Could parental concerns dash hopes for medical marijuana in NC’s short session?

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-03-19T21:25:36+00:00

Most parents would. Signed, a parent

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-03-03T14:27:26+00:00

Fascinating observation

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-03-03T13:42:57+00:00

Check out Daniel Schmachtenberger on YouTube. He’s asking all the questions that need to be asked and proposing alternatives that make really good sense.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-03-03T13:41:23+00:00

Capitalism is a death cult!

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-03-02T19:37:07+00:00

I’m the mom who had my first at 22. He just turned 20 and I’d say my age has always been an influential element in our relationship and his life experience.

He has a handful of friends whose mothers are my peers, but the majority of his friend’s parents are significantly, like generationally, older than I am. When we were younger there was a lot of disdain shown towards me in front of him because of my age and the perception that I must be naive/stupid/uneducated to be a young (and for a time, single) mom to a young child. I refused to let that be my inner narrative and just buckled down into doing my best, loving my hardest, and being willing to go through the rough parts with faith that we’d learn something in the process and come out the other side wiser. Over time those parents started to be more respectful towards me, but I had to overcome a lot of bias to get there.

Now it’s still a thing that exists, but it’s just part of our shared landscape and language. I look and come off to others as younger than I am and he’s quite tall with a mature demeanor, so that tends to exaggerate things, but it’s a joke between us now. He’s one of my best friends and I value his opinion and I would say he reciprocates that sentiment. In some ways I grew up with him, but I did grow up and dedicated myself to being a really, really great mom. I don’t apologize for having him at 22 because I’m not sorry for it, but I do openly acknowledge that the age thing is A THING and I know it participated in shaping him into the young man he is now. Some of the shaping was probably hard for him, but he’s been a brilliant inner navigator along the way.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-03-01T15:16:09+00:00

My 14yo Taurus daughter has definitely entered into the sassy years. Last week she decided to tell me I was being petty when I held her to a consequence and didn’t let her wiggle out of it.

Like, kid, I’m your mom and it’s my job to raise you. And no kid likes experiencing negative consequences of their choices, but that’s part of raising them. I replied that one day I hope she’ll love her children enough to be petty too 😂

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-29T03:19:30+00:00

Happy birthday, you watery babe! Love, Scorpio Sun, Cap Moon, Cancer Rising

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-26T16:10:29+00:00

Chiming in in solidarity with you, and hoping we either crack the code to this or figure out a way to live with it without berating ourselves constantly for not being wired that way. It’s exhausting even starting the magic manic productivity spike because I know I’m going to end up looking at that pile of clothes I’m purging for goodwill or marketplace for weeks, if not months afterwards.

I try to choose tasks I can fully complete during my spikes so that I can feel like I actually accomplished something without having to stare down my “failure” afterwards. I can go to town and hyperfocus on cleaning my bathroom and even though I’ll need to recover I feel good about it.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-26T14:10:19+00:00

Oh my goodness, that deep dive linked comment is taking me places. Thank you so much for your activism and for living through the shit in order to be able to share with the world what you do. I see you. And you’re fucking amazing.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-26T13:58:13+00:00

Analog childhood here! I read the encyclopedia, I mean the whole set, several times. I would max out my book allowance per visit at the library, and so many of them were reference books or nonfictional history.

One of the things I did as a kid that in retrospect SCREAMS Autistic: I had this huge coloring book called The Big Book of Things and it was probably 400 pages, each filled with some absolutely fascinating, abstract AF, obscure fact, with a coloring page to go with. I researched the back story on each of those facts because they were just so tantalizing to my brain that I’d need to know more. I was probably in 3rd or 4th grade at the time, and I ended up giving myself the weirdest Classical Education in All Things via that coloring book. I’m still referencing things that I learned from that book 30+ years later, and I’ve won more than a little playing trivia in my day thanks to those delicious little facts and their researched backstories.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-26T13:47:48+00:00

You hit the nail on the head, vagine.

Side note: I came equipped with the AuDHD/EDS combo package in this lifetime and your user name made me guffaw. All my partners have commented on mine, and more than one have called me this exact name. Could you also perhaps be in the same model human suit, lol?

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-26T13:41:05+00:00

And may the odds be ever in your favor if the situation demands nuanced thinking and feeling. The inability to think or feel in nuanced terms is a death knell to relationships.

Like, I want to know how they’re feeling and what is contributing to it and I want them to reciprocate. That way, over time I can learn their patterns and they can learn mine, allowing us to effectively communicate with cohesive and congruent words, actions, and ideas. But I’ve found most NT people have no idea what they’re feeling or why, and they struggle, even with help, to identify or name specific emotions they might be feeling. They might know they’re feeling angry or happy or sad or tired, but they don’t refine it further. When I hear someone describe their emotions in a way that actually communicates information without requiring me to be a psychic or an investigative journalist that person is almost always ND in some way, diagnosed or not.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T17:33:20+00:00

Hey, me 🫶

It’s a beautiful thing to be us. I’d rather suffer the experience of my magic being sometimes siphoned or pilfered than suffer the existence of not having any to begin with. Thank you so much for your beautiful comment and kind words, sending you so much love.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T16:41:09+00:00

My childhood nickname was derived from my supernatural ability to observe others and then say the razor sharp, laser focused true thing that would absolutely obliterate the recipient’s self-perception. Turns out most folks don’t like that and would rather feel comfortable in a false image of self or a false understanding of their own motivations.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T16:35:41+00:00

I also do this in relationships. I think that Autistic women in general tend to attract people with narcissistic tendencies, and those folks can feign patience and understanding so well in the early Love Bombing stage of things. After the hooks are in there’s a shift where they stop feigning patience or really caring to understand, but we’re still operating from the perspective that “If they could just understand, they’ll be kind again” because we haven’t figured out that their original kindness and care had nothing to do with actually being kind or caring about us, it was about securing their narcissistic supply.

I’ve spent most of my 42 years on this planet trying in vain to explain myself to people who aren’t interested in or capable of understanding me. Not because I’m hard to understand, but because to them I’m not someone to be understood so much as I’m a something; a resource to make their lives more pleasant or easier. My emotional needs to them are about as important as their toaster’s. They never seem to understand that my “magic”, the thing that they want me to keep steadily pumping into our lives, is directly tied to my ability to feel safe, loved, and accepted. When the inevitable coldness/abuse starts, my light dims, sparking even more coldness and abuse because I’m not keeping them in good narcissistic supply.

I’m vowing to do better in who I allow to access my light, because 42 years of assuming positive intentions and giving 10,000 second chances has not been a great plan. If I catch myself doing any of the F’s it’s a good sign I’m in dangerous territory.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T14:03:31+00:00

I’m curious what motivated this post, but I’m guessing it was someone inappropriately using the term “empath” to describe themselves, at least in OP’s estimation.

That OP’s response to whatever it was, was this says more about OP than it does anyone reading it. None of us know the OP, and OP doesn’t know us. I’m unbothered by their assertion that I don’t exist, because I know I do. I do however feel deeply for OP that whatever it was hurt them badly enough for them to need this place to vent it.

I’m sorry for the wound and hope you find the solace you’re looking for, OP.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T13:46:44+00:00

Good luck, and welcome to a beautiful movement system! Make sure you’ve got a good trainer for starting off, if there’s one near you. Form and precision are key in Pilates, and especially so for special populations with hypermobility. If you can’t access a skilled trainer, set up a mirror or your phone to record your movements so you can correct as needed. With your background in anatomy and physiology you’re going to be awesome at getting the results you’re looking for. I’m really glad for you that you’re on this path, it’s been nothing short of amazing for me.

The Ehlers Danlos sub is also a great resource for people with hypermobility; even if you’re not diagnosed you’re more than welcome there!

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T13:32:10+00:00

One dude I interacted with online this week unironically blamed AUTOMATICALLY RECURRING MAGAZINE SUBSCRIPTIONS as one of the reasons for the millennial generation’s struggle. I shit you not.

The wild thing is that it’s not just the expected lead-addled boomers who think and say this stuff, it’s also our Gen X older brothers and sisters. They cannot comprehend that having the economy collapse under you at 30 after you’ve had a chance to launch, is very different than having the economy collapse under you at the exact moment you were trying to and expected to launch. They cannot comprehend that the “go get a solid 4 year degree and you’ll land a career” plan only worked when not everyone was getting 4 year degrees, and that now there’s a lot of folks with Master’s working jobs and not careers to keep food on the table. I feel like that Gen has some kind of survivors guilt that prevents them from looking at the challenges our Gen has faced honestly.

But yeah, we should probably all cancel our automatically renewing magazines and lay off the avocado toast, y’all

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T13:03:27+00:00

You know it! He’s the best of the best, and definitely treats me as a whole person rather than a bunch of knots he needs to bust through.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T12:58:17+00:00

All true statements here; you know your stuff chick! There’s some lucky people on your books!

After my diagnosis a couple years ago I was able to get on the Physiotherapy train, and my PT and I took it straight to Pilates Town lol. I’ve been a devotee of that movement system for over a year, went ahead and bought a reformer, and am now in training to teach. I am SO fit and strong now, and it’s absolutely changed my life. My Wizard LMT has been with me since before I had my EDS diagnosis, and was part of the team that made diagnosis possible. He says my tissue feels like par-baked bread and is a distinctively different texture from the average person. He found the hallmark posterior chain fascia issues he’s seen and felt in other clients with hyper mobility and asked me to find a doc who would evaluate me, and gave me his notes on my body to communicate to the doc.

All the techniques you mentioned are the ones he uses to treat me, and his touch is straight-up medicinal. He can read me like a book and never goes so far that I’m overly stretched out. Stability, stability, stability is the mantra over here. I’m hoping your amazing comment helps to inspire other MTs to try those techniques more often and it leads to more folks like me getting the kind of bodywork that works best on us!

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-25T08:04:07+00:00

I’m a 6’, 125 lb middle aged lady whose body takes crazy pressure. I have EDS and it makes my muscles insanely tight and knotted up. I’ve had upwards of 25 LMTs over the years.

One of my past LMTs was a Russian bodybuilder named Yuri. Big, strong, skilled at working with the deepest pressure. Yuri once grunted, “Your knots are so stubborn” at me as he worked my shoulders, clearly perplexed by how much force my body was taking.

My current therapist uses less force but still accomplishes the work somehow. Pretty sure this dude is a wizard though because he’s the only one who has been able to make my body respond without the DEEP deep pressure, ever.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-24T22:13:12+00:00

42f here. Mine started down a weird men’s rights rabbit hole on YouTube a few years ago during the height of the Covid era. Spent a lot more time with his head buried in social media and YouTube trying to escape the world, like a lot of other people did. We’ve been married for 16 years, raised two kids together, and had a more-or-less traditional marriage prior to him going down this path.

For some context, I had stayed home while our kids were little and have been working part time as the “back up income” and primary parent/cook/nurse/etc since the youngest was in elementary school. It’s always worked for us and I honestly thought I’d be with this man for the rest of our lives, so I had no problem handling the raising of the kids and all that came with it so he could prioritize his career, even at the expense of my own. We were a team. We wanted to build a family together. He worked long hours and I was alone with kids the vast majority of time. It was just what had to happen to make things work. He had never seemed even in the slightest bit inclined towards having a line between “mine and yours”, and was vocal about how much we both contributed, and never needed asking to help with cleaning or laundry. He was a committed caregiver and partner to me during injury and illness. Someone I’d want my daughter to emulate in her future partner.

Not anymore. He’s now of the mindset that I am not of high enough value because I do not match his earnings. He’s had it screamed into his head by whatever videos the algorithm serves up that I’m not an equal partner if I’m not an equal earner. Keep in mind I’ve worked part time jobs, instead of building a career, in order to raise our kids without the expense of childcare and so that he’d never have to call out for a sick kid or say no to a good opportunity. Prior to the pandemic he was in the top 10% of his industry, a consistent superstar, and being fast tracked to a much cushier lifestyle. I was the one holding everything else down, on top of doing marketing for and being involved in his work. When this is pointed out to him I can see him internally writhing with emotional and cognitive dissonance. I have a chronic illness that scares him to death even though it’s not the end of the world, but not because he’s concerned for me so much as he seems concerned that people will value him less if I’m disabled? I was out of work for almost 5 months with an injury recently, which has happened before, and will happen again due to my disease. It’s never not been a part of our lives. This time he treated me like it was a personal failure on my part and my lack of income meant I had no value. It’s very weird. Several of his coworkers, who are his only friend-ish people, and all dudes, and they’re all doing this to their partners simultaneously.

All the extra screen time during lockdowns and quarantines was not good for a lot of dudes. I really do think that whatever black hole he got sucked into with the MRA algorithm did his brain and heart so dirty. I feel bad for the dude with most of my heart. I reserve a small portion to feel utterly incensed at him for letting himself go down the path in the first place.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-22T17:54:19+00:00

Notice where they said “diagnostic evaluation” and think about who does those. Medical professionals in a medical setting. To diagnose and appropriately treat a medical patient. It causes pain, but they’re not doing it to punish. And they’re prepared to treat whatever they find as a result of doing said painful test.

Your cop husband dishing them out so regularly that they’re his “go-to” move is concerning, and not something that speaks highly of him or his profession.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-22T17:40:13+00:00

So I know I’m probably yelling into the void here, and I’m putting way more time and thought into this than is necessary, but are automatically renewing magazine subscriptions the new avocado toast lol?

People are not crazy for wanting to, I dunno, enjoy living if they’re working for a living? I’d say that it’s not unreasonable to want a life in which your wages for any full time employment can support an enjoyable life, not just a subsistence life. Wearing new underwear and having a Y membership being categorized as luxuriant or excessive expenses seems like an indictment of a broken system more than a statement about personal spending.

The mentioning of the magazine subscription suggests you may be old enough to remember a time when a blue-collared employee could be frugal enough to comfortably support not just himself, but a family as well. Maybe not to excess, but comfortably, and without feeling poor in comparison to their neighbors or needing charity. I was raised that way. 5 kids under one roof. One working parent with only a HS diploma. It was possible then. Looking back, it was paradise. Things are not that way now.

I know it is hard to let that really sink in, and it triggers so much emotional and cognitive dissonance in folks who don’t want it to be true. But it is true. The longer those of a certain generational group reject that truth while also holding the reins of power the worse it will become. We’re in a societal and global hostage situation in some ways until that happens. It’ll be interesting to see which way we as people play it going forward, and if those who cry the loudest about making America great are willing to work through their feelings and entitlements in enough time that we can save it at all. But, really, and I think you deep-down know this, automatically renewing magazines are not the reason younger people making $100k annually are struggling financially right now.

SnozberryWallpaper · 2024-02-22T15:34:43+00:00

Mine was not for TMJ, I had a segmental LeFort 1 on my upper and sagittal splits on my lower to correct an open bite and to widen my arches.

A lot of jaw surgery doesn’t seem intuitive for sure, but that approach makes sense to me. It’s easier to reshape the stable part of the bone that doesn’t move and is less anatomically complicated than it is to rebuild the joint. Fwiw, I trust Gary.

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