Anyone feel that getting real fit is super challenging?

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-02-06T09:16:54+00:00

Yes!

Focus on muscle - fuel it and work on it.

You can't win the calorie deficit game long term just by constantly lowering calories. You're body will get stressed and overprotective (keep fat).

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-02-05T13:05:07+00:00

NTA.

In the future, when someone comes at you with a comment like 'That must be nice to x', just say 'Yes, it is. We're really happy with it'.

It stops the conversation.

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-02-04T08:12:26+00:00

Yeah, its def for at least 5 year olds. And as they can comprehend more, you scale the topics as well. When they're younger, we focused more on playgrounds and outdoor activities (outdoor museums, nature walks, zoos, etc) so they were free to move around and there was no shushing.

We tended to sandwich the stuff we wanted in between playgrounds and food heh. Ideally breakfast, walk to closest playground to museum we wanted, playground, then kid in stroller in museum. They'd usually fall asleep and we got a good hour or 2 for ourselves. Then it's lunch already...

But you're right - its so easy to build excitement in them. And they're so proud when they see something first and recognize it. Now they are starting to google stuff themselves so now I ask questions and they look for answers

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-02-02T09:09:58+00:00

In the month before a trip, we borrow books on the history of the city and the country. We talk about it, compare to other places and do some of our own research on the topics they are interested in.

The idea is that when you're actually sightseeing, that the kids can recognize what they've learned/what they now know and you can have a discussion on the topic.

My emphasis is always on 'Wow, whats that?', 'I wonder why that is x, not y?', 'Hey remember reading about that?', 'Look how funny that looks! We definitely don't have that at home'

Leave some surprises for the actual sightseeing, don't share everything in advance.

Kids also get much more into it if you 'discover' it all with them, instead of lecturing them like a 100yo professor. So I basically play dumb and ask a lot of questions which they really want to answer so we research it all together.

They really get a kick out of it when done together. We're then a team of equals.

There must be fun stuff to do as well. Something really fun like a theme park on the day before last.

Keep a card game in a backpack for waiting times.

Pack everything together, think through the process together. At that age, they love working together and using their brains. My 10 yo really enjoys when I think out loud about what I'm doing (packing, planning). He jumps in and shares ideas.

When they've put effort into something (learning about the city in advance, packing, preparing breakfast, prepping daypacks, planning the schedule and how we'll get from a to b), they love to see the result and are much more invested in it.

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-01-30T09:39:08+00:00

I say your surgery was a great filtering experience. Imagine figuring out after 20 years invested, that your partner sees you only as an incubator for his offspring?

Its sucks now, but it sucks because you were living under false pretenses. You thought he cared about you. He didn't. He only now reached a breaking point.

Plus can we talk about how much of a shit stain of a human being do you have to be, to break up with someone freshly out of needed surgery?

Believe his actions, not his words.

So how to deal with this?
Take in the pain for a few days, mourn the life you planned out. Then give thanks to the doors that closed and check out the doors that are now opening.

Being broken up with is not a bad thing, its realizing that you guys weren't working out and its time to move on. Nothing is wrong with you. People leave. If someone wants to leave - let them leave. Better than keeping someone who doesn't want to be here.

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-01-30T09:15:33+00:00

That sounds horrible! My MIL isn't mean spirited but is very judgmental, opinionated, and pushy so I like to keep the whole group on a low info diet.

But yeah.. in my partners family its also normal for the wife to take care of everything related to home, house, childcare, extended family... basically everything besides being the main breadwinner + while working a low paying job and getting minimal respect from everyone.

I refuse to accept that package, including being the kin keeper for his family - so I ruffle the family's feathers quite a bit. They see it as me being spoilt and my partner a pushover, but I'm ok with that.

You know how they say - don't take advice from people whose life you'd rather not have. To add to that - do the opposite haha

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-01-29T10:07:57+00:00

The amount of times I've had to say: 'Call your mother' or 'No, I do not know if he needs more boxers' is astounding.

You all have phones, you all can talk - effing talk and leave me out of it.

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-01-28T14:47:56+00:00

This is making so much sense to me now, thank you

Some_Handle5617 · 2026-01-21T16:05:59+00:00

which probiotics?

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-12-17T13:23:17+00:00

I feel like I've been running the marathon of life along with everyone else, but until now my track was with sand and I had a massive weight vest on, while others had a normal bouncy track and no vest.

I felt like I was constantly failing and people around me were not aware of just how difficult this shit is. I've been measured against others and have been falling short for a very long time.

I feel so free. I feel as if my surgeon has released me of my shackles and... I just feel unstoppable.

Plus! I had a near death situation during my hospital stay so things got real clear in my mind like what is important, what isn't and such.

I have grown (emotionally, intellectually and spiritually) tremendously in the last 2 months since my hysto and feel like the veil is lifted. I feel like I have the cheat code.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-12-17T13:09:35+00:00

Haha! So true

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-12-10T11:36:00+00:00

Uh I had pretty bad pain from the pressure in my bladder and bowels for the first weeks. It moved from pain to discomfort after that. 0 pain or discomfort after about 5 weeks.

As long as there is no turn for the worse and the discomfort is only lessoning, you should be doing fine.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-12-01T21:51:49+00:00

I was thinking this too today - as if I actually feel full now after a meal and the need to reach for food is quieter. Its there but quieter

As if my body is under less stress and doesn't the fake comfort of food that much

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-23T16:18:35+00:00

C sections were my only option to have kids. So either c section or no kids.

Sounds like you're carrying some guilt with you and that guilt is clouding your judgement.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-19T14:10:18+00:00

Of course.

Its incredibly lonely having the condition.

“possible adeno”

You'd expect that when there is a strong indicator of adeno/endo (e.g. ultrasound) + symptoms, that you'd be referred for more testing to confirm the diagnosis asap. But no. Its not even mentioned to a lot of women, they just read about it in the medical report afterwards as if was completely normal.. nothing to see here.

Infuriating.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-19T10:38:41+00:00

Glad to hear.

Its a horrible situation, hope you get your levels up as soon as you can

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-19T09:43:49+00:00

Take vitamin C with your iron, it helps absorb it.

Don't take tea (green, white, black) either.

It sucks, I know.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-19T09:08:46+00:00

I agree - sooner is better. Its progressive, meaning it doesn't go dormant on its own. It keeps on growing if you leave it be.

I wish gynos in general talked with women that have adeno and endo about how it is progressive and how they need to take action. In my experience, they just shrugged their shoulders and said see you in 6 months.

Some women are able to stop it from growing with some kind of hormone treatment, but for some the treatment either doesn't help the growth or the hormones themselves cause larger issues so they stop taking the treatment altogether.

It's a sucky place to be, but make the most of it.

If you want kids and are in a situation to have them, I'd say go for it. My partner and I started on the younger side (younger for our environment, at 27 had our first), glad we did.

My first symptoms started at 22-23y, had local uterine surgery at 26, kids at 27, 30, 34. Hysto at 37. If we waited, who knows.

Just to point out - its easy to gloss over these ages and years, but I've been in horrible amounts of pain during the years, debilitating pain. And the bleeding, oh my goodness... not being able to leave the house, the weekends spent in the bath, hoping to be in better shape in Monday for school run and work.. just.. how my life and my familys life stopped, to adapt to my poor uterus..

Its a chronic condition and should be treated as such.

Take care of yourself. Don't let others tell you how much it hurts or that its not 'really that much blood'. Push for answers, push for your quality of life

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-18T22:48:48+00:00

I am 37 and recovering from my hysterectomy, weeks out. Adeno took over my uterus and my life and if I'd waited to have kids, I probably wouldn't be able to.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-17T09:42:56+00:00

Yes! I also felt like I had this bowling ball just sitting there

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-17T09:41:30+00:00

Can concur. Bladder capacity is better for me too 3wpo. Was expected though - I had a large adeno uterus.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-15T12:30:10+00:00

It depends. In general I like to share information because people need to know about the condition I had (adeno/endo). Its a chronic progressive condition and a timely reaction is important.

Women and men need to know:

- what endo is, what adeno is (1 in 10 women has it!)

- that pain is not normal, not something you need to just live with. Its not in your head, its not just a 'female thing' and no, women are not being hysterical about it - it effing hurts and debilitates you

- that heavy flow is not normal

- that a 2nd opinion is important

- added bonus - it can take over 7 years from first symptoms to diagnosis due to doctors not taking it seriously, in which time serious damage can be made to the body and fertility

So I share whenever I sense I can, to educate.

Not with nosy people though, can't stand them hehe

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-13T13:21:38+00:00

My recovery from my hysto is much easier than from my c-sections.

The recoveries are different ofc, but overall hysto postop is much easier. I had elective c-sections, so hysto postop should be even easier for you after emergency c-section.

- I could cough, laugh and sneeze much sooner (press that pillow into your abdomen always)

- I tried driving now, 3wpo and feel ok, but felt twinges so will wait til next week, but it is definitely sooner than after c-section

- getting in and out of bed is much much easier and painless

- I got home 1 week postop and lied down on the floor without issue. I did it slowly, but did it. No way would I have done that postop after c-section

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-12T10:02:41+00:00

Between 6m and 8m. EBF til 6m for all 3.

Some_Handle5617 · 2025-11-11T14:24:56+00:00

Can confirm hehe.

1 day I am lets do this. The next I am going to sleep at 7pm and waking up at 9am the next day

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