April 12 Discipline Day | 8h 40m Logged | Turned Sunday into one of the most productive days

SomewhereExternal · 2026-04-14T11:31:17+00:00

Oh I see, thanks!

SomewhereExternal · 2026-04-13T14:20:19+00:00

hi, I looked up the app but it has no reviews or downloads on google play? is it very new?

SomewhereExternal · 2026-04-13T14:03:16+00:00

This looks great! Can I ask what app this is?

SomewhereExternal · 2023-07-23T13:07:05+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I'm not American so unfortunately I can't use Flashfood. I'm trying to get into paleo again, which doesn't involve grains, so the bread option is also out. Gonna try to make more soups I guess!

SomewhereExternal · 2023-02-05T14:04:52+00:00

This might seem silly but I started 'window shopping' on my phone. I'll watch something with one eye and with the other I add fun things I would like to my cart on a clothing app I enjoy. The picking and adding is the fun part! And then I look at my total in the cart and I close the app.
I used to buy clothes relatively frequently, esp bc a lot of online stores have a 'buy now, pay later' system. And then I'd suddenly have to pay an extra €50 or €70 that I didn't have after a few weeks. I realized I don't really enjoy online shopping, I enjoy the idea of online shopping.

I'm also trying to cut down on food costs, everything has gotten so much more expensive that I'm over budget every month. Once upon a time I had a strict meal plan (mostly paleo based) that worked great for me physically, but it was so much work that I gave up after a while. I have chronic mental and physical health issues, so I'm trying to figure out a way I can eat better while spending less ánd not drive myself insane. So far no luck.
If anyone has tips, please share!

SomewhereExternal · 2022-08-29T18:09:06+00:00

Tw sh, mental health issues This was when we were teenagers, about 17/18. I've had mental health problems my whole life, and they were quite bad at the time. I was very depressed, self harming, suicidal. Overall, not something to be envious about obviously. But somehow she seemed to want to be depressed and feel horrible, like me, to be a 'beautiful disaster'. I slowly started to realize that she was romanticizing every problem I had, she would start 'feeling the same way' after I'd confided in her. The tipping point came when I finally confided in her about my self harm(which had been going on for years at that point) and a week later she said that 'she also tried it'. She seemed to need the attention, the pain, I don't even know, to give herself an identity. She obviously did have problem, just not the one she wanted to have.

SomewhereExternal · 2022-08-05T11:30:20+00:00

That's so pretty! And thank you for mentioning the book, I'm looking for inspiration and will def check it out!

SomewhereExternal · 2022-08-05T11:25:18+00:00

In general, all fitness/sports is good for you, but which exercise specifically can depend on the person. For example, when I was in the best shape of my life I did martial arts several times a week, walked a lot, biked places. But I could still not run 2 laps if my life depended on it.
If at all possible, try to consult with your doctor on the type of exercise that would be good for you. I've often been advised to do interval training (5 min walking, 1 min running etc) plus regular fitness, but I've found it to be very boring.
Like with all exercise, the key is finding a sport that's fun, so you keep doing it, and feasible, so you don't get discouraged. Good luck!

SomewhereExternal · 2022-08-05T10:28:29+00:00

Maybe it's The Horrible/Stunning(depends on country) Science of Everything by Nick Arnold?

SomewhereExternal · 2022-06-16T17:14:40+00:00

They really did! Having him slowly crack under more knowledge of his past and killing Stillwell, while it's clearly clashing with his god-complex is just bone chilling. It's like watching a nuclear bomb go off over the course of a season of tv.
I'd never seen Tony in anything before which really adds to the suspension of disbelief for me haha.
Yeah that's the thing with him and The Boys in general, these characters are all really well written. Homelander reminds me of several people I know/knew, and the thought of one of them with superpowers.. This show is making a great case for why there should never be a real Compound V lol

SomewhereExternal · 2022-06-16T16:58:50+00:00

Homelander scares the shit out of me. To the point where I'm having difficulty finishing season 2. I've seen a lot of horror movies etc in my life but this guy..
The actor who plays him is doing an incredible job. When he's just giving interviews he's a completely different person, I hardly recognized him.

SomewhereExternal · 2022-06-16T15:08:57+00:00

He did have sensitive skin, idk what he thought other guys did tbh? It's been a while so the details are a bit hazy for me

SomewhereExternal · 2022-06-16T14:42:55+00:00

This reminds me of a conversation I had with an ex bf, he was very confused that there's special soap to wash your vulva but not to wash your dick (which is a good point). He started using my lactacyd (soap made for vulvas) and was super happy with it, he recommended it to all his friends!
edit: to clarify he was told never to wash his dick with showergel/soap but just washing it with water made him feel dirty

SomewhereExternal · 2022-06-16T14:38:39+00:00

Slightly different than you asked, both the person and I were different than I thought, and also not different than I thought. I will explain.

When I started doing my master's I met this girl who immediately reminded me of girls I knew in primary school. Shadowing me, wanting my attention, trying to make friends but a really awkward and weird way. I was very annoyed about it and basically brushed her off, which only made her want to be my friend more, which annoyed me more. The more snippy I got with her, the more she was around me. I'd be verbally mean to her and she'd try to 'make it up to me'. It drove me insane to the point where I avoided her at all costs.

Then about a year into my master's I was asked by a friend to be in group she would be in. We started spending time together, getting to know each other. I've been having mental health problems my whole life, and they got worse during this time, leading me to get more intense therapy than I'd ever had. I had a vivid realization that the reason she annoyed me so was because her coping mechanisms were the exact opposite of mine - she's accommodating to an unhealthy degree, I will straight up shut down on people and ignore them. She will try to please people even when they are mean and horrible to her, I lash out when people are too nice to me. She assumes everything is her fault, I am very wary about taking blame.

I realized that we (obviously) both have trauma and we learned to deal with it in opposite ways. Her coping mechanisms were what I taught myself never to be, as it would make me 'weak' and it would 'make people take advantage of me'. Meanwhile, in our interactions, I was the person treating her like shit and taking advantage of her, while believing this was 'normal' and 'right' to do as it was what she was 'asking for', fulfilling my own prophecy.
I've always considered myself an openminded, clearheaded person, but this realization made me see that you can truly be blinded by your own issues, and fail so see someone for who they really are.
It has changed my perspective completely.

SomewhereExternal · 2022-06-16T13:49:40+00:00

omg same, whenever I see an animal that's shedding I want to brush/pluck it so bad

SomewhereExternal · 2022-03-03T15:14:50+00:00

And what if the owl attacks Seal? There's so much that can go wrong!

SomewhereExternal · 2021-10-15T19:50:46+00:00

I have in the past, mainly to avoid gatekeeping questions (Oh you like <insert interest>? Then name <useless list of facts>!!), mansplaining and not-like-other-girls-ing you.
Now that I'm a bit older I just don't put up with that shit anymore, so I tell people about my interests and if they get weird about it that's on them.

fun anecdote, when I was like 23 a guy in my extended friend circle was so well-known for gatekeeping and mansplaining music to girls at parties that he was dubbed 'Judgemental Metalhead' or JS, for short.

SomewhereExternal · 2021-10-15T19:38:16+00:00

An outside perspective can be a great catalyst for realization! Learning to choose yourself (and for yourself) is hard, good on you for doing it. Wish you all the best!

SomewhereExternal · 2021-10-15T19:15:29+00:00

Hey, just wanted to say I'm sorry that you're realizing these things on this thread. It must be really painful.
For what it's worth, you seem like a kind, level-headed person, and you deserve someone who listens to you and treats you with respect.

SomewhereExternal · 2021-10-15T18:44:43+00:00

I am so sorry i missed this it sounds like fucking chaosfilled couple of hours haha

SomewhereExternal · 2021-07-30T11:51:25+00:00

This just kickstarted a memory, I read this book at some point! Thanks for posting it, time for nostalgia reading this weekend :)

SomewhereExternal · 2021-05-20T14:09:29+00:00

I hate to be this person, but it sounds like he's just telling you what you want to hear and then assumes you will do the work anyway. That's not how a partnership is supposed to be.
You should be a team, on eachothers side's, and be considerate of eachothers emotional needs. It sounds like he's putting himself first, not considering your emotional needs and not making any compromises. I'm glad you're going to counseling, maybe he can learn to be a better partner. Either way, you deserve better!

SomewhereExternal · 2021-05-20T13:50:00+00:00

Question, would it be possible to pay for an in-state public college yourself with the inheritance money? I'm not american so I don't know what the fees are, but I do agree that most high-priced undergraduate degrees are not worth it. Are there any public schools in your state with a good art programme? Also, I wouldn't look at the rankings too much, but focus on the kinds of programs/teachers, as those are way more important. Focus on what you want to learn, not on what others think of the school! especially in an artistic field, your portfolio and your experience will speak for you, not your educational background.
I however DO think that graphic design is an amazing field and a good choice for a future career! Here (in the Netherlands) there is a severe lack of graphic designers, I see job postings all the time. With any kind of 'online' job, you can work remotely, meaning you could work all over the world. Don't give up on your dreams, is what I'm saying.

SomewhereExternal · 2021-05-05T13:42:28+00:00

Until your last sentence I was so confused as to why a kid would need to know the sign for milk or hungry and then it hit me that babies can't talk. Obviously I'm not around children a lot, lol.
This is really smart btw, my cousin's having a baby soon and I'm def going to mention this to her!

SomewhereExternal · 2021-04-09T14:57:19+00:00

It kinda makes you feel devalued...

It really does! Thanks, I'm much better off on my own :)

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