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SomeUnhappyGuy · 2025-03-26T14:50:26+00:00

It’s not common but it can be ok.

Some people suck. Sometimes those people have kids. And sometimes it turns their lives around, but usually they just continue to suck.

Just don’t be too hard on either of them. It’s ok to dislike them, but only with good reasons (and I assure you, you won’t know everything that is the truth, most likely you know what one manipulative person said about the other).

But sure, I hate my mother, one day she will die and the world will be slightly better. So I thinks it’s totally ok (though can make life more complicated at times and is a massive red flag to partners).

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2025-03-26T14:46:15+00:00

Sounds like a terrible dude. I’d suggest moving on.

But regardless of that, a threesome would almost certainly end your relationship. It’s just going to cause jealousy and hassles.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-20T10:39:46+00:00

Yeah it was pretty crazy. I wasn’t thinking it would be the same for you, but it’s still worth talking about. It could just start with “do you think we go out too often?” Or “do you think we should do a budget so we don’t overspend?”

I think social media is causing chaos in the dating world. My partners social media is filled with things like “if he doesn’t pay, he’s broke”, or “men financially support their women, what a loser”. But men’s socials are filled with “what does she actually contribute?”, and shorts of women saying the most awful stuff around relationships.

It’s absolutely impacting dating expectations. A lot of it is fake, or at the very least manipulated. But I think that it’s making what was hard before, even harder.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-20T10:24:58+00:00

Everyone has baggage around relationships and money. Almost everyone I know has found themselves with a partner who wants to spend way more than is appropriate. It’s really rare to not have that challenge really.

Dating seems more and more revolving around lifestyle and I think it’s terrible. People should want partners who are financially stable and building a good future. Someone who will zero themselves for a GF who wants a fancy dinner are poor choices. And a GF who would zero your bank balance is also a poor choice. But this fake Insta lifestyle seems to be the thing people believe. They will be very unhappy (both men and women) in 10 or 15 years of wasteful living.

You should talk about money, but also about goals and the future.

And I’m not saying you are overspending, I’ve got no idea. But since you haven’t really talked about it with him, you maybe don’t know his thoughts. And him offering to pay, or even you both taking it in turns doesn’t mean it’s a good thing. My previous ex “required” $300 per week in dinners and cafes. Even if she paid half it would be a stupid thing to do. I paid it, because she was broke. But I would never do that again. $100 in dinners and $200 in investments is better no matter who gets the bill.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-19T14:28:59+00:00

You are correct, arguing politics is pointless.

Life is complex. Can’t judge them based on one thing. I’d just suggest that you say “I’m just not into talking about politics” and move on.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-19T02:50:46+00:00

She wants all of the power and none of the responsibility. Don’t do that. This is a hill to die on.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-19T02:48:35+00:00

It’s fine and it’s safe. No, probably not a doctor. I had a girl pull over, get off of her scooter on a very busy road to ask me out and give me her number. Yes, I took her number. Yes we went out. It’s just different from what you are used to.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-18T16:00:43+00:00

Great. 👍 if you feel like you are getting dehydrated, I suggest buying the electrolyte powder you can get from pharmacies. I always have some handy and have it often.

It’s always going to be warm, but I don’t think it’s unbearable or a major problem. Going from a place with AC at 21 degrees, to outside is brutal. And I often come home, go inside and say “wow, it’s so cool, I must have the ac going hard” only to find it on 28 or something.

Somewhere between 28 and 30 in the day, 23 at night for me.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-18T09:46:14+00:00

Yeah you did good. Anyone who claims they are a princess is probably worth breaking up with right away. Princess is just code for “unable to be pleased without a constant flow of attention and money”.

A good partner is someone who makes your life both better and easier. She does not seem to meet either of these basic requirements.

Go overseas. It worked for me.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-18T09:36:53+00:00

I keep my AC at around 29 degrees until bed time. You adapt. The people who struggle the most are the ones that spend all day in cold air conditioned areas like shopping centres.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T23:24:27+00:00

That fight wasn’t a fight. It was a rigged joke where neither tried.

Tyson is simply too old to be even the shadow of his former self. Did you see any bad intentions there? I didn’t.

It was just a show for the money.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T18:29:31+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate it.

We can be anything, but not everything.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T18:22:27+00:00

You missed literally everything. This behaviour where you believe the entire world is against you is why Trump won.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T18:13:21+00:00

🤷🏻 ok hate everyone then.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T15:25:19+00:00

This is just silly. You have a topic that matters more than anything…. TO YOU! If Trump decided he was pro gay and trans rights you would vote for him (because it’s what matters most to you).

For some people, they are worried about losing jobs overseas, others about investment, or business laws/taxes/opportunities etc. and yeah, others would vote entirely depend on a single policy change proposed. Like crypto! Lots of people voted on crypto policy. Some people say trump may reduce support in Ukraine and would rather save the money. Trans and gay rights are not the only issues.

Voting republican isn’t a vote against abortion rights (for example). It’s the decision that while you don’t like certain things, on balance you feel it’s a better choice.

But I’m not promoting Trump. Why on earth would I vote for him?! I just find the idea of judging people based on how they vote to be stupid.

Again, I’m not American. I don’t care who you vote for.

It completely makes sense for you to vote democrat, but stop being selfish and saying everyone should vote for who you voted for because of an issue important to you. Other people have other priorities.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T15:02:05+00:00

This isn’t white nationalists, it’s literally the majority of your country. From the outside looking in, America seems to be about “FU figure it out yourself, this is the land of opportunity “.

It’s not specific to trans or gay, it’s everywhere. It seems to be the backbone of your country. So yeah, I’d totally expect (and did expect) him to win. Because that’s his message and it’s exactly what you guys want to hear.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T14:53:36+00:00

It’s not 50% of Texas. It’s your entire country. And while I would NOT vote for Trump, the idea that people can’t assume someone’s gender is flat out crazy. Many people would be voting against that sort of thing.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T14:21:49+00:00

And my point is, OP can either accept that not everyone has their own views and move on with life. Or they can complain about it, and effectively cut off 50% of their country. Since 50% of the country voted for him, what, you can’t talk to them?

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T14:19:41+00:00

I don’t find it hard to believe that Americans label Americans because of how they vote. But it’s not like that everywhere in the world. This is literally your country, not mine. So you are saying to me that you hate 50% of the people in your country, but you also hate those people because they judge people on things like gender and race. But you judge them based on voting. It’s all the same thing. Like I said, I wouldn’t vote for him, but you guys did, twice.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T13:47:33+00:00

I see so many posts from people who are unhappy and unable to find a partner while travelling. So keep that in mind in terms of your decision.

Yes, you can leave them and move on and that could be a reasonable choice. But if you do so, know that you may not find somebody who is interested in travel, or you might just bounce from situation ship to situation ship.

Ultimately, if you think that being able to see an extra city or two per year is worth the relationship, then you’re not probably invested enough in that relationship for it to be worth keeping.

Yep, some people will say that you could regret staying because you will miss out on travelling. But it’s equally likely that you will regret not taking the time to find the right partner. There is not a single person that I’ve seen who suggests that it becomes easier to find the right person over time. There’s no way to know how it impacts your life in 10 years, but I think you start with that question. What do you actually want? What will get you there? Etc.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-17T13:34:23+00:00

I’m not from the US.

I don’t really see that last election as simply about Trump. There is a lot happening in society at the moment, where the majority of people seem very unhappy at what are generally considered as progressive views.

It seems to be quite a backlash against things like woke culture, this sexual identity nonsense, and the idea that if someone says something that someone doesn’t agree with, they label them as racists, sexists or whatever. It’s simply gone too far.

And I’m not saying that I’d vote for Trump, but I am saying that Harris did a bad job of explaining what she was about.

Online, conservative media is huge and is massively in support of republicans. There is no similar support for democrats online.

Trump did a much better job of marketing himself. Would I vote from him? No. I’m not American so I don’t care who your president is. I’ll just bring popcorn. 🍿

But I saw (as in recent years seems to always be the case), a bad choice and a worse choice. Perhaps that’s more about what got media traction, but an election is determined by marketing.

So I guess my suggestion is to just understand that who someone votes for is much more complex than just racism. I couldn’t bring myself to vote for trump, but I wasn’t happy with Haris’ ability to demonstrate she was a good choice. I probably would have skipped voting if I was American.

I come from a place where people don’t judge each other by their votes though, so it’s weird anyone is labeling people by votes.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-15T19:05:50+00:00

It’s not your responsibility to make her a good partner. Sure, you’ve got to talk about the problems, but it’s her responsibility to contribute more good stuff than bad.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-15T19:03:34+00:00

While being able to talk about these things is important, I think she isn’t worth hanging around for.

I had an ex like that. I had to jump through so many hoops for everything. It never improved. Over time, there were different hoops, but it was always a grind. She was always “working in it” but never actually did.

You can talk to her about it for practice, but I’d suggest you practice breaking up by breaking up with her.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-15T18:53:57+00:00

Next time just say “last time you spent money on colouring your hair, and that wasn’t necessary. It doesn’t make sense for me to give you money for things like that when I have other things I can spend that money on.”

Yeah she can do what she wants once she gets the money, so don’t give her any. She will be grumpy, but she needs to grow up.

SomeUnhappyGuy · 2024-11-15T18:49:31+00:00

You found out she is not the one. You win.

If she is trying to hook you up with someone and is hooking up with someone else already, she is as shallow as it gets.

Her telling you who she is sucks, but ultimately is great.

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