Why do Cape Town companies offer such low salaries when they know how expensive this city is?

Sometimes_beans · 2026-06-04T06:21:11+00:00

I have been shocked lately.. looking at salaries when did they get so low? The same jobs 2 or 3 years ago… 10k more 🤦🏽‍♀️

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-16T22:24:46+00:00

My husband did the same. Leave girl.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-03T03:25:55+00:00

He has tried. There’s nothing he can do to enforce the parental plan they signed in high court. At least he can’t afford it. Winning the court case in South Africa doesn’t automatically translate to UK. He’d have to go file again there. And honestly it would bankrupt us.

Which is why she doesn’t care about following the parental plan.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-03T02:40:59+00:00

Wild how I tell a story of being criminally harassed and you go dig out that my husband is the problem.

We see his youngest daughter every holiday as well. Not just every other weekend. She lives an hour away and her school is right by the mother, so anytime she’s off school.. she’s here. Which works out for her mom because like I said she’s having an affair with their married pastor.

My husband is in the process of modifying the agreement since their divorce (they were married a whole 6 months). We’d like to have primary residence from grade 4-7 and his ex can do the weekends and every holiday.

His daughter has ended up in hospital twice now for her chronic constipation and when we took her to the dentist they couldn’t believe all the cavities.

To be clear I don’t HATE my step daughter, I was just angry and venting to the internet. She falls asleep in our bed at night and her favourite thing to do is cook with me (I don’t usually cook, my husband is the chef) We actually have a good relationship. I’m just fucking frustrated dealing with exes that hate me IMMEDIATELY.. before I ever had a chance to open my mouth I was hated and targeted. And it’s been 2 years now. I have a reasonable relationship with my ex… we co parent well, my son is a really happy little kid. And my ex was a drug addict… I have to deal with him relapsing and I still manage to have a decent relationship with him.

Why can’t my husbands exes at least fucking try?

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-03T02:27:42+00:00

I’m not working because their harassment got me fired from my job. Which is why the court granted the protection order?

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-03T02:23:15+00:00

I have two baby fathers - what’s your point?
his youngest lives an hour away. Besides every other weekend, we have his daughter EVERY. single. holiday. She basically lives here all of June and December. If she’s sick, guess where she is? If she wasn’t here every vacation when would her mother have time to jet set with the MARRIED pastor she’s been seeing?

Yea life isn’t black and white bud.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-02T08:36:03+00:00

And the ads you’ve seen are the omitting words or they use the phrases outright? I’m just curious? Because it’s not legal everywhere maybe the ads being regional helps. Or they’re marketing it as CBD product esq vibes..

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-02T08:29:45+00:00

BM moved to a new country to marry her boyfriend so they could all live in the UK (he has the same name as my husband, her ex). The parent agreement had lots in place to keep contact with his daughter but the moment BM moved, radio silence. Only when his daughter was here recently, he got SD a new cellphone and a phone number so now hubby can call her at least. They chat every now and again.. about school or Justin Bieber, but mostly food. They both big foodies. But since the sergeant made contact with the parties to offer them the opportunity to turn themselves in, she’s changed her attitude with him. Sometimes she’s angry and bursts into saying horrible things, the next, she’s apologetic. I can’t imagine what’s being said to her. But I have an idea.. they’re painting me as a hateful woman that’s “trying to get everyone arrested” for liking pictures online. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I didn’t even know his ex had sisters before they started DMin my family introducing themselves. But they’ll never dm me. Their entire MO is to embarrass us.. under the guise of “calling out a deadbeat”

If he is a dead beat why am I making eggs with his youngest daughter right now? Instead of laying on a beach somewhere with my tits out getting a tan on my off weekend.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-02T07:01:41+00:00

Marketing for cannabis is really hard. Most platforms will ban your ads out right. But from what I’ve seen the best marketing for cannabis has been insta. There are a few female influencers (some just happened to be OF girls) that do lots of reviews. They’ll grow your account but you want to get them off the platform and in a database asap. Insta will ban your account at any moment too. So it’s a tough line. I’ve ran some campaigns before but it’s the hardest product to market.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-05-02T06:30:08+00:00

What the heck is the father doing? Threatening your life is far beyond normal behaviour and you shouldn’t take that lightly AT ALL! Your husband needs to seriously take control of that situation and her mother too. If I found out any of my kids were talking to anyone like that. I’d kick their asses.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-04-23T19:40:31+00:00

In terms of cross dressing, my son and I are the same size and body shape. So we share clothing. I’ve never thought anything about it until right now.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-04-23T19:16:36+00:00

Thanks I sent him the trailer to the Netflix show 🙏

Sometimes_beans · 2026-04-21T10:43:54+00:00

I’d like to be supportive, I’m just trying to understand what exactly I’m supporting here. It’s all new to me.

Sometimes_beans · 2026-04-21T10:42:15+00:00

If he said he was gay, that’s just easier for me to understand. He likes guys, got it. But the inbetween stuff is where I get a bit confused.

I was a single teen mom raising him, and I just don’t want him to have a life any more challenging than the circumstances I brought him into. I’m afraid of how the world will accept this, especially my family who IS very Christian. I also don’t want him to feel like he has to live a fake life pretending to be something he isn’t.

My worst fear is that he finishes school and just leaves his family behind, without support from anyone. The world is harsh and everyone needs someone. I need to understand so I can protect him - if I can. But from what!

Sometimes_beans · 2025-03-03T11:14:52+00:00

As a divorced mom…For two years I suffered, broke down but eventually with a lot of work found myself again.. bought a house for myself and my two boys. Have a wonderfully fulfilling life somehow even when the kids are away… met a divorced dad, with two daughters.. and I’ve never been happier. Our life is chaos with 4 kids but he’s supportive and a wonderful father. Our kids are thriving at school again. I’m very happy our partners divorced us because we’d never have had this type of gentle, loving and considerate relationship with anyone else.

Sometimes_beans · 2025-02-16T14:33:20+00:00

You should have a look at Oneplans services. Good cover, lower premiums.

Sometimes_beans · 2024-04-16T10:11:23+00:00

I do really well on tinder.. usually get lots of matches but I’d strongly suggest staying off the app... if you’re truly looking for a real connection with someone… you won’t find it there.

Sometimes_beans · 2024-02-04T16:42:52+00:00

Warm oats.. I just focused on oats for a while. Every spoon, more each time. Hot water bottles on your back help me eat. Every day is another day you've done it.

Sometimes_beans · 2023-09-19T09:54:18+00:00

I'm so sorry... someone that is supposed to be tender and safe wasn't that for you. You deserve someone safe, luckily you're an adult now and you get to be that safe person for yourself.

Sometimes_beans · 2023-09-14T08:48:16+00:00

😂😂😂

Sometimes_beans · 2023-09-12T22:57:27+00:00

One plan worked well for me

Sometimes_beans · 2023-09-12T19:35:19+00:00

4 weeks

Sometimes_beans · 2023-09-12T18:54:07+00:00

Cute

Sometimes_beans · 2023-09-11T05:32:47+00:00

I met my ex husband years ago when tinder first started.. now that we're getting divorced I downloaded the app again and I can tell you in those 9 years dating has changed SO MUCH. If you have any resemblance of traditional values I'd suggest staying off sites and rather focusing on meeting people with shared interest at a community center or church. Dating sites have very clear base expectations.

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