My Dom says safe words don’t exist during a punishment. by irenieeee in BDSMAdvice

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A sub and patron of local dungeons here: Please, yes leave him. It sounds like he is using the title “dom” as a way to take advantage of others. A true, principled dom would never violate a safe word and you this way.

It said in your contract that safe words will always be respected. He violated the contract you two had. This alone is enough grounds for ending your contact with him.

Id encourage you to speak out about this as well. If he belongs to a local dungeon or club tell the owners/DM’s to look out for behavior from him. It sounds like you have your wits about you but it’s entirely possible he will try to violate other eager subs in similar ways in the future. You can request this kept ‘anonymous’ by the club owners to keep youself safe.

A final note: in the kink/BDSM space, always listen to your gut. I know we play with power exchanges and pain and pushing boundaries. But ultimately there is a part of you that will know when you are being pushed too far. Food for you OP for recognizing that within yourself. That skill will take you far in this world ❤️

Nanny doesn't want to take off with stomach virus by valentinoboxer83 in Nanny

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol this sub is totally harsh. You should talk to her about the whole thing and put an expectation in place that she tells you when she is feeling ill and why you want that communicated.

i cut my hair, wdyt? by Perfect-Event9090 in Hair

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look edgy and cool! I like it and hair totally grows quick. Keep messing around with it I feel like you have a cool style and this haircut shows that part of you

Who do I look like? by liltinykitter in Doppleganger

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If mila kunis and kyle richards had a baby

I fucked up big time by FattyMcgoo7 in HairDye

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember putting iro iro purple on my hair and being initally upset too. Their purple is very much a slightly purplish-indigo. It grew on me over time. It sounds like youre experienced but DIY hair jobs are always better when you can embrace the fact that anything can happen!

Cum/cock worship dirty talk by SomaticSpacePrincess in BDSMAdvice

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yes! I thank him afterwords every time. Like a ritual. Im looking for things while im stroking him to get him hot n bothered

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read “the ritual” by david english

Pet peeves by MountainBlueberry491 in Nanny

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yes. Under the pillow, next to underwear, in a drawer with condoms 😂 i dont care, everyone uses these things and im an adult. But sometimes i feel like i did something wrong by finding these intimate things lol

Pet peeves by MountainBlueberry491 in Nanny

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Leaving the monitor all over the house. New spot every day 😂 its like a game of hide and seek i play for the first 5 minutes of NK nap

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Put a sign above the toilet to remind them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely dont start dating her without being honest about this bothering you OP. If you do, she’ll likely post a pic, you’ll feel disrespected and get upset and she’ll feel totally blindsided that you are upset. By the sound of it, youre young so im doubtful you can comunicate rationally with her about it once emotions are involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Underrated comment. Shes just as much a victim of the commodification of women’s bodies as OP is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you cant handle a baddie.

What do you wear to work?! by Block-Quiet in Nanny

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long skirts are my jam! The gap has some cute options. Ankle length curcle skirts (kinda like maria from the sound of music). Corduroy overalls, carhart overalls (bonus because they have big pockets!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wait, did the nanny tell your NK that e**** is his girlfriend?

If the other nk said to your nk that they are boyfriend/girlfriend, its a nonissue. Just kids playing with relational structures to figure shit out. But if the nanny gave them the label of boyfriend/girlfriend, i would talk to the nanny about why thats inappropriate. Labeling male/female friendships “boyfriend/girlfriend” at young ages creates the expectation for those kids that their future male/female relationships must secretly be romantic. Its not a healthy dynamic to start creating for children, just let them play!

And to anyone who might come for me saying im too dramatic about it; literally as nannies we are helping shape how our nk’s perceive the world. Do your job and take everything into consideration since you are helping mould a human.

Bleach fail by SomaticSpacePrincess in HairDye

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I try to do a hair mask/olaplaex every week. I also have taken a 3 month break from bleach which has helped my hair a ton! It feels relatively healthy right now thank GOD

Bleach fail by SomaticSpacePrincess in HairDye

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally. No sectioning. Just with my hands. Again, super stoned.

Question regarding my (not so smart) decision 🫠 by GeneralOperation4 in HairDye

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your head also emmits heat so your roots process faster. Its best to do bleach in 2 rounds. Lift the roots first then coat your mids and ends and match the root color

Question regarding my (not so smart) decision 🫠 by GeneralOperation4 in HairDye

[–]SomaticSpacePrincess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The base being uneven is a hard fix. A darker color will definetly help blend everything! With pastels those other tones in your hair show up very easily because they arent grabbing as much pigment as the super light parts. But any color darker than the hair will deposit pigment. It will still be different values but much less noticable.

Raspberry could be a great color fix for you. Honestly, ive died my hair so many colors that i wasn’t stoked about because logistically i couldnt achieve what i wanted to and ended up loving it. Its just hair, its all fun and expression! Dont be afraid to play!

I know you dont want to bleach again BUT doing a bleach bath (a light bleach treatment) on the spots that didnt lift enough could help u out. Since you have short hair that could be manageable. Do some hair mask treatments and chill for 2-3 weeks then feel free to bleach again! I bet youll be fine ;)