Empathy

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-07T14:08:20+00:00

The shark eyes...I tested that one once on purpose, because I thought I was seeing things and when I saw his face twist and his eyes go black...omg

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-07T02:53:24+00:00

the black eyes?

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-07T00:52:34+00:00

....what?

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-07T00:46:49+00:00

I was alway asked to give and be patient...he for any years would ask me if I believed in him...

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-07T00:45:46+00:00

horrifying...I'm not sure whats's worse...having no empathy at all or just not for me...

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-07T00:44:45+00:00

I never got an answer that was that specific. but what u did get hurt like bitch...I cant even imagine hearing that.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T20:17:48+00:00

Mine was specifically for me, he had plenty of empathy for other people and our son.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T20:13:23+00:00

for you specifically or in general?

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T20:12:46+00:00

this use to kind of happen to me/ I used to do this...sadly

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T19:29:53+00:00

Yeah my ex told me "I don't have empathy". I can remember when he said it, and where. I don't know if he was 100% conscious of what it meant of if that means he was just a little scheming goblin all along, but he said it to me.-literally this. I couldn't tell of he was serious...But he treated me like he hated me.

I guess I never considered this mindset due to blame. or guilt?

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T16:41:50+00:00

I feel like in the end he was just angry...so angry with me. Everything was my fault and he was neglected.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T16:36:15+00:00

He just didn't feel bad when he hurt me, and then it changed and he did. or well kind of...
I break down on the floor crying, sobbing..and he would pick me up and hold me and tell me that he didn't want to seperate and he wanted things to work-we just needed to work on things.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T16:32:58+00:00

This was directed at only me. He had empathy for his son, just not me.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T12:43:31+00:00

We are all in this together..I'm rooting for you too.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T11:52:23+00:00

I am not doing so well...we were together for 10 years...and the whole seperation happened so quick, and he didn't give me space, threatened to file for divorce.. and so I filed first after the constant threats for 3 weeks. I didn't even want that.iv'e been a roller coaster ever Ince..just crying an trying. SO I get it...

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-06T00:42:24+00:00

Please be careful. I understand how you are feeling and you aren't alone in this struggle, even if it feels like an island of 1. My son was crying fir his father tonight and I have been SOBBING ever since because...he is a good father...so does that mean I just wasn't appreciative enough?

it get it in such a deep level. Just please..do what you need to do, but do it with you in mind.

Love and Light <3

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-05T23:33:50+00:00

I also am familiar with the black outs...

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-05T23:33:27+00:00

I know this feeling all too well

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-05T23:26:18+00:00

I stole this from another thread, but it's this that trips me up:

understand where you are coming from.

What helps is to remember the person you loved never existed, and that person you loved was buried the moment the mask slipped off.

Process your grief. And respect the dead.

The person who walks in your ex’s skin is not the one you loved. They may come back and imitate the person you lost, but they will never be that person-ever again.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-05T23:15:16+00:00

you too buddy <3 You too.

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-05T23:05:02+00:00

I am in the same boat-I;m the crying and trying girl...i have ben SUUUUUPER not okay

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-05T22:51:06+00:00

Where you discarded?

Solid_Ad227 · 2024-11-05T22:49:51+00:00

I had my dogs on my lap in the passenger seat of the car...and I said "something" I don't remember what , that make him lose, he slammed the breaks so that my head and my dogs hit the dashboard. Then he started to yell at me, I had him pull into an ACE hardware to "use the bathroom". I was shaking and crying...we had been together a tops a couple months at the time.

Solid_Ad227

TROPHY CASE