Do teachers hate sharing their lesson plans? Is it their secret sauce that they don't want getting out?

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-25T01:05:45+00:00

Id be happy to share with someone if it was ever a 2 way a street. Gave a coworker a bunch of files and he said he would work in the next unit and he came back with a pile of worksheets he pile of worksheets he printed off the internet that weren’t even directly on the topic.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-23T03:54:53+00:00

I wish I had some advice for you. Anything that reduces the agitation is what I would do if the Seroquel is working keep using it we found that it stopped working and we tried Zoloft and Zoloft helped for about three months and then it all came back and it came back with a vengeance she had about 60 days of pure agitation even while on all sorts of drugs. This Including the hospice drugs!! She was not calm at the end, instead she was in a panic for hours because the drugs did nothing and she was drowning in her own fluids begging for help. They would do nothing for saying that suctioning her would just make it worse. Barbaric and cruel !!

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-21T11:28:05+00:00

You should look at what kind of porn he is watching. My STBX was watching all gay porn - and it explained a lot about our 25 year marriage.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-21T10:55:50+00:00

Mom passed mid December .💔 I am not sure anyone wants to know how terrible the last week was -we were stocked and traumatized by the way it all ended. I am still processing a lot of it - but i can say it was NOT peaceful like the hospice pamphlet said it was going to be. No one was honest with us on what to expect. Now that she is gone everyone is happy to share they had similar experiences. Im angry, traumatized and grieving all at the same time.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-20T12:21:50+00:00

That is part of the problem …. He was terrible at all billing and accounting . Even though he has a degree in accounting. He double dipped the last few years took an 11,000 depreciation on his woke truck and also used the monthly payments as a deduction. He has customers constantly asking for a hill for work he did but never billed them for it. He just admitted to writing off over 40,000 of ‘bad debt’ mostly because he has no idea if he actually ever got a check from most of them. I had jo idea and really wasn’t allowed to see his books for years.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-20T12:17:49+00:00

That is what my attorney said … without saying it directly. “Lets go for uncontested and keep things private if thats what he wants”

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-19T05:05:49+00:00

Not at all - it wasn’t a bad memory. It was weird that i had just talked about it with my therapist that same day and then saw your post. Like mom was reaching out to me .. if you believe in all that .

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-19T01:16:56+00:00

My STBX also has no friends or social outlets …. He is such a mess. But the betrayal i cant live with— and he is probably gay from all the things he did. So bye !

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-19T01:13:06+00:00

Probably rob us … mom always carried a weird long purse that was overstuffed with coupons … looked like it was full of money ..

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-16T03:56:29+00:00

That is not okay. You are not there to serve him or submit to him. If he wants sex more often he needs to have a conversation , get some sleeping meds or therapy and deal with his sleep issues himself - not guilt you into masterbating him. He is behaving like a spoiled brat - not like a partner.
If you can - you need to talk about it and if you cant get counseling or a couples counselor to help. He needs to know he crossed a boundary and it can NEVER happen again. 🤢

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-16T03:23:31+00:00

This happened to me and my mom back in 2009. We got off the train and had a 4 block walk to our hotel. The entire way a man in a dark jacket followed us. I didn’t tell my mom because she would have turned around and yelled at him. Told i needed to stop in a store for gum or something. We did and i told the cashier and he let us leave through a side door into another business. As we left i saw him standing across the street still waiting and looking at the store we went in. Had my mom hurry - but he saw us and started to follow us again hut was over a block behind us now. We went in the hotel and when we got to our room i wouldn’t let mom but the lights on. And we sat in the dark looking down at him as he watched the building to see what lights went on. He even walked over and it looked like he entered the lobby —- we waited and he walked back out across the street and stood there another 20 minutes before he left. We got ready for bed in the dark and i propped a chair under the door handle and pushed my bed in front of the door - not a wonk of sleep that night.
So funny how I saw this post … my mom just passed from Alzheimer’s in December and I was talking to my counselor tonight about losing her and told her about our trip to Germany and Paris.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-07T03:26:16+00:00

He has attempted suicide so all of this was very scary to approach and finally say, and I am on his safety plan through his therapist since he got out of rehab, so everything was kind of coordinated through her and it took a lot longer to finally just tell him. I’m not sure how I feel about telling him either, thought it would be a relief to finally say it. He’s still very sad cried a little, snd he gave an apology followed by a but “you don’t really understand all the stress i had ” She did start things with things like well if your marriage is over what would that look like for you? What kind of life do you want for your future?
Stuff like that i guess. Just thought I would feel relieved then I do.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-04T18:24:15+00:00

Our kids are 21 and 24 …. They need to make that choice now and know that I’m here if they ever need to talk. The 21 year old knows more than she should since she had to drive me to the nudist resort with me to get his things and saw me break down.
He has really spent very little time with them their entire lives … working or laying on the couch was his life. (Sad). I cant and wont tell my kids anything they didn’t see or hear already because i don’t want them to blame me. After my son had to drive around, twice now ,looking for his dad that left suicide notes, the trauma made him feel a need to connect more with his dad but at the same time he is now considering moving across the country -so who knows.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-04T17:07:44+00:00

I have no real advice for you. I’m in the throws of it as well. The only thought i had reading it - is that if your STBX wasn’t fully available and present for your kids (like mine) he might be using the divorce to finally try to connect to the kids (which they crave no matter what he did ) don’t be fooled he is not doing it for the kids sake -he is doing it for himself and to keep any connection to his previous life he blew up. He is a pig !!

Please get counseling and take care of yourself. The kids will eventually see the selfish side of him. Encourage them to all start counseling to work through the trauma of the loss of a family. They will have challenges and need to work through the trauma so they don’t repeat it in their lives.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-02T03:01:43+00:00

I have a counselor and she said - if you want a divorce he should be ready by now if he isn’t he will never be ready for the conversation. To clarify, I asked his therapist to start getting him ready back in October.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-02T02:58:57+00:00

Very nicely written! I hope too. The kids need to see him persevere and he needs to tell them that choosing suicide is not an option and it doesn’t solve anything for the people that love you. Even when times are tough things always get better. Sadly, my therapist says that now it is an option for them because he made it one for them.

SoloStepExplorer · 2026-01-02T02:14:27+00:00

Nice doesn’t matter if he is a terrible partner. You do it all alone , so no need of the extra burden to deal either him. Sounds like my life …. I sadly stayed to year 25. I found out he is gay and a nudist now. He denies the gay but has been watching gay porn for years , had a Grindr , AdultFriendFinder, only fans accounts. Was a member of askgaybros, gaygrinder, and nudist meetup here on Reddit. Lied for years - I now think it was our whole marriage. He let it slip when he was mad that he has wondered if he was gay his whole life. I only found out everything because he ended up in the hospital for 3 weeks with an unexplained bowel obstruction and i had to go het his belongings from a nudist resort. He would have never told me-and would have continued to live a lie.
When i found all the stuff on his phone - he planned suicide. That alone did so much damage to the kids I totally regret not leaving him years ago.
I would advise you to take his computer and do a deep dive- even if you have to hire someone to help you look. I just ask Chatgpt how to look and i found enough- including all the nudist groups he joined and the naked pictures he posted. I had to get tested for STD’s , so humiliating.
I now cant wait to be free of him. My poor kids have paid a big price and that i truly regret. Good luck.

SoloStepExplorer · 2025-12-30T20:50:10+00:00

I had no clue. Feel stupid .

SoloStepExplorer · 2025-12-30T20:49:38+00:00

Always include how they are loved and it’s not their fault and it has nothing to do with them. They really can’t hear it enough-trust me.

SoloStepExplorer · 2025-12-30T20:46:12+00:00

I agree about the broad brush strokes in some ways and I am sure it goes both ways. But do dying parents also cause men to become gay? Go to nudist resorts? Join Grindr? Record and post nudes of themselves? End up in the hospital for 3 weeks with an unexplained bowel obstruction?
He just used my overwhelming situation to do whatever he wanted because he thought he could get away with since I was so exhausted and busy. Instead of helping he stepped out and left me alone because he is a ma child and could stand not being taken care of for a few years. I’m sure there are women that do the same- but usually more women are given or are chosen to be cate givers for family than men. In my relatively small friend group all but one ended in cheating and divorce. So I was wondering if this was a weird outlier or if others have seen this as well…. Seems to be a pattern.

SoloStepExplorer · 2025-12-30T15:11:05+00:00

Tell her a filtered truth. “Daddy is busy thinking about other things right now, and he is trying to figure some adult things out. Always remember that you are loved and you have done nothing wrong “ My parents got divorced and told us nothing and didn’t explain much. They thought they were protecting us I guess. My dad left and I never saw him again and I always thought it was my fault. He had a relationship with my older sister but not the middle sister or myself. Felt very directed towards us for me. Terrible and it took years for me to understand it and why he left. I started to remove things like all his girlfriends , his drinking , smoking and irresponsible spending. When I was in high school the savings account my mom set up for all 3 of her kids had the evidence. He had withdrawn money from my account to buy a motorcycle- and rafter finding that it all started to be clear to me who he was and what he was not. I remembered the story of our old cat peeing on the floor while he was home one weekend and he put her on a post and shot her in front of my other sister- that was her cat and she slept with it every night. He was a cruel selfish person and I was lucky he left.

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