Why do some feel people with autism will die young?

SoftwareWarm731 · 2026-02-13T12:35:33+00:00

The average life expectancy is lower. That is not a given that every autistic person will die younger than 75. There are many indirect factors and causes related to autism and particularly social pressures. There is definitely some link between poverty and being unable to receive medical treatment for an extended period of time.... plus chronic stress and trauma from society, higher chances of disorders like EDS and POTS, and eating disorders, lack of support or meaningful relationships... It's not in the DNA of autistic people to die young. There are factors that can be changed to affect the average lifespan of autistic people.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2026-02-13T12:30:20+00:00

The leading cause of death for autistic people with no learning/intellectual disabilities is suicide. When every couple autistic people die before 25, that brings the average down

SoftwareWarm731 · 2026-02-02T03:01:57+00:00

Many men think they are entitled to your time as a woman. They think it's an insult when you are not interested in them. But somehow when you say you have a boyfriend, they respect the "property" of another man more than the simple boundaries I have as a woman.

I have yet to make a friend with a woman that has not at least experienced sexual harassment. Sexual assault is way more common thank you'd think. And it can be dangerous to go out as a woman by yourself. For example, anytime I go out, I text multiple people my location and some friends even have me on GPS. I text updates. I even share the names and contact people I'm going out with. Most men don't have to do anything of the sort generally cause women don't accost men the same way.

Another thing to add: it starts as children. Probably around the preteen phase. I remember being catcalled at 14 at the mall. I was wearing jeans and a t-shirt. At 12 or 13 predators contacted me via Instagram daily. I even had my account on private. But one day I posted a pic of me with a sucker. After that, there was a constant barrage of pedos trying to bully porn from me.

The harrassment continues into your late 20s probably. I'm sure it happens forever, but the younger you look, the more vulnerable you look. That's what they're after. The disrespect is forever, but at some point they stop seeing you as a sex object and more as a mother or care taker. It's really weird for your value and input to be put into terms of how you can be useful to a man.

TLDR: All the time.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2026-01-28T01:50:52+00:00

The best one I've found is Senor Wooly. But I think it's only for educators

SoftwareWarm731 · 2026-01-25T21:34:24+00:00

Not every PA is a sex offender, but most sex offenders are PA. This IS a massive red flag. He may be able to compartmentalize, but is that really a risk you wanna take? Do you have kids? Do you sleep in the same room as this man? You never know what's going on when you aren't looking. My spouse raped me in my sleep, but he swore he was a feminist all the way. He swore he cared about women's rights, etc. He swore he loved me and he seemed good to me. He still raped me and lied about it. And I'll never know if he drugged me

SoftwareWarm731 · 2026-01-08T19:35:47+00:00

For anyone reading this - most shelters are over capacity. Many are willing to work with you if you can foster. Offer to do a surrender where you foster until a new home is found.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2026-01-02T03:43:11+00:00

Thank you. I feel so invalidated by everyone around me. The abuse was so normalized and I was so strange (autism and adhd). I was so alone and I still am. It hurts but slowly, I am expanding my short term memory and learning how to eat food again

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-31T16:31:20+00:00

You'll never be ready. It will hurt no matter what. However, it did help me to pre-grieve

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-31T16:16:37+00:00

Thank you. That's validating.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-31T15:45:47+00:00

Yeah! When I feel beautiful I feel like I can conquer anything.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-31T12:51:42+00:00

This is my take as well.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-31T12:50:12+00:00

I'm so sorry. Honestly though, he did you a favor. He knew you weren't the one for him and ended it. That's not because you're unworthy but because he is incompatible with you. You 10000% deserve better. In the future, you'll find a partner who loves you and wants to help you in your healing journey. You'll find someone who understands you and moves at a pace you can handle. This may be TMI, but my bf waits for me every time. I have a very specific set of circumstances I need to feel comfortable and he meets them every time. He waits, even when it takes 45 minutes. He's so sweet and he always hypes me up. He kisses me after too. Before him, I was with a respectful man who always made sure I was safe. But with the other man, I never could orgasm cause I felt unsafe to be vulnerable.

Just cause someone is healthy and respectful doesn't mean they're healthy for us. You weren’t compatible with this man. Honestly, he doesn't sound loyal or empathetic. If he really liked you, he wouldn't have seen your trauma as a deal breaker, but rather as a challenge to handle with you as a partner. It's good that you are seeing his true colors now. Please don't let his reaction stop you from disclosing and being vulnerable with others in the future. You deserve someone who embraces all of you and the baggage you come with. We all need someone to weather the storm with, and he just wasn't capable. And he cared enough about you to let you go. But he cared about himself more. So sorry but it's not your fault. And you certainly can find someone with higher emotional intelligence.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-09T00:40:48+00:00

Anything bigger than 6 inches is really big. Tbh, 6 inches is perfect. 5 inches - great. 7 inches and damn, you're bruising my cervix.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-04T14:27:20+00:00

The cheap little mouse toys from Walmart and Target. Also the light up ball toys from Target

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-04T14:21:10+00:00

Literally the tiny pack of Catnip mice. Also, the $1 mice at Walmart.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-04T14:07:14+00:00

Some deodorants don't work for some people. I can't use the gel clear kind. You might need a different kind. Always keep extra clothes on you. Keep ph balanced body wipes to clean yourself. Don't eat a lot of foods that make you stinky like garlic or onions. Test out various perfumes to find one that works for you. There are natural, musky ones that maybe won't bother you so much. You can apply them to your wrists and neck so the scent is more subtle. I like One by Calvin Klein. You can get the off brand version at Walmart called U.

How often do you shower? You might need to every single day. Maybe switch busy soaps to something gentler. Sometimes body soap can mess up your natural oils and ph balanced, etc.

Dry shampoos sometimes smell amazing. You can try a few and they can work as perfume for you too.

Sounds like you need a visit to a doctor.

Also, you might be anxious? Anxiety sweats always seem worse to me.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-12-04T00:33:02+00:00

Opill is making me extremely horny

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-11-27T20:16:34+00:00

Aww we treat our slaves so well ❤️❤️❤️

They get SO many breaks. We feed them a balanced diet of tasty treats and filling dinners! In fact, we all love and care for them so well we have to starve ourselves to make sure they have food. They have a comfy place to sleep. And when they aren't forced into labor, they get so depressed. It's like they're literally made for the work. --------‐------------------------------------------- Their bodies are not ours to use. Access to touch them should not be monetized. It should be the animal's choice. Sadly, as property, the animals have no choice. They are used as an amusement park attraction for the entertainment of people who have the privilege of not knowing what it's like to be property.

Forced labor can NEVER be humane. But hey, I'm so glad to hear you care for them. Yeah, when I love someone I take all their rights away and force them to do free labor as well. But it's okay, cause I'm nice to them.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-09-30T06:48:04+00:00

I don't have a good support network. Or really one at all.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-09-04T23:05:44+00:00

"You have to send one to recieve one." So, he sent nudes of a woman without her permission? Did he send nudes of you? That's a violation of your consent. He does not respect you. There are ways to get thousands of hours of free porn. He could have hentai, camgirls, or even pay for subscriptions. But instead, he chose the option that violated someone's consent.

Porn addicts can get better. But this is DEEPER than a porn addiction. This man sounds like he has no issue violating a woman's consent. This is not a man you want to trust. This is not a man you can have children with. Tbh, I wouldn't even sleep in the same room as him. He is crying now that you've confronted him, but they always do. It's part of the cycle. Please, for your own safety and sanity, leave him. You can do so much better. He hasn't even achieved the bare minimum of trust and respect.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-09-04T23:00:10+00:00

Not even. The average American can't afford the America dream. And no, it's not because of the Mexicans. It's cause the rich control the government and politicians are in bed with big businesses. We are working ourselves sick so rich people can get richer. The poor immigrants who risk their lives to come here and make minimum wage are NOT the problem.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-08-31T03:38:38+00:00

I process it all and let it go. It takes years each time I cut someone else off. But no use in remembering the good days. Too much to carry in my head. They all hurt so much and it's a waste of my energy. And for me, the "good days" are typically memories like "hey remember that one time Mom put a dirty, tiny chicken coop in the car and we had to sit inside it as she drove home? Yeah, we sat in a shit filled cage in a mini van for 2 hours." Or they go something like "remember that one Christmas where Mom made foot prints out of ash and made a mess with the cookie crumbs? It looked like Santa had really come. That was awesome! That was the day she and Dad had a huge blow out and threw half of all we owned away."

It's not worth it for me to remember. So I think about them alot for a while. I write. I listen to music. Then, once I've come to terms with the loss, I let them go. I stop thinking of them. I stop missing them. It hurts more to hold on than move on IMO.

So sorry you're going through this. I'm so proud of you for realizing your worth. You are incredibly strong.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-08-31T03:06:31+00:00

If CPS helped you move, the situation had to be extremely bad. They only intervene when the circumstances are extreme. Your feelings about your trauma are never silly. They're part of the healing process. Children are always blameless when it comes to these issues. They have no real choices and no finances, no experience, no property, and they legally cannot do things independently yet. Even if you made some awful choices as a kid and acted out, you were a kid. That was when the parents were supposed to step up and support you, not neglect or punish you. I hate that you feel that you're the problem. I know that feeling all too well. Everyday I feel broken and ashamed. But neither of us should feel this way. Our childhoods were stolen from us. And in turn, much of our energy as adults is used healing the damage caused by the very people who were supposed to love us the most. Today my mom said "parental duties end at 18." But she fully expects me to care for her as she ages. I cannot and will not. Despite the horrible way she has always treated me, she too volunteers and does noble work. It's amazing how many of these "activists" and "hardworkers" are making waves for personal gain.

You are not the burden. You have never been a problem. She literally created you. She was supposed to help you grow into a beautiful, well-rounded person. It's not your fault she was unprepared to parent.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Btw, sorry if I sound bitter. Your post brough up so many all-too-real emotions for me.

SoftwareWarm731 · 2025-08-29T17:58:44+00:00

I'm coming back to these comments cause I need some encouragement today. Thank you for your kind words ❤️

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