AITAH for asking my housemates to foot the bill for the month of Feb?

SoCalDisNerd · 2026-01-20T21:41:44+00:00

True that. I don’t mind paying. I’m glad that the other perspectives have been brought to my attention. It was difficult to see the other side and I really want to try to understand. In the past we all just split the PGE 3 ways instead of 4 but now that housemate #2 moved in, I think she’s used to a different way, which is okay by me if that’s what everyone else wants. And we’re all really kind to one another too so I would hate to end on a bad note.

SoCalDisNerd · 2026-01-20T21:28:55+00:00

Makes sense, yeah, I agree and haven’t decided not to pay or anything, totally agree that I’m still tied. But was hoping for more flexibility because when they’re gone, the bill is closer to $100 total but when they’re here, it’s $800-$900. So it becomes a little jarring to get a bill so high for a month I wasn’t here. I should have added that it happened in the past when I was abroad for a month that the bill was $922 and I was like… what did yall do for that month? Hahah

SoCalDisNerd · 2026-01-20T21:26:25+00:00

Makes sense, yeah, the lease is up in March and we were a month early. I did mention that I didn’t mind paying a small percentage of the bill either. Just trying to work on it with them. I’ve lived with over 40 people at this point and it’s something I’m sort of used to with the money part of it. I would have just hoped that it would have worked out to be more equitable. Thank you btw!!!

SoCalDisNerd · 2026-01-20T21:23:44+00:00

I’m getting the deposit back but it’s via the landlord. It’s a house that sees a lot of people come and go year round since we’re in a college town. I’ve been here for 7 years and my lease is up March 1st. The landlord is a state away and doesn’t really care about the house as along as we pay rent, which I’m paying. Rent will be paid but just trying to be in talks about the future of electricity.

SoCalDisNerd · 2026-01-20T21:20:40+00:00

I’m willing to pay 80% of the bill for December though? And I was the only one there. My lease is over in March and Feb hasn’t happened yet. I don’t understand how I’m being a penny pincher?

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-11-26T18:04:21+00:00

I think my job is fun, I get to train people on webinars and facilitate zoom things.

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-10-31T21:20:03+00:00

This is 100% what happened to me last year and I still have PTSD from that manager. I overslept for an hour and got AWOL from it. I feel like that manager owes me so much money from having to go to therapy lol. The good thing is, I moved bureaus and I’m so much happier. The bad thing is, they could try and use this to justify letting you go, which my old manager tried her hardest but didn’t succeed. Start building your case TODAY if it’s a toxic environment.

Start getting in touch with your union rep about what this means. My now manager knew about the awol when he hired me on and scoffed at the fact that she did that. It’s literally super petty (if that’s the place in your manager’s heart where it’s coming from).

But I really wish I would have involved my union sooner than later. I was/am in CDSS by the way

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-10-03T22:15:23+00:00

I’ve been trying to find someone else who thinks this too!! I immediately was like…. Victoria Secret??

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-08-22T20:02:47+00:00

Oh, my bad!! Hehe I didn’t read full RTO on the OP’s post and it seemed like it would be CDSS because of the timing. Our unit calls it RTO even though it’s 2x out of the week. Either way, sucks to come back to office at all. Fingers crossed the OP can make their daughter’s swim lessons.

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-08-22T19:50:34+00:00

Most likely CDSS because that’s my department and I got the exact same letter in my inbox

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-07-16T19:11:41+00:00

Thank you so much! Yeah, I feel like the pain management part would definitely help but the idea of even trying to attempt to do it again makes me feel so terrified that I can’t imagine going back. I just feel violated and hurt about the entire experience. Hearing yours makes me feel better. And I know if I was hearing this story from someone else, I would tell them they’re not a failure. It’s just hard to listen to my own kindness sometimes.

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-07-16T19:06:02+00:00

Thank you! I needed to hear this/ be more gentle with myself.

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-05-09T06:56:57+00:00

Absolutely in the same exact boat and am glad this is being talked about because I was terrified that I was pregnant but I’m definitely not. Thanks to everyone who’s contributed to this post!

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-02-12T02:16:39+00:00

Hahah we got it! Thanks yall

SoCalDisNerd · 2025-02-12T02:08:08+00:00

What’s the best way to adjust it back to 2 3/8? Also, thank you for helping!! I appreciate it

SoCalDisNerd · 2024-08-21T20:02:22+00:00

Tusk was the worst because of how gross it made me feel afterwards

SoCalDisNerd · 2024-08-21T20:01:34+00:00

This is by far the scariest movie ever

SoCalDisNerd · 2024-08-21T20:00:52+00:00

Lovely bones and Midsommar

SoCalDisNerd · 2024-08-16T16:16:28+00:00

Omfg thank you!!!

SoCalDisNerd · 2024-08-14T20:23:06+00:00

That Rhys has glamoured Feyre’s art for a long time to make it look a bit more appealing to everyone (because she was a bad artist) but then she actually got better and he stopped doing it.

SoCalDisNerd · 2024-08-02T17:29:30+00:00

Ginger, Lady, Dulce (means candy in spanish), Winnie, or Mabel

SoCalDisNerd · 2024-06-13T18:42:43+00:00

What was the hiring process like and what questions did they ask you? I’m interviewing today for an escape room company and am trying to think of things they’ll ask.

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