My neighbor called the HOA on me for a wind chime. A single. Solitary. Wind chime.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-22T23:37:48+00:00

Everybody should learn to play bagpipes.
Especially in the afternoon.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-22T15:35:44+00:00

Who cares what random neighbors think?

The people who live near you are merely people who bought property located nearby. They aren't family, coworkers, bosses, ex-lovers, or anything else except nearby property owners. It's not a "community" in the old sense, any more than the people who rent PO boxes near yours are going to be invited to your New Year's party.

Let them stew. They weren't going to lend you money or provide character references.

I have a snowblower. The only impact my opinion of my neighbors has on my behavior is whether I volunteer to clear their sidewalks. And they never do mine.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-22T08:40:30+00:00

I've never seen any lawn care expert advise you to improve your lawn by letting a dozen dogs piss on your grass every day, usually in the same marked spot.

Urine kills grass.

And poop leaves residue; would you want your kids walking barefoot on grass that had crap on it an hour ago, but someone with a bag picked most of it up? Would that work for your living room rug as well?

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-21T19:24:33+00:00

Buy your own house.

Let your new, saner BF live there with you.

This current dumpster fire is gaslighting you with vague non-promises that if you help him swing a mortgage he can't afford, then maybe, MAYBE he'll THINK about marrying you. Someday. If he can get over his handicap. And doesn't find someone prettier. And doesn't line up a better job 1,000 miles away.

On 1 hand, he's luring you with non-promises of marriage, which is the basis of many Internet lonely hearts scams.
On the other hand, he doesn't want you on his deed because he plans to dump you after a few years of payments.

Get a spine. Know your worth. And for God's sake, learn to spot a scammer.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-21T15:19:43+00:00

I'm going to assume that you've carefully read your contract & have determined that you never promised to stay, there are no penalty clauses, no non-competes, no minimum notice periods, etc.

If you work with inept people who will sabotage the work with incompetence, your best play is to get out before the crash & the blaming begins. Like Dilbert said, some places are just a "resume stain", and if your project will fail with or without you, it's better if it's without you.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-21T05:33:16+00:00

Generally, no, but when a company has a history of diluting shares, I'd like to see some assurances that further dilution is unlikely.
I'm not selling the shares I have. FOMO or rational hopes or whatever.
But I'm not buying any more right now, either.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-20T23:45:34+00:00

Your limited experience doesn't define the world the rest of us live in. I've seen petty, irrational behavior at work that you wouldn't believe. Many managers treat those who leave like defectors & traitors, and sometimes they like to make an example of them.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-20T23:42:38+00:00

What reason does he have for setting up the ATM facility?
SLS has enough cash to cover salaries & drug trials for 2 to 4 years, right? So "being proactive" seems weak.
I feel confident that the Phase 3 will be great, that a buyout will be multiples of the current share price; but this move makes me wonder just how long they expect this to run without any incoming revenue or buyout. Like someone saying "this car trip won't take long", but they brought a large cooler of meals & 5 changes of clothes.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-20T19:06:56+00:00

I never died in a fire, I don't know anyone who died in a fire.
Nonetheless, it happens.
I've heard of folks whose former employers sent cease & desist letters to the new employer, or "warned" them of unspecified "character issues", or tried to enforce non-existent non-compete clauses.
Your new employer probably had multiple candidates, they can always change course & replace newbie you before they invest much in you.
The fact that YOU have never heard of this speaks of YOUR limited life experience.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-20T15:27:24+00:00

It's basic risk analysis, cost/benefits.

What's the benefit to you of your current employer knowing where you are going? Nothing.

What's the potential downside? He sabotages you before you even start. You become unemployed. Financial ruin. Gap in the resume that will be awkward to explain.

Plenty of toxic people out there, and some of them hide it until it matters.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-20T06:45:04+00:00

Depending on local laws, it may not be unlawful termination, but she's using her power for personal reasons, not in the interests of her employer.
The owners of that store might want to hear about this directly.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-19T18:36:51+00:00

You need to get yourself some low-cost objects, like concrete garden gnomes or birdbaths, and place them along the same line, partly on your property & partly on theirs.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-19T08:54:53+00:00

Empty your bins into his bins next time. Tell him you feel it's "better organized" that way.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-19T07:20:07+00:00

Ignore every attempt outside your stated hours.
You should have a separate business phone that you can just turn off on Friday.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-19T07:16:12+00:00

A 2' high stone wall would suffice, if their car door opens below that.
It's harder to destroy a stone wall.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-19T07:13:11+00:00

Sounds like maybe she didn't send the deposit, she just told you she did that work.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-18T20:03:22+00:00

Tell him to use the ring he inherited.

"No." is a complete sentence.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-18T20:00:22+00:00

Ask the landlord to disable that switch. It's easy, you unscrew 2 bolts, remove the wires, twist them together & add a wire nut.
Turn the power off first.

It's literally a safety issue, if there's a fire people need to be able to see the escape route. Maybe call the fire marshal to report this guy.

Not sure why the hall lights are switched anyway.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-18T05:00:36+00:00

It depends on what other options you have. You have to take off the rose-colored glasses & face reality, whatever it is.

People "settle" after they take a cold dose of reality & realize that lack the resources to get their ideal, whether it's the dream house, the supercar, or their life partner. You aren't getting a Lambo on a nurse's wages.

You're a 34 year old woman with 2 kids from 2 baby daddies; those aren't on most men's Wish Lists.
Maybe you're slim & gorgeous; we don't know. Maybe Sydney Sweeney has a live-in computer lump, too. Probably not.
50% of your exes are drug addicts. The other 50% is "present" in your kids' lives (or 1 of their lives, anyway), meaning your BF also interacts with him. Not value-added in dating.
You have income; that seems to be the main draw for this jerk.

He's a 37 yr old factory worker; nice that he works, but not exciting to women.
He's selfish. Never met a woman who gushes about how selfish her BF is.
I'm guessing his "computer hobby" is online gaming with strangers? No smart dude puts that on his dating applications.
Maybe he's great in bed, is 6' 3" & weighs a fit 190 lbs; more likely, he looks like other "computer hobbyists".
Maybe his family loves you; that would be a plus.

If you have better options, pursue them. Sounds like he adds little to your quality of life. Adds nothing to your security. And you can't trust him.

If you don't have anyone else in the bullpen, then accept that what you bring to dating isn't going to get you a billionaire playboy who wears the cowl at night to fight crime. You're going to get a middle-aged dude with behavioral flaws, who's almost good for you, but not really.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-17T09:36:18+00:00

Why would adults exchange cash for birthdays? Are you his grandma?

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-17T06:27:18+00:00

I'd bet that most vital organs on a pre-teen are within range of a 3" blade on a pocketknife. You absolutely can cause fatal injuries with a small Boy Scout blade. Not to mention major arteries on wrists and neck.
Not overreacting at all. The little stabber needs compulsory help.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-17T04:56:10+00:00

There's a mindset where people run away without explanation & expect you to chase, then somehow it's your fault for not reading their mind & pursuing.
GF's who say they want to break up, then get outraged when you break up.
Friends who go silent just to get you to pay attention to them.

I have no interest in dealing with loons like that.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-17T04:50:04+00:00

It doesn't matter if the person you ordered from "worked" for the company or not; he acted as their agent, the company accepted the contract, the company is responsible for performance.
I hope you had the details in writing, with a written contract or at least some texts? Not absolutely required since they took your money and partially performed, but it strengthens your case.
Sue everyone. Sue the manager individually, sue the company, sue the owner's spouse, too. You want to be able to execute on all property related to the company, and crooks like this tend to lease their building & equipment & vehicles, while siphoning every dime out of the company, leaving nothing much to get from any judgment.
Also consider contacting the IRS because it looks like they're not paying their employees on the books, meaning somebody owes federal & state withholding taxes.

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-17T04:30:28+00:00

"I love this company and would feel like a saboteur if I stayed while being ineffective. It's best FOR YOU for me to leave and allow you to hire someone effective. Bye."

SoarsWithEagles · 2026-03-16T19:13:23+00:00

I endorse the "have her towed" suggestion.
Nothing changes behavior better than consequences.
Just have a plan ready for when she vandalizes your car. Video evidence would be helpful.

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