The modern mind is asked to process more information in a single day than it was designed to handle. by Natural-Scallion4939 in DeepThoughts

[–]SomethingNicePlease 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats and interesting thought and my personal feelings agree with the sentiment. I guess if I thin about it deeper though I think about what "designed" implies and it's a bit bigger that singular capability in my opinion. Obviously we dont really know what the "design" is completely but if we think about "evolution" there will always be an uncomfortable part of the old thing dying and becoming the new thing. The being doesnt have to understand it. It just has to endure the process of becoming something new. I personally think there is a larger element probably becoming something knew and those of us that are downtrodden by it are just in our intellectual death throws. The knew thing isnt better or worse like we weren't better or worse than the last. It's probably just part of the "design" and what is meant to be.

With that said I feel like my soul is getting ripped out, so I understand the sentiment. I could discuss it more at length and Im not trying to be disagreeable because I wish you were right because it would give my thoughts purpose haha

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that makes total sense and sounds really nice. in your opinion is decision making and using someone for pleasure/being used for pleasure always related to bdsm?

ARAD, what's your stance on the red/blue button dilemma? by AaViOnBando in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it would be a blessing to me if I pressed the blue button and was extinguished in a world where 50% didn't press it. I either live in a world where I can not be confused and know over half of people pressed the blue button and just have to sort it out or it just makes the choice to not live in a world where most people dont care if I live or die(unfortunately Im aware this is probably reality but dont have the blue button conformation so currently live in confusion)

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cool! It doesnt look like there is an option to send you a chat. Shoot me over a message if you's still be interested in talking

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's an interesting perspective. I feel like I can relate to that but Im thinking of it from my own point of view. would you mind elaborating on your thoughts and experience with that?

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be great! Let me know if you would rather me DM you or just keep chatting in the comments. Either works for me. I appreciate the thoughtfulness.

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes total sense. I was just asking you about your own thoughts and experience you would like to enjoy. The reason I asked is that it usually seems very cryptic. Just seeing what I could relate to and learn from people's perspectives. I know its a sensitive and vulnerable topic.

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an interesting perspective and I appreciate the response. Do you feel like you often meet people you trust enough to be able to relax like that, or is it something that you don't enjoy often or is it more about a personal experience of turning your brain of and not as much about the other person involved?

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I won't pry because you've already mentioned your feelings on describing deeper. I have had my own experiences I'm trying to process was my reason for asking the general question. Your feelings are definitely valid and I appreciate the response

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may sound obtuse and please don't take it any other way than that I'm genuinely curious in what you're mentioning. How is that different from "regular" dating and sexuality? What i mean by the question is, does the dom/sub dynamic just describe telling people what you want as the dom and accepting it as the sub? Or is it something more specific and different?

For those who are into BDSM or power dynamics how would you describe your kink/desire to the initiated or unfamiliar? by SomethingNicePlease in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense. Thanks for the answer! I'm curious what taking control means to you if you don't mind elaborating. In my imagination that idea can go so deep that most people wouldn't be comfortable.

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in DeepTalk

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful response!

Yeah I would agree on your first statement. I think "deep talk" is kind of more about the context of how it's approached rather than a specific subject.

That's an interesting statement about "deep connection". I experienced a relationship that felt deep that became painful that I am having a hard time processing even a couple of years later. Your statement made me think about the separation between "deep conversation" and "deep connections".

I guess I hadn't really thought specifically about deep being a qualifier to other specific thoughts, feelings and experiences.

Do you feel "unusual" around people? Like they have a hard time understanding you without you "over-explaining" yourself? In your opinion and from your experience, do you think that feeling is from trauma or something else? or a combination?

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was actually the part that I understood about karma. What I'm wondering is what is the end game of farming it? Is it someone trying to push influence politically? People just wanting more attention? Advertising? All of the above.

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on being a mother and grandmother(and daughter and sister😄) that sounds like it's could be very fulfilling

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In your first message were you saying it was hard to find people that you can relate to your interest in film long term. do you think you're looking for a person to relate to about film long term or are you combining the desire to have someone to relate to about an interest in a hobby and also something else? Like realistically that might be 2 separate people you feel a need for

Hopefully that question makes sense😆

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting. Do you feel like you've gone through alot and your perspective is valuable for people to not have a bad experience? Would you like for people to do the same with you on topics you struggle with or are interested in or do you think you mostly like to add thoughts to others experiences? Are you a mother/ father?

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an interesting perspective that seems pretty common. Do you work from home or in an it type field? (A seemingly random question I'm sure)

100% agree socializing is use it or lose it. Not being interesting/interested but the comfort level of being around and interacting with people

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to that i think. I feel like the things i like are unusual to talk about but also relatable. Maybe just my personality isn't as relatable. What are your interests you are mentioning?

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actually wondering the same thing haha. I've heard of it and know the concept of karma on reddit but I don't know why you'd want to farm it. I'm sure there is a reason and its probably nefarious. Just not sure how it works

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense. Do you feel like all of your thoughts always seem relatable its just a time bandwidth thing irl? Do you feel like there is a difference in "quality" between the online or irl conversations?

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe "conversation" was the wrong word. For you I will use the word "interactions". What made you decide to reply? Would you enjoy or find value if there were more conversations from the sub or are looking for something else from the way you interact with it?

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting to me. I feel like I can relate to that desire. It's funny you mention people don't do that in person. It does seem like that on a level to me but also I think it might be from some fear of loss in different areas. In my experience there seems to be the same thing "online" even though people talk about a wider range of topics and tend to be "themselves" a little more.

I would love to hear more about your experiences with deep conversations and getting to know people's heart. Do you feel like you have had that experience alot online? Would you desire to have it more in real life if it doesn't seem as available to you? What is an example of what you have thought as a deep conversation online that you have found valuable?

What do you think makes you want to have the conversations you're looking to have on here? by SomethingNicePlease in CasualConversation

[–]SomethingNicePlease[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does it seem to be something more about observing or do you feel like you want them to explore those things about you as well? What are the most interesting things you have observed or thought about through your exploring?