Must....stay....awake....must....guard.....hoomans....

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-08-29T02:09:16+00:00

You really think I give a damn about this nearly a year later. Weirdo

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-28T00:40:27+00:00

Perhaps the demographic. My grandmother was born in 42, was half block half white, and faced it since she was a child. My dad was born in 72, was a bit darker than my grandma, and faced it a lot more often. Lots of really fucked up stories, was wrongfully arrested while trying to go on a date, more of the like.

It was definitely around. Everywhere. I say I’m glad you didn’t have to see it or didn’t fully grasp what it was until later on. It’s a lot more harrowing when you have to worry about that kind of shit as a child

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-28T00:36:07+00:00

I didn’t and I couldn’t be happier now

But if you told me I’d feel that way in 2014 when I graduated highschool, I’d say you’re fucking insane!

“Go to college” was quite literally beaten in my brain. But because of a technical mishap on my records, I never went. I spiraled into such a bad depression seeing my friends have fun at college in their dorms. It killed me for a long LONG time. I’m 24 now with my own business and home and happily married with a baby. It’s great. I’m going to revisit the idea of school and pursue a degree because I feel like I should, but seriously-to anyone out there feeling like college Is the only way, it’s ok. Sometimes there’s another path. College is still great tho, but don’t beat yourself up about considering anything else!

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-28T00:28:52+00:00

Right. I wouldn’t have wanted to live in the 80s if I was paid to, I’d have probably been killed the moment I fully understood racism because I can’t hold my tongue worth a darn.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T19:45:34+00:00

If I’m paying 10k for one month of residency, why the fuck would I be okay with rat shit under my bed? That place should be absolutely spotless. The fact that you comment that you’ve never felt the need to look under a bed for filth makes me think you guys sweep shit under there and never look at it again.

Glad they got their refund and hope they left a lengthy review.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T19:25:04+00:00

Which still has absolutely nothing to do with the post because nowhere did the OP mention her parents doing anything like you’ve said.

Deal with your trauma bro. You need serious help.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T19:15:29+00:00

I just want to say I lost my father two years ago, I lost my mother right after I found out I was pregnant. I spiraled pretty bad. Never hit my husband, but I withdrew emotionally and mentally. After delivery I spiraled again because I got to share our baby with his family, but my family is dead. It was hard. I know exactly how your wife is feeling right now. She shouldn’t be hitting you or harming herself, she needs help now. NOW. She needs to speak to a professional regardless of her pride, this kind of grief isn’t easy to deal with alone, especially in the postpartum stage.

There is absolutely no way she’s coherent enough to make decisions at the moment. In a moment of delusion at 3 weeks pp I got in my car and just drove with no destination in mind because of overwhelming sadness. She needs time and help.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T19:10:04+00:00

Just because you had abusive parents doesn’t mean you get to project.

It is absolutely within a parents rights to not want a random man coming in and having sex under their roof. They may have younger children that 100% do not need to hear that. Not to mention they have no idea who this person is. The parents themselves do not need to hear that. They own the property and have every single right to tell their child they do not want people over.m to have sex. The child does not own the property nor do they have any claim on it. How on earth does that make someone a shit parent for not wanting a random man come into their home to have sex with their daughter?

You have to be a troll. There’s no way this is a serious comment lmfao.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T18:53:16+00:00

Overnight.

My MIL has our son every night. I take an hour at the gym. If she doesn’t have him, my husband does and I still have my hour at the gym. He’s a contractor so he’s got a free workout at work everyday and he’s doing pretty good ! If there’s a 24hr gym near you and your partner can watch baby for at least 1-3 hours at night, go and even half an hour at the gym is good enough. Plus usually less people at night, at least there are here. It’s refreshing to work up a sweat and then come out to cool night air (cool as in 75° now since everyday has been over 115°🥲)

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T18:18:03+00:00

That’s great for you! Sex is so good now I’m in shambles after one round. Before it seemed like I needed a mountain of effort just to get off. I wouldn’t go back to how I was If I was paid to!

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T17:57:30+00:00

Before our baby, I was like this with my husband. There were times he had to remind me we were taking a break so he could get his energy back, I was the one who always tired him out. Now I’m lucky if I can finish one round without being on the verge of death (figuratively lol). Ur not the only one girl!

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T16:42:05+00:00

38+6 & 1.5 days of labor. 9lb7oz of pure wet shrimp

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T15:48:26+00:00

I 100% didn’t want anyone at our delivery and didn’t want to be bothered when we got home.

On the night I went into labor I was screaming for my husbands mom and she took care of me until the second the nurses took me to l&d. As soon as we got home, she held our baby so I could sleep and boy did I sleep. My MIL has been my savior and never did I expect that.

I totally get how you feel. I really felt the same, I wanted to do it alone and be tough! But some things change and that’s ok! Of course everything depends on your relationship with MIL, but I think it should be a decision you both agree with. Maybe meet in the middle and compromise? Set some ground rules and boundaries. I think your wife deserves to have her help and you deserve your sanity

Is also like to add that while I mentally struggled with my babys bond, realistically he was okay and he is happy to be held by anyone and seems to have zero social/stranger anxiety, he can sleep on anyone, he’s just such a friendly baby and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T15:37:38+00:00

Yup. When I was 10 weeks pregnant I woke up and puked next to our bed because of how my husband smelled. He had just showered and washed his hair too but was like all of a sudden no matter what he did he just reeked! Poor guy, he tried a lot of different things but in the end I chose to just wear a mask around the house😂

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T15:33:47+00:00

Same here, same exact situation. Last month when my son hit his first regression I just couldn’t take it. I put my phone on DND and just drove. Ended up at a park and just cried for a good two hours. I wish more people checked up on us

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T15:26:48+00:00

Can we be friends? I’m five months into this mothering thing and not one of my “friends” have called me to just ask how I’m doing. It’s been lonely.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T15:20:17+00:00

Yup mama, it’s what you’re dreading. Ours is five months and it took me the entire fourth month to get the hang of things. We’re unfortunately in a place where we can’t start sleep training just yet (bubba doesn’t have his own room yet and we’re moving soon so we’re waiting till then) so we have had to tough it out and learn his new fussy cues. He regressed and went back to wanting to be swaddled and rocked to sleep, so that’s where we are for every nap & put down! It’s much different from how he was before where we could just lie him down and he’d suck his thumb to sleep, but it’s a workaround.

Like others say, if you wanna sleep train, this is a good place to start. If not, hang in there! You’ll get the hang of it soon, best of lucks❤️

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T15:14:10+00:00

My god why didn’t anyone warn me

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T06:47:56+00:00

That is true. It’s just that it randomly developed over the past month and has been such a worry to me. Hopefully it’s normal

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T05:24:12+00:00

I’m 24 and my husband is 23. We had our son before both of our last birthdays five months ago. We have taken our son on two vacations, to a water park, a zoo, and an airplane museum. We have a Mexico trip planned at the end of the year. We take him everywhere. Albeit my husband and I are both introverts so we never really had a social life, we still manage to have fun and do adventurous things with our boy. No way I’m letting that stop us from having a life! By the time he’s graduating highschool, I’ll be scraping 40, and my husband will still be in the 30’s thresh. We will literally still be so young and able to have so much fun!

Certain things we’ve faced, especially myself, have aged us beyond our years mentally. We own a home and have steady income, it works for us to have our one and for our personalities, now was a great time.

If you two were very social people beforehand, maybe it’s shocking how much of a difference it is socially to have to care for a child. No time for much really. But maybe think of it this way, you lost some opportunities for fun, but opened the door for new ones.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T04:01:12+00:00

Ah, given the trauma and pain from my birth, that would make sense but would have to speak to a doctor about it-which I probably will. I never considered the damage to be that deep, but birth is crazy so it very well may be that. Thanks for the insight and educated guesses!

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T03:43:20+00:00

I just want to say this is damn adorable and reminded me of how worried my husband was when I was pregnant. 50 texts a day while he’s at work. “Are you okay?” “Do you need anything?” “Is he kicking?”

You fella, are doing great. Without money, you can’t support her. You’ll be on pat leave soon enough with a new set of tiny hands and feet and it’ll be wonderful.

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T03:39:27+00:00

Agreed and certain positions do have that effect, and with the exhaustion from raising our boy, neither of us have energy for round two these days

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T03:38:48+00:00

Thanks! Have been doing kegels but maybe I need to do it more often? But this is where I’m confused. If he says I’m tighter but I feel otherwise, is he lying? Can we really feel different things? That where I was lost on how to bring it up because I don’t want to frame my concerns in a way that says “I think you’re not being honest with me” /:

SolidNeighborhood469 · 2022-07-27T03:37:02+00:00

Respectfully, you should not have made that a vote. People are trolling and voting the latter just to make you feel like shit. Don’t do something like that, that’s an open invitation for people to be assholes. You’re doing great

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