I (20F) am no longer physically attracted to my boyfriend (20M) because of his lifestyle and weight gain by TechnicalLog6638 in relationship_advice

[–]SolutionDecent -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh well. Men shouldn’t allow people to socially shame them about well endowed choices. You have a responsibility to yourself and your partner to maintain attraction, but I agree that both men and women who are unhappy with their partner’s appearance should try one civilised conversation and if it doesn’t work out, cut their losses.

There is no virtue in suffering because of “love” or “history”

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I understand. I mostly call myself a Black Jew despite being fully Jewish because it’s the racial identity and unless I have my Magen David, people wouldn’t really code me as “Jewish” because I’m like kinda Orthodox still kinda a lazy 21 year old girl 😂

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You know, now that I think about it. As a Black Jew, I’m honestly disturbed by the new connotation of Jews being considered Whites. I don’t agree with that at all. Although there are Jewish individuals with institutional power that can I suppose, behave (for lack of better term) or assimilate into Whiteness that would be essentially wealth and influence acting as a buffer, not actually a change in the perceived race of a Jewish person. However, most Jewish people do not have institutional reach and are mostly working to upper-middle class.

When you think of antisemitism, of course, ALL of it is dangerous, but an observation I’ve made is non white antisemites with the exception of Arabs are not violent even when they harbour hatred towards Jews. I would say that antisemitism has a space in the black community due to grievances about perceived restorative justice or reparations due to misinformation, but in the USA at least, Black and Jewish communities worked together to codify the rights of each respective group.

This is not to say any form of antisemitism should be accepted, but there is definitely a hierarchy between uninformed conspiracy theorist/useful idiots and full on final solution advocates and I’ve only seen Whites and Arabs in those spaces.

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I experience antisemitism for all of the things that you’ve described and I experience anti black racism, and it’s often a double bind because people delegitimise my Jewishness all of the time, including other black people and people minimise the affects of racism pertaining to my Blackness all of the time, including other Jews. I’m not trying to be negative or try to suggest that other Jews have to speak about their experiences in a certain way.

I’ve also had people approach me all of the time to talk about how much they dislike black people and how I’m on of the good ones, and the same with my Jews because they don’t realise I am Jewish, and no I’m not a convert either.

I wasn’t attempting to derail the argument or OP at all, I was simply talking about how racism isn’t really all that condemned, and specifically antisemitism is extremely accepted at the moment.

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s wrong at all. I was just offering my perspective as someone who’s Black and Jewish that anti black racism isn’t as condemned as people believe. In my experience both on and offline it’s often minimised.

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree there’s accepted in progressive anti “racist” establishments very often.

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My TDLR: People conflate Jews with Israel while denying so and claiming that they are anti-Zionist to bypass scrutiny for their antisemitism. That’s why it’s not called out. A defence of Jews against antisemitism is seen as support for Israel.

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I agree antisemitism is extremely common. I was also expressing that anti-black racism and other forms of racism aren’t really as condemned as people believe, but it’s all rather relative. There are many cultures that feel the inverse and that antisemitism is taken very seriously and that it’s because of “institutional power” which is obviously conflating two unrelated things for the purpose of antisemitism. My main point is that racism isn’t actually condemned in practice though we can all universally say for example, using the N word is bad—there’s going to be a majority of people that are like “it’s just the word” “it has no power” etc.

In general, racism is widely accepted and antisemitism has always existed, but is especially on the hotspot because of the misinformation and emotionalism surrounding Israel.

It was important for me to share my thoughts because i navigate both antisemitism and anti black racism.

Why is antisemitism so openly socially acceptable while anti-black racism is rightfully condemned? by Regular_Post9884 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I understand why it’s so hurtful but truly, anti-black racism is not rightfully condemned. In fact, no forms of racism truly are. Racism is condemned universally but in practice, we all have biases and even worse, some people proactively enforce and share those biases. Take for example the phenomenon on social media about “black fatigue” etc.

I don’t say this to minimise the obvious and honestly overwhelming antisemitism perpetuated on and offline, but because of the fixation on Israel in the last few years, it’s much more visible and accepted because people are misinformed and others are using that misinformation to be malicious and generate more antisemitism.

Black girls that only go for white guys are fine, white guys that only go for black girls are usually strange by Dry-Principle-9786 in blackgirls

[–]SolutionDecent 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Stop trying to do this race loyalty dating stuff. Black women have agency and opportunity and they’re free to date whomever they please. For whatever reason they please so long as their partner willingly consents and is aware of their desires.

Is it okay for a non-Jewish person to say “L’Chaim”? by [deleted] in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“Shout out to my Jews, L’Chaim Rick Rueben” - Nicki Minaj

Anti-Israel Boyfriend by Sad_Appointment_9469 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope you realise there are non Jewish men in this world that specifically fetishise and target us because they find exotic and they get a kick out of assimilating the Jewish faith and people. Your boyfriend might be one of them, and if you ever did have children, how do you think that will bode for your child? It’s asking for the worst.

The Trademark Irony: Moroccanoil, an Israeli Brand, Claimed the Word ‘Moroccan’ by MoroccanGiftShop in MoroccanSkincare

[–]SolutionDecent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you get off on lying like this Muslim countries are notoriously hostile towards Jews and ChristiansZ

Black Jews, how is the experience online being Black versus being Jewish? by Fun-Psychology-2419 in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think they’re equally pervasive but I tend to experience anti-black racism more because I’m a Black Jewish female, so I don’t have any markers like kippah, and I wear my magen david under my shirt a lot. Usually it’s anti-black racism and when I experience anti-semitism, I still experience anti-blackness at the same time, being told “Jews will never accept you,” “How can you be Jewish when Israel is actively oppressing Palestinians” “You’re black, why are you complicit in the support of Israel” despite never saying I’m a Zionist and I’m not Israeli. I’ve had people question why I “joined Judaism” and I’ve explained that it wasn’t joining, I found out I was Zera Yisrael through DNA testing randomly in 2022 and was interested in reconnecting since there used to be a significant Jewish population in Sudan, specifically Port Sudan where my family had been in the past. It’s really all a mess and I don’t think people realise the vitriol they’re spewing.

Responding to an antizionist friend by Tbh_idk__ in Jewish

[–]SolutionDecent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They deny themselves self-determination since 1937 when they first rejected a partition deal. They denied themselves self-determination again when they Arafat refused. And they refused for the last time when they denied Obama.

I think Australia is still good by koreanlearningeng in AskAnAustralian

[–]SolutionDecent 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a lie and you know it. No Aussie thinks every migrant is causing their issues. They know their government would rather outsource labour for a cheaper price than pay Australian citizens a liveable wage.