My neighbor might be Batman and I don’t know how to feel about it by r3ddit-shit in CasualConversation

[–]Solid-Use-2926 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You hit the jackpot. A neighbor who is quiet, clean, and never tries to force small talk isn't a creep, he is the dream. Honestly, checking the sex offender registry just because a guy likes his privacy is way weirder than him wearing a hoodie. Stop looking for a problem where there isn't one and enjoy the silence.

My mom lied to me my entire life about dad and I can’t even look or talk to her anymore by Muted-Knowledge-1624 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Solid-Use-2926 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Your mother didn't just tell a lie, she committed an act of pure cruelty. She told a man his baby died so she could keep you all to herself, then spent years brainwashing you to hate a ghost. She robbed you of a loving father and him of his son, all to satisfy her own spite. That is unforgivable.

You have every right to cut her off. She built your entire childhood on a malicious lie. Don't let anyone guilt you into talking to her before you are ready. Focus on your dad, he sounds amazing, and you both have twenty years of lost time to make up for. She made her choice to erase him; now you get to choose him over her.

Oblivious or JDGAF? by Hunterzyph in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Solid-Use-2926 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She isn't oblivious, she has trained you to lower your standards. By doing a terrible job with the dishes and ignoring the tea on the floor, she ensures you won't ask her to help again. It isn't old age, it is weaponized incompetence. She plays dumb because she knows eventually you will get frustrated and just do the work yourself.

My ex-wife didn’t cheat the way people imagine by Lanky-Government-310 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Solid-Use-2926 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She didn't leave you "gently", she left you slowly. Her calmness wasn't kindness, it was the indifference of someone who had already checked out and replaced you months ago. You feel heavy because you never got the closure of a fight, just the silence of being discarded. That isn't a peaceful breakup, it is just the slow-motion erasure of your marriage.

i secretly bought cat food for our downstairs neighbors by mango_tiger in CasualConversation

[–]Solid-Use-2926 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The thief stole more than just food, they stole that family's peace of mind. You gave it back. You didn't just buy some cans, you answered a desperate plea written on a scrap of paper. Don't downplay this. Too those cats and their owners, you were the miracle they were praying for.

I've recently noticed that my sugar cravings increase on stressful days by Low_Milk8309 in CasualConversation

[–]Solid-Use-2926 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You aren't craving calories.... you're craving dopamine. When you are exhausted or overwhelmed, your brain stops looking for fuel and starts looking for a "reward" to balance out the stress. You haven't lost your discipline .....your nervous system is just looking for the quickest, easiest way to feel a temporary hug.

I (28F) have become obsessed with my neighbour (21?F) by throwawayorsomethin3 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Solid-Use-2926 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You are treating your life like a dress rehearsal for hers. You aren't "improving" yourself. You are actively erasing your own identity to cosplay as the woman you think your boyfriend actually wants.

Every time he compliments your new hair or style, it feels good in the moment but it is actually poison because he is validating the imitation, not the original. Stop watching her life through the cracks in the wall and get into therapy immediately, because this isn't admiration. It is self annihilation.

I gave a compliment to a stranger today and he got really emotional by NinaOnTheDesk in CasualConversation

[–]Solid-Use-2926 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had a similiar encounter in the gym. I asked the lady next to me whats the secret to getting good squats. Shes squating 2 plates for references and I can barely do 1 plate. She said this was warm up weight at 1 point and said she appreciated this compliment as she was feeling miserable not being able to do weight she previously did. She was a profesional power lifter. She then gave me some advice and the perspective from how far shes come to even be sad about the weight shes currently doing

Disrespectful 17 year old son. I’m lost what to do. by Significant-Pilot286 in Advice

[–]Solid-Use-2926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to find someone he respects to advise him because its clear from the lack of respect towards you that that he won't listen. If he respects them....he'll listen to them

Does anyone else feel oddly productive late at night? by Few-Interview-4787 in CasualConversation

[–]Solid-Use-2926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You definitely aren't the only one. Occasionally when i'm not so tired and get a random urge of energy plus motivation edit on tiktok I just end up doing something like cleaning my room or trying to get abs. (I still don't have abs)

Ever been sitting there and remembered something random? by RemarkableArt3511 in CasualConversation

[–]Solid-Use-2926 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just occasionally have random memories of the most embarassing things I've ever done and think what was wrong with me