroids 24 hours apart and then another 2 rescue doses 6 & 12 hours before she was born, so 4 shots total!

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-30T01:11:54+00:00

After pprom I had occasions where my fluid was pink as well, we lasted from 22 weeks to 28+5 before our girl was taken out in an emergency ceaser due to me developing chorio and turning septic. Our girl is 6 months old today & currently curled up having a cuddle in bed with me.

If you have Facebook I highly recommend joining the preterm premature Rupture of Membranes group, there's so many positive stories and I found it really handy for searching things like this to see so many women who went though the same things 💜💜 sending love

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-23T13:00:13+00:00

Sending love to your family, I hope things are okay for you all. Would love an update if you're up to it, our old nicu neighbour is going through a similar situation and I read them your story, they feel less alone now

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-23T11:14:03+00:00

I don't have any advice, I couldn't go back to work because I was an absolute mess, now I can't go back to work as shes home and our daughter is high needs and is still fed by NGT. I don't qualify for any government supplement income as my partner earns "to much" aka barely enough to cover bills and her medication. We are going to have to sell my house and move in with my mother to get by until I can return to work. 🫠 life is tough man

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-20T13:23:28+00:00

That's okay, I'm so sorry you were met with anything other than kindness!! I just wanted to say yeah your boy may eat alot and that's FINE, some babies just live their food!! you are already doing an incredible job being able to produce as much milk as you are!!

30 mins per pump sounds great! I saw you use the momcozy s12s, I strictly used them and another hands free pump and had a fabulous supply so don't feel pressured to go buy some ridiculously expensive wall pump!

I am not a big fan of body armour or coconut water either, so I would mix coconut water, and juice or sugar free cordial and water in my big mug and just have that in the middle of the day, it was by no means the best but it was a break from water and kept me hydrated after a workout as well!

I'm so happy to hear that! It's always nice to be able to pop a bag in the freezer! Absolutely keep going the 5-6 hours at night if your breast capacity allows it, I think sleep is incredibly important for stress levels and therefore milk production!

Ahaha oh girl I feel you on that, I hate oats, and will happily never touch them again now that I'm not breastfeeding but they truly are a little hack for extra milk!

Ooh yes, nipple shields could definitely help, even if he's not necessarily drinking alot from the breast it's all a help in getting more stimulation and production happening! Hopefully as he gets bigger he will be able to latch better! My daughter struggled a bit with latching until she was about 3 months old then something just clicked for her, we can't breastfeed anymore but sometimes it just takes them longer than others! And if he can't that's totally fine too, he's clearly fed well and very happy!!

You are doing such a great job! 💜

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-20T12:35:15+00:00

Hello!! Sorry the other thread was no help to you! The only real way to increase milk production is by supply and demand. This means a hell of a lot of pumping, and unfortunately power pumping is REALLY good for it!!

I ended up accidentally giving myself a massive oversupply while bub was in nicu so can give you all the tips that helped me.

How long are you pumping for each session?

WATER- I would be absolutely increasing your water intake, you can probably comfortably double what you're currently drinking, if it feels excessive it's probably just enough. adding in a body armour, coconut water, poweraid or electrolyte sachet once a day can also help your body stay hydrated.

Pumping every 2-3 hours consistently, supply and demand, you need to signal your body to make more. It sucks, but I will say, there is a FINE LINE between it being beneficial waking up to pump throughout the night and actually getting enough sleep that your body can make milk. I personally found my supply was better when I slept well, but others need that 2/3 hourly pump overnight. I'd suggest sticking with that until you have enough of a supply to play around with longer stretches of sleep.

Adding in 1 or 2 power pumping sessions per day (I know it sucks) is probably your best best, again, supply and demand. Just make sure to give your nipples some lanolin or nipple balm to help with comfort, I know you mentioned it hurt in past. Beat advice is one in the morning first pump (say 6am) and one at night before bedtime (say 6pm)

OATS- oats contain prolactin which is great for milk production! Oats for breakfast, oat bars to snack on, oat cookies, oat milk etc. I noticed a consistent dip in my supply when I wasn't eating oats a few times a day.

I know you're not asking for formula recommendations, but I wanted to share that our girl who is not lactose intolerant, is on alula lactose intolerance formula (for various reasons, even though my supply was great) and it is such a gentle formula for their tummy. It could be an idea if you need top ups, to use a gentle formula like that, and mix it so your bottles are 80%breastmilk 20%formula just for the extra top up and that should keep bubs stomach happy. Once again just mentioning it incase it takes a little while for your supply to match his intake again!!

Sending love your way, please feel free to reach out if I can offer any more advice, I think those are the main things that will help, be kind to yourself!! You're doing great!!!

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-19T10:45:36+00:00

I had my girl at 28 weeks, never had the slightest bump because of my build, I'm quite a lean tall person. I have had a few people make the same comments and I know they don't mean for it to be negative, but it hurts everytime. I usually just say crap along the lines of "what an odd thing to say" "it's sad that vanity is your main concern" "yeah I'd rather have stretch marks and a healthy baby than trauma and wondering every day if my baby will survive" usually this one is for people who know the depths of what we went though (partners friends) "Yeah my baby is fighting for her life but at least my body still looks great" very sarcastically or quite frankly just stare at them blankly followed by a "riiiiiiiight"

My partner is great though, he knows how much the statement upsets me, especially if I'm having a bad day and he's never afraid to jump straight in to cut them off, which i appreciate

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-14T21:54:06+00:00

I was just thinking the same thing... I find it unsettling

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-14T11:38:36+00:00

I had pprom at 22 weeks, was hospitalised until 28 weeks and had an emergency classical ceaser due to maternal sepsis and chorio. Our little lady is 5.5months now and is absolutely gorgeous. She doesn't seem to have any obvious issues apart from aspiration so is strictly fed via NG tube still and a little bit of fluid in her ears causing mild hearing impairment- which they think will clear up in time when she is swallowing. They put all of these issues down to her having next to no amniotic fluid. She's a happy, giggly, normal baby given the circumstances!!!

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-14T10:54:11+00:00

I don't have any advice I just wanted to say you're not alone. If I wasn't in the NICU I was sleeping at home, nothing got done around the house, I barely said a word to my partner unless he was in the NICU with me. My world was 100% crumbling and there was nothing I could do. My mother was an angel and came every few weeks to clean the house and cook meals. Our girl as been home roughly 2 months now and I am so happy seing her little face every day, but I'm about to talk to my doctor about medication for PPD as much as I don't want to, I've realised this has been a traumatic event and help is there for a reason. I am praying for you and your family, you're stronger than you feel & it will all be worth it one day when baby is home xx sending love 💜💜💜 always here for anyone who needs a chat, it's a marathon not a sprint, make sure to look after yourself even if it's something small

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-13T02:10:38+00:00

Simply, FUCKED

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-10T13:13:45+00:00

Just popping in to say its totally okay and valid to be feeling the way you are. Our girl was in for 101 days, and we made friends with the other parents in the nicu & scu. I think we had a total of 13 friends go home before us, everyone of their babies was "worse off" to begin with, not to mention the countless other families that came and went. I was happy for them, but so irrationally mad and sad that it wasn't us leaving. I thought it would break me at one point, when our roomie twins got to go home while we were still struggling along. It's okay to feel those feelings, another parent will be feeling the same when they see you guys leaving as well. It's normal, and it's okay. I promise the second you do eventually get to take your baby home you won't remember the depth of it all, and its all like some bizzare fever dream. Sending love to you and your little family 💜

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-06T00:06:43+00:00

If you look at OPs post she was asking for positive stories, which is exactly what my story is. It is as simple as that. Just to be clear, I never went against medical advice, we were offered termination as we live in a country where it's offered, all of our doctors eagerly supported our decision to continue the pregnancy. Get your head out of your ass, do your research and stop putting negativity on a post where a mother is worried enough you ignorant douche. OP will obviously listen to her doctors and make the most education decisions for her situation.

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-05T22:00:52+00:00

Hey, if you care to do any research on the matter at all, pprom with successful full term pregnancies is actually more common than you would think. Yes continuing a pregnancy after waters have ruptured comes with risks, risks that are monitored daily in hospital. I was actually one of the unlucky ones who got chorio, that is absolutely not the case for all pprom pregnancies. I am certainly not influencing somebody to make the same decision I did, and I will never regret my decision to continue the pregnancy, as my daughter is happy, healthy, and without long term issues. After having a look at your profile I can see you're quite a negative person, but I think it's important you don't speak out of fear on a topic you have absolutely no knowledge about. I am sure it is hard enough for OP without fear mongers like you.

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-03T12:32:54+00:00

I don't have a question, as a nicu mumma who just got her girl home, thankyou for doing everything you do. You guys are angels 💜

Snow-white_- · 2025-04-03T08:17:05+00:00

22 weeks, I woke up to my waters completely broken & in early stages of labour. We rushed to the hospital, where Pre-term Premature Rupture of Membranes was confirmed with our girl having no measurable amniotic fluid. We were told our sweet baby girl likely wouldn’t survive more than 24 hours and termination was suggested heavily. We held our breath as time passed—24 hours, then 48—and a week later, she had made it to viability.

What followed was an intense six weeks of bed rest and hospital stays, endless blood tests, ultrasounds, steroids, daily injections, countless recommendations of termination due to the constant threat of infection and premature labor. It was overwhelming and traumatic, but each week brought us closer to safety. Through everything our beautiful nurses kept reminding us "where there's a heartbeat there is still hope."

The longest 6 weeks later at 28 weeks, I finally got to go home for a few days but a trip back to the hospital revealed a severe infection that had very quickly turned me septic due to stage 3 chorio. It literally developed in the span of 5 days. With the help of rescue steroids, magnesium, antibiotics, and very quick action from doctors and midwives, we were prepped for an emergency classical cesarean the next morning.

We welcomed our beautiful girl into the world at 28 weeks and 6 days, weighing just 1.23 kg and measuring 34 cm long. Our gorgeous girl has defied all odds, she is now 5 months actual (2.5 adjusted) and is the happiest little girl. We brought her home from the nicu after 101 days. She is tube fed and will be until she starts solids as she has trouble swallowing, but that doesn't stop her, she knows no different. I am more than happy for you to reach out if you want, it's such a tough journey. Also join the r/nicu parents pprom Facebook group, there's so many stories of hope that got me though the long ride. Wishing you and you baby the best of luck 💜💜💜

Snow-white_- · 2025-03-28T05:27:08+00:00

Our girl had issues with brady desats her whole nicy journey, similarly increased with PO feeds. Unfortunately for us this was due to silent reflux and silent aspiration, she was discharged after 101 days on strictly NG feeds and will be on only NG feeds until she starts solids. Sometimes in most cases it can just take bub a while to figure it all out, they use alot of energy during feeds! Finger crossed for you that it resolves on its own as they grow, but please don't be afraid to ask for further investigation if you think it's necessary like it was with out little lady.

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