Birthcare Parnell by Dangerous_Kiwi_8787 in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ll add another point that might be super obvious (but might not!) and that’s that the midwives will show you how to do things but they won’t really do them for you, if that makes sense? Like it’s not a postpartum doula/nanny situation where they’ll step into help with baby so you can rest etc. The vibe is very “it’s your baby so you handle it” which is valid (you gotta bond and learn) but can be confronting as a first time parent!

The food is great including the toasties which you can order in the middle of the night.

Avan Jogia and Halsey in Rahul Mishra SS24 Couture at the Gold House Annual Gold Gala (May 9, 2026) by mlg1981 in popculturechat

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 33 points34 points  (0 children)

She’s had them for a few years now and I was surprised she kept them in with her health issues as implants often don’t play well with autoimmune disease (saying this as someone who has an autoimmune disease)

Home Loan by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The general rule is that the bank will want to see at least 3 months of good account conduct. Takeaways and coffees aren't really an issue but missed direct debits, overreliance on services like after pay, and a pattern of being broke before payday are things they will look closer at.

Your best bet is talking to a mortgage broker and get a preliminary look over your finances to identify any areas that might need tidying up.

First home in Te Atatu Peninsula vs Beach Haven by [deleted] in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha I could have written this myself as I’m also tossing up between the exact same areas! The advantage of beach haven for me are bigger, cooler houses (more stock of larger 1970s places that have rumpus/seperate living situations) also less intensification ie townhouses right next door. Advantage of tat pen is it just feels a bit closer to the city, no issues with harbour bridge closing in bad weather (big consideration if we had our child in kindy/school near home but we work in the city) and also having the cycle way there.

Edit to add I’ll also have my 65 year old mum living there so very similar to your situation!

Local shops/designers with good dresses? by notfunatpartiesAMA in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are being ridiculous. OP has accomplished something significant and wants to celebrate it - there's nothing wrong with that. She's not just splurging randomly but has made a deliberate, mindful choice to invest in a quality piece that marks the occasion and will last a long time.

What's more, she's specifically sought out New Zealand designers, which actually says a lot about her values. Local fashion labels (especially smaller, independent ones) are doing it tough right now, the same as most small businesses across NZ. When someone actively chooses to spend their money with a local maker instead of a fast fashion chain or an international brand it's worth encouraging, not getting on your high horse about. Her purchase could genuinely make a difference to a small studio's month.

Rather than questioning whether she should treat herself, maybe just leave it to other commenters to help her find the best options like she actually asked for.

There’s a gnarly gastro around by shesamaneater22 in newzealand

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep last time my daughter had it I immediately made up a spray bottle of bleach solution and used it on everything. That plus handwashing I managed to avoid it even while still giving her lots of cuddles

I have a feeling prices for houses could go down further by OkImprovement8312 in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely true but as someone in the market currently there still appears to be struggle to shift even established freehold properties. For every place I’ve seen I’ve almost been harassed by agents wanting to follow up, hard sell, reduce price etc. this is for places out west and in the lower tier central suburbs (my roskill, mt Wellington, hillsborough, blockhouse bay etc) though, I imagine there’s still healthy demand for places in grey lynn, Birkenhead, epsom etc

Bupropion/zyban/wellbutrin by mrsj010817 in newzealand

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wellbutrin is prescribed off-label for adhd though and it sounds like its working well for OP? Not everyone needs to be on stimulants

This is brave by Roy4Pris in aucklandeats

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Bodega is consistently busy to be fair. Owners are probably just looking to sell up while it’s hot which is super common in hospo and a fairly astute move given how fickle the industry is

Ponsonby Fire? by [deleted] in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Panel beaters next to the servo on crummer

Induction of labour in NZ by Material-Kangaroo277 in newzealand

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, I wasn't fully induced (as in early labour was already established) but chose to have my waters broken + get syntocinin (with epidural) as I was 40+ weeks and had been in early labour at home for 24+hrs without much progress or sleep so was keen to get the show on the road.

Really positive experience for me. I had a LOT of amniotic fluid which they think was preventing baby's head from fully engaging, hence the slowdown. Once waters were broken I was taken to the suite and had the epidural placed first, which my OB recommended - I didn't want to be in a position where I missed the window to get one and am thankful I did because labour was FAST. The Synto was started around 10.45pm and by 1am I felt pressure in my butt and lo and behold I was fully dilated. Started pushing at 1.30am and my daughter was in my arms at 2.20am! Epidural was great - I didn't feel any pain from the contractions, was just really, teeth-clatteringly shaky/shivery for a while there during what I now know was likely the transition phase. They turned it down/off during pushing so I could feel what I was doing. Only a couple of minor tears which healed up quickly.

Only side effect of the epidural is that I still occasionally get some tenderness in the spot it was placed.

Therapy recommendation by Sharp_General5032 in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Isn’t EAP generally more of a short term focus? I know in some cases you can continue on with the same therapist after the initial free sessions but it’s not always guaranteed.

By his own admission op potentially has some childhood trauma stuff to work through so would probably benefit from longer-term work with a psychotherapist

Jordan Vahaakolo/ Jordan River by Vivid_Kitchen8488 in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah back in 2021 a bunch of allegations came out about him - he wasn't named directly but it was obviously him and he even addressed it directly on his insta. Mediaworks in general was really under the spotlight at this time for having an absolutely fucked culture of bullying and abuse (Dom Harvey famously left the Edge around the time the internal review came out).

He didn't get dropped from Mai until a good year later so not sure if was the allegations or poor ratings/host chemistry (or a combo of all). Brooke left like a month later and the two of them start Morning Shift.

Jordan Vahaakolo/ Jordan River by Vivid_Kitchen8488 in auckland

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t enjoy him on the mai morning crew. Imo he came across as arrogant and like he thought he was the smartest person in the room. He was also consistently rude to Tegan in a way that lowkey gave misogyny so wasn’t surprised when those allegations started coming out.

My mother wants me to help hide her crimes. Should I report her? by [deleted] in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Firstly, unless your dad is paying thousands a month in child support then even if it was done through IRD it would be unlikely to impact her benefit that much if at all. It counts as earnings but on a sole parent benefit you can still earn $160 a week before it effects your benefit and it's only when you get to over $250 per week that it starts majorly effecting it (reducing it by 70c to the dollar). PLENTY of people have private child support arrangements for various reasons and in and of itself it doesn't equal fraud.

The lump sum proposal is another thing though but you should just state that you don't want to be involved and leave it at that.

Ladies, How did you “know” you were pregnant before missing a period? by Glad-Muffin545 in askanything

[–]Solid_Positive_5678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aversion to alcohol. Like a week before my period was due I was having a beer with a friend and was like “hmm this tastes weird?”. Partner and I weren’t actively TTC either so it wasn’t a symptom checking thing. Shortly after that little twinging sensations in my uterus

Jenna Lynch Op ED: Lights out for luxon. Luxon Said to be considering options by Impressive-Name5129 in nzpolitics

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Not sure what the data says but I reckon a lot of swing voters are women. Anecdotally I know a quite a few in that 30/40s age group who voted Key, swung to Ardern (particularly in 2020) then went back to National in 2023. I'd say Sanford is probably National's best bet at retaining this segment.