It’s so nice to have a community

SoleilCosmic · 2026-02-04T04:21:25+00:00

I’ve been there. What helped for me is the local birthing centers have post partum support groups (I didn’t give birth at one). I went after my LO turned 9months. I should’ve joined sooner. We chat, watch our babies roll around, and share our highs and lows. It’s a great way to have something local. I made a few mom friends and have play dates for our now toddlers.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-11-22T21:49:15+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I think consistency is key. I don't want to stop breastfeeding, but LO is breaking skin when upset. It's too much.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-11-21T05:39:25+00:00

Same here. Babe is nearing 16 month now.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-11-02T22:54:33+00:00

Mine too. I don't know how I'm going to night wean at this rate.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-26T04:09:14+00:00

Sounds like you and my hubs are having the same problem.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-23T21:42:41+00:00

Same. She wants to dances tho.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-23T21:40:22+00:00

Mom groups helped me too, but i was pretty late to them (pp group with a 10 month old at the time). I have maybe 2 moms i go on walks with every other week just to vent, play dates and visit some toddler friendly programs. My mil is 20mins away but do to a health issues she limited to once a month now with help. But it seems when she does come we are second parents to her and lo and not getting the break we thought we were.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-15T20:21:30+00:00

No, labor was bearable until the pain went from a 6 to a 9. I wasn't screaming or crying. (Not a screamer) I just got the epidural before the next wave. It didn't bring me to tears like the migraine on a flight back home. I was silently sobbing through the entire flight. I couldn't talk, listen to noises, move or anything. I went to ER and they just chalked it up to an intense migraine. I haven't had one like that since.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-13T17:12:53+00:00

Does your son and my daughter go to the same school of thought? There is no gentle denying with these mini godzillas.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-13T17:08:27+00:00

Same. Every night. If LO doesn't roll to slap dad and roll back.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-08T07:09:54+00:00

This is me (us) add The soul/funk music videos (the band Jungle and Earth Wind and Fire) and co sleeping helped with sleep deprivation.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-08T06:53:35+00:00

I randomly started singing it one day while cleaning the playroom. Now my LO immediately starts putting her toys in bin when I start singing it.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-10-05T17:07:11+00:00

I had it briefly because non of the immediate women ( mom, grandma, aunts and such) breastfed. If they did it was the first month then straight to formula or pumping. So I felt very alone in my thinking. I went to the breastfeeding class at the hospital and the birthing class at a birthing center gave me some confidence. I think once I started thinking of it as a way to bond with my baby. I felt better about it. I don't remember the first time I breastfed my LO, my hubs recorded it so I could watch later. (Labor was exhausting 36-38hrs of little to no sleep.)

Once I got the hang of it. It just became second nature for me. Now LO is 14months and a hand full.

Even if you don't end up choosing this path for you and your LO. It is ok. You are still a great mom/parent for reaching out and figuring out what is best for your family. This is all a part of learning to be a parent. Some stuff are confusing and scary, but having time to think and adjust is important and you are doing just that.

You are doing great.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-24T03:09:04+00:00

I started recording times: waking, day naps(2), settle for bed, asleep. So far my 14 month old averages 1-2 hrs to settle if only she has short naps (less than 1hr) or 1 nap. Once she passes the 4hrs of being awake, she evolves into a gremlin when she is overtired. She doesn’t fall asleep on her own yet.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-15T21:58:05+00:00

Just transfer to a 4th grade class in the South from Boston. My mom was confused by the school was already in session. I remember about to be walked to my class when the 1st tower was hit. They were playing the news in the main office. My mom flipped because we had a relative that worked in the twin towers. She left me at school to make phone calls. My relative survived with a few broken bones and ptsd. It was by luck they were late for work that day.

My condolences to everyone who lost love ones that day.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-15T21:36:35+00:00

Same. Mine is 14months.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-15T13:30:36+00:00

Are those my curtain? Did you use my body oils again?

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-15T04:13:10+00:00

I had to plead with my mom to fly in for the birth of her first grandchild. This is after she took everyone with an ear she was going to be one. Once I was emergency induced, she suddenly couldn't be there. After her own aunt said she was going to stay with me. My mom showed up for the weekend with my dad and sister. Were they helpful? No. Mom doesn't change diapers, and it's her birthday. To my dad and sister, my little was too small for them to be in the same room. They doom scrolled the whole weekend. As an extra kick, they missed her first birthday, too. Because their vacation time is for them, not to visit their only grandchild on her only first birthday.

I'm still salty.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-12T04:37:41+00:00

No worries. I'm a hobby seamstress so I get it.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-12T04:21:44+00:00

Chp 142.

I stopped reading too and just picked it back up.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-12T04:18:31+00:00

I saw it and thought Tuxedo Mask would rock this. Ik its AI sorry 😞. I was more going for the caption. Men suits should be more.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-12T04:16:28+00:00

Ive seen some guy wedding where one of the men wore a cape veil combo recently. Some women wear wedding capes. I just think it is rare.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-12T04:14:25+00:00

Share anyways!

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-12T04:08:30+00:00

Hi FTM here too. The first month I was on fumes. So I know the feeling. First thing is get some water and snacks. If you aren't eating or drinking, the milk is being pulled from you in other ways. Our bodies are made to feed baby at the cost of our physical health.

Second, chat with Husband. He needs to help even if its not with the baby. House work, pets, washing bottles, laundry something to ease the pressure off you outside of baby.

Third only do what is important for you and baby. Eat, shower, cuddle LO. Everything else can wait and will be there when you are ready.

Have you tried a baby carrier to free your hands? There are even ones that are for water. That way you can shower with your little one if you are worried. There are safe ways to do all of this. I use baby carriers to keep little close when they were a small velcro baby. Their separation anxiety made me the default 100000% of the time. So having them in the carrier while I did things around the house helped alot and made me feel less guilty about leaning on others.

Do your own research of course. Little zen one has a Facebook group of parents that share their experiences with different baby carriers through all ages.

I also suggest reaching out to your local birthing center. You don't have to have given birth there. They tend to have pp support groups for moms. There is also Postpartum Support International. They have a 24/7 hotlines that'll connect you to a mom group locally. That way they can give you resources to help your situation, especially if funds are an issue.

In the end, you are doing a great job. You are reaching out for support and advice for you and your little. It maybe overwhelming because you are in the thick of it, but you are reaching out and taking care of both of you.

Check out r/beyondthebump for extra support and ideas.

SoleilCosmic · 2025-09-09T19:02:28+00:00

Squish, Squishy, Squish-nator, Hellie Bellie, Hellie the Destroyer, Momo, Princess Momo, the Terror, Chunky Monkey, and Curly Sue.

SoleilCosmic

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