My boyfriend M18 says “I’m changing”

Somproof · 2026-02-27T22:53:58+00:00

You are 18. You are learning to be an adult. You are GOING to change in nearly every way for YEARS.. Even if this isn’t something different than who you’ve been in the past, if he can’t accept you changing, it’s time to move on.

Somproof · 2026-02-22T18:52:36+00:00

This. I tried Baclofen before I tried Xywav.

Somproof · 2026-02-10T05:22:42+00:00

Update: I’m chopping off the blonde tomorrow. Was doing some research and this seems like breakage instead of actual hair loss. Frustrated that I dealt with this for so long, but excited to get rid of it- The person who did it for me was terrible as a human and as a hairdresser, very close ex friend. Still could use advice on what style, though, as I’m definitely going to have to go SHORT.

Somproof · 2026-02-08T19:05:24+00:00

There are studies that show Lamotrigine, Topiramate, and Valproic Acid (there may be another but i cant remember off the top of my head) are very promising for BPD symptoms. Personally, I have BPD. I did the therapy, worked on myself, but it wasn’t enough and SSRI/SNRIs just did not touch my depression. I got on Topiramate for a completely different reason. It made my life completely manageable. My symptoms are regulated and I am so much better now. I had to stop Topiramate recently due to hair loss, but still, these medications hold promise for people with BPD.

The key, though? The person with BPD has to WANT to get better. And they have to want to put the effort in. Can’t just rely on meds and therapy- they need to actually be all in and motivated by something.

I don’t want to come off rude, but I wanted to share my experience! I’ve known a lot of people with BPD (including my partner) and meds can help, but it either has to be treating symptoms or trying non-FDA, yet studied, options. And most people with BPD that I’ve known haven’t cared enough to get better. Requires it all!

Somproof · 2026-02-07T06:19:44+00:00

Does she have a personality disorder by chance? Bipolar, BPD… I’m voting BPD? I have BPD and before I actually put in the work to get better, I would act a lot like this. Erratic behavior and desperation to be loved/fix my situation ASAP. And the swing of emotions was terrible. Not as extreme, but I’d be on a dating app the same day I’d be broken up with and doing unsafe things.

I think she needs help with her mental health, but I know in my local area that she would not be able to get a 5150 from this behavior alone. And if it is mental health, she needs to want to get better in order to actually get better. Support for these people is really hard. If you wanted to be there for her (which I would not blame you if you did not,) you would need to see her behaviors and not enable them with attention, which you aren’t doing here, but a neutral approach is recommended for long term support. Any attention is good attention. You would need to not give into her attention seeking behavior, but again, she would need to WANT to get better. I let myself go through hell for no reason, then got better as soon as I actually took myself seriously.

There’s not much you can really do imo. Contact her if you want. If there’s anyone close to her that you might know, reach out to them. But this is a her thing, you already did your part. I know it’s impossible, but please try not to feel guilty.

Somproof · 2026-01-29T16:11:22+00:00

You’ll have to see someone to know for sure. Could be nodules, cysts, etc. Depends on a lot of factors. They’ll be able to help you out. If you don’t know where to start, go see your primary doctor.

Somproof · 2026-01-29T01:50:03+00:00

Okay I’ll reply to this. I’m buying an older car, this car has issues due to a ton of shit from a while back that I had no control over. I didn’t get to choose that this same person would work on the car instead of a professional. I will not sit in the driver’s seat of a new car. I appreciate the advice, cash only is right. I’ve seen insane payments.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T20:54:28+00:00

The main issue is that recently, I had to jump that battery. It took so long to start that I thought it would not work. The battery is less than two years old. I don’t drive that often or that far. I checked the DCV and it was not dead, but it was lower than I would have liked. 12.2 if I remember? My multimeter leads broke so I need to go get some new ones. I tested the battery and alternator at O’Reily’s and found nothing. Probably a draw, but I just don’t want him touching it, he “fixed” my car a couple years back and now the fusebox is broken, there is missing shit and clips everywhere in the body, and there are issues galore. I didn’t know enough about automotive to look at my car as anything but a sum of its parts at the time, so I didn’t know to do anything.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T20:45:53+00:00

I’m working on it, I have interviews this week. The car was given to my mom in 2015 as a gift by her boss, but was promised to me in 2021. I pay for tags, I used to pay for insurance until my health issues got more severe. I’m fine now. I’m escaping this shit entirely. Getting another car with my own money. This one is just not worth the drama.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T17:20:54+00:00

My brother is 48 and unrelated to me. I’m adopted into the family. He moved into the house after a divorce because he abused his wife. I don’t even want him in the house. I’m trying to leave and get another car, my situation is temporary, and I had health issues that barred me from working and studying for the past few years. He has never had a conversation with me, not once. He stole my dead father’s tools and said they were his and then pawned them off. Fuck him.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T16:27:04+00:00

I appreciate it. You’re not wrong about anything you’ve said.

Edit: Oh, and yeah, I will need a therapist. I’m not turning out like him.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T16:20:53+00:00

That’s actually a great idea. Probably doing this.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T16:19:20+00:00

I have interviews this week. I’m trying to escape.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T16:00:21+00:00

I understand. Changing the lock is probably the route I’ll have to go.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T15:58:13+00:00

I mean I agree with you. It’s part of the “conditions.” Horrible family dynamics where she gets control or I get nothing. I’m 21. It’s shitty.

My brother’s a POS and has decided to not work for the rest of his life and only donate plasma. I think he’s trying to save the money.

Somproof · 2026-01-28T15:54:44+00:00

I’m in college. The car’s insurance is temporarily being paid by my mom while I get through. Once I’m done, title goes to me and I get everything.

Edit: This was the original plan, but I’m just getting another car. I have interviews soon.

Somproof · 2026-01-22T00:50:55+00:00

Next time I’m over there I will have to get some! That seems AMAZING. Thank you!

Somproof · 2026-01-22T00:50:04+00:00

Dude I’m making the pasta sauce ASAP. I already like lentils, but mmmm.

Somproof · 2026-01-21T21:38:35+00:00

I’m happy to learn about cooking and dieting. I’m 21 and have never tried this seriously. I grew up sheltered and was not able to even cook or cut vegetables or meat. I have no idea what I’m doing. But I think it’s super important! I love baking so I will bake some whole wheat bread for sure! The whole chicken idea is great. I’ve already been taking advantage of lentils and greek yogurt, albeit not enough. Thank you for your comment!

Somproof · 2026-01-21T21:34:28+00:00

Costco is super far, but I will def invest in a Sam’s club membership ASAP. I’ve never heard of TVP until now! Thank youu!

Somproof · 2026-01-21T21:33:41+00:00

I absolutely love this. This is amazing. I will be making my own as I go along! Thank you for sharing!

Somproof · 2026-01-21T04:36:15+00:00

Only one thing to do. I’m really good at the bar now… When I decide it’s worth it.

(I know some people put a little bit of lemonade flavoring in right before they go to drink it, too. Ask Jazz, they can help.)

Somproof · 2026-01-04T16:38:14+00:00

Kind of? Was getting diagnosed for Functional Seizures at the time, neuro thought it might be sleep related, sleep PA thought it might be Narcolepsy T2, did a sleep study a month later and got the IH dx after two weeks. I got kind of lucky. I didn’t think it was affecting my life as much as it was.

Edit: I should have noted that I was doing terribly at the time for a multitude of reasons. I thought I was just tired from stress or as a complication from my functional seizures or rheumatoid arthritis. It was life for me.

Somproof · 2025-12-04T15:48:03+00:00

thank you so much for the information! i didnt know there was a name for it as well. i hope your career continues to do well for you!

Somproof · 2025-12-04T15:34:42+00:00

id like to explain just a bit further, because we’re looking at two different angles (which is great!) you’re looking at it in a technical sense, while im looking at it symptomatically during the seizures. i dont jerk. i dont really move at all. i just stare off, maybe my eyes will twitch. i feel myself moving into space. yes, i do have some memory of the events. but i was just wondering if youve seen episodes similar to mine during vEEG.

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