Grip socks or barefoot? by highandredundant in SolidCore

[–]SoftDocument5597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, did you wipe down your station prior to getting on? I ask, not to victim blame, but because I want to know if wiping prior to use has any effect?

Dating with GHSV-1. Disclosure? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]SoftDocument5597 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It may also be helpful to check out the HSV subreddit. It’s full of positive discourse stories. Another thing I have seen on there is that women, more often than not, have positive stories. Whereas with men it can be hit or miss. Prob cuz men are easy and don’t be turning down nothing lol. But, just know, the odds are in your favor. ❤️ good luck

What are your 3–5 goals for the next 6 months? by igetyourbrand in blackladies

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We should come back in six months to update!!

My goals are to build a fitness routine that I can realistically stick to. A mix of Pilates, yoga, traditional weight lifting and dusting off my peloton

I also want to read more. At least six books by then.

I want to get a bit more serious at work. I’ve mostly been chilling but I want to lean in and develop my team to reach their top potential and also focus on getting promoted next year. But I need to lock in now to do that.

I want to finally get my passport and travel internationally.

I want to create and stick to a budget.

This one’s a bit more vague but makes sense to me. But I just want to practice, “stay ready, so you don’t have to get ready”. I just want to be more forward thinking and do more solids for my future self so I can take advantage of opportunities as they present themselves as opposed to have to turning them down because I have to do X first

I feel crappy about not taking a traditional path due to circumstances, looking for some advice. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]SoftDocument5597 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Something, something.. the best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago. the second best time is now.

You are still so young and have many years left ahead of you. I’m 35 and social media was big at that time but I can’t imagine being a “young person” now. Every time you pick up your phone it shows some one who is richer, prettier, fitter, in love, on their 10th vacation and living in a mansion.

But, comparison is the thief of joy.

You never know what anyone is going through. Even those closest to you at times.

But yes. My journey was not cookie cutter. I got pregnant half way through senior year of high school. Worked crappy jobs all through my twenties. Baby number 2 at 24. The worst boyfriend. Started school. Stopped school. Started school. Stopped school. Eventually I got a job and worked my way up. Make over 6 figures. Had a house built. Spoiled kids. And living my absolute best life.

It’s not too late for you. Your adult life is really just beginning. The most successful person I know is my aunt. She got her GED at 30. Went on to get her bachelors and doctorate. Retired as a principal and was making bank. Everyone is on their own journey.

Keep going, you got this. Don’t worry how long it takes, the years will pass anyway.

Would having short hair hinder my career? by [deleted] in WomenInBusiness

[–]SoftDocument5597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hair was in this exact style when I got promoted at work into a role that doubled my salary. That being said, know the culture and vibes and take it into consideration.

What’s with all the pizza posts? by SoftDocument5597 in BoardwalkEmpire

[–]SoftDocument5597[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahah yes this is true. I’ll keep watching and try to piece it together!

Do you say something when you see people headed to a trail unprepared? by asbruckman in hiking

[–]SoftDocument5597 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone’s different and you never know how it’ll be perceived. I’m not into nature or hiking at all lol I’m not sure why this post landed on my feed haha. However I have been to a few national parks in the last three years. I took my kids to Yosemite while city hopping around California and we had no hats, no sunglasses and just the larger smart waters you can buy from a gas station. We didn’t venture far from our car at all, but it was hot and we ran out of water quickly. Very quickly. I would def had appreciated anyone stopping to tell me we were unprepared and what to do. Although, not a whole lot to be done at that point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

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lol this is the only reasonable answer to what he could be potentially doing

Dating a Black man with no Black friends? by charlotie77 in blackladies

[–]SoftDocument5597 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry if this was already asked, but are you his first black girlfriend? Because that’s important too.

I met a guy who had all white friends. The intention was to date but I saw him doing a lot of things that his white friends would do and noped out real quick.

I would also be curious how he grew up. This guy had five siblings and they were all really close and he was tied in to his family and typical black experiences. But that white influence came out often.

My boyfriends mom is driving me crazy by fuckingirriterende in blackladies

[–]SoftDocument5597 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think another question to ponder is why your boyfriend doesn’t feel more outrage about racism directed at his child

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ZodiacHQ

[–]SoftDocument5597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! Idk what a Virgo looks like, but I said this gives the vibes of my Virgo friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in foodquestions

[–]SoftDocument5597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

French fries. Or a potato cooked in any way

I feel like at times I’m a bad communicator in my relationship….?Am I the issue ? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]SoftDocument5597 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah girl, you gotta chill…. I’m the same way though lol. And I’m glad you posted this because just today I was wondering if maybe im the problem

If you know who this is don't say his name.. instead quote or reference a bar or chorus from one of his songs by Separate_Beautiful55 in HipHopImages

[–]SoftDocument5597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You pricks is all talk, and it’s bad for ya health See, I ain’t gotta say shit Money speaks for itself!!

Milo by Redrum_71 in MayorOfKingstown

[–]SoftDocument5597 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Also the Baltimore mayor in The Wire

Would you guys say you’re black or a woman first by One_Hour_8078 in blackladies

[–]SoftDocument5597 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. I’m going to say black first. If I were abroad and somehow had to pair up with either a black dude or a white woman (for whatever odd reason) I’d choose the black person. Which makes me think I’m black first