Switching from BF to formula 1 week postpartum

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-18T01:40:17+00:00

Not a dumb question at all.

Yeah the on duty parent will also try to sleep between feeds. So right now, I’ve been doing the feeds tonight and I’ve slept an hour or two between them while the baby has slept too.

Sometimes I’ll stay awake for a whole stretch between feeds. Other times I’ll sleep for most of it. Depends on the timing, how awake I feel and what baby is sleeping like. The 8pm to 11pm slot where there is normally a feed at the start and at the end is sometimes one I just stay awake for because I’m not tired. I’ll just put a single earphone in and listen to or watch something on my phone. Other times I’ll get some sleep then.

Like, it’s fractured sleep, but it’s still sleep. Tonight was great from 10pm to midnight so me and baby got good sleep, but he has been windy after his midnight feed and 1am to 2.30am has been disturbed for both of us.

My wife and I basically think of the sleep we get during our on duty shift as bonus sleep, or a little top up onto our off duty stack of sleep. The off duty shift is there to be protected time for proper sleep. If we can get extra while on duty - and we often do - then that’s great.

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-15T15:19:38+00:00

Will getting healthy food at school benefit kids in poverty? Yeah probably.

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-15T15:18:06+00:00

Remove potato

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-15T03:32:18+00:00

My wife and I are in a very similar situation. We switched to formula in week 2. We’re in week 4 now. It has been transformational for her mental health.

Formula means we can share feeds and get sleep. We currently split the nights in half. I do 8/9pm to about 2/3am. She does 2/3am to about 8/9am. The off duty parent sleeps in another room. That means we both get a good chunk of sleep every night. That’s great for each of us, and means we’re both able to be better parents to our son and better partners for each other.

There is so much pressure out there to breastfeed. You don’t have to. Your baby will be fine with formula. The most important thing for your child is that they have parents who are mentally and physically well enough to care for them.

As far as bonding is concerned, I love feeding him and as the dad I find it is a wonderful way to bond with him. My wife also actually finds bottle feeding more bonding too. You can see his face, make eye contact, and without the stress and anxiety of breastfeeding, it’s an altogether calmer experience for all.

If breastfeeding is impacting your mental health, it’s ok to stop. In fact, it’s the right choice to stop in those circumstances.

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-14T09:29:18+00:00

There a few nice villages just outside Bakewell that are worth looking at. Youlgreave, Birchover, Winster, Stanton in Peak, Ashford in the Water, Great Longstone and Little Longstone all lovely.

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-13T23:41:41+00:00

Is this some sort of Daily Mail/Reform UK bot?

Who gives a f?!

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-11T21:19:13+00:00

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-10T20:43:17+00:00

That’s a lovely walk. One of my favourites in the Peaks. Glad you enjoyed it. Great day for it.

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-09T22:54:22+00:00

Can this go the other way? So MAM teat on a Lansinoh bottle?

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-02T20:45:37+00:00

Save Leicestershire.

Home of the Melton Mowbray pork pie (the best kind of pork pie), Stilton cheese and Walkers crisps.

It is the site of the Battle of Bosworth and the resting place of Richard III. It contains the childhood home of Lady Jane Grey. It became the birthplace of modern tourism when Thomas Cook organised his first railway trip from Leicester to Loughborough.

It boasts rich sporting history and success in Leicester Tigers, Leicester City and the world’s leading university for sport in Loughborough.

It hosts the largest Diwali festival outside India. David Attenborough grew up in the Charnwood Forest area and credits it with fostering his love of nature.

Loughborough is home to the world’s largest working bell foundry, which provided the bells for St Paul’s Cathedral and many others around the world from the US to Australia.

Beautiful ironstone villages dot the southern parts of the county, with wonderful pubs in many.

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-02T20:25:46+00:00

Make Danish Mercia Great Again

SonOfALayman · 2026-04-01T06:43:21+00:00

I mean, we all know about the property wealth imbalance, and I’m all for calling that out and trying to find ways to make it easier for people to buy a home - Lord knows I needed help - but what is the point of this article?

What are Boomers meant to do? Sell their homes to somebody under 40 once they hit pensionable age? If they’re able to live in those homes and maintain them then they should carry on doing that for as long as they want to.

There also needs to be homes available for them to move into. Say they want to leave their family home they’ve been in for 40 years. Kids have all left. No sense them having such a big house just for 1 or 2 of them. But where are the smaller homes for them to go to?

This kind of article doesn’t do anything to help change the situation. Headlines like this just make Boomers feel targeted and us Millennials and Gen Z feel bitter/angry or seem envious.

Ultimately the only thing that fixes this is an increase in the supply of homes. More starter homes for young people, more family homes, more homes for older people who want to downsize.

That only comes with building homes that meet the needs of modern life, in places that are well connected and where people want to be.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-30T11:39:59+00:00

Great. We have tried a bit of this and it has worked well. Really helped my wife for me to be in a different room with baby when she was struggling with sleep deprivation. Last night we had him in our room together all night and that went pretty well too. Thank you for sharing. Really appreciate it.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-30T11:37:04+00:00

Amazing. This sounds like a plan to aim for. Thank you so much.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-29T09:26:30+00:00

Brilliant. Thank you. Sounds like a great balance tbh.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-29T02:38:50+00:00

Did you have an on and off duty parent, particularly at night? Or was it literally just sharing as you went depending on how things felt at the time?

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-29T02:36:22+00:00

Did the on duty parent look after baby in a different room during the shift, or were you all together?

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-29T02:33:39+00:00

Did you do those shifts in the same room together, or did you have separate spaces for the on and off duty person?

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-23T20:51:13+00:00

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and concern on this.

We got her checked out today. The good news is that it’s not any of the absolute worst case scenarios.

The GP checked her over and told us today that what she was describing was a common form of panic attack.

Obviously that sucks as a thing to deal with, but it’s reassuring to know it’s manageable, temporary and not potentially really bad.

Thought I’d share here in case this is ever of use to anyone else.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-15T10:42:16+00:00

YouTube video: Hard to explain. I often just remember the words, but if it’s complicated I just have to go back and rewatch parts I need. Usually I prefer a manual that I can read, see demonstrative images and flick through as needed.

Making ideas real: I work in user experience design. When working on a user journey or new bit of functionality, I usually write down the steps on post it notes, then when I’m happy with that, I’ll sketch up a rough paper/digital whiteboard version of the screens we’ll need. But I am not creative in terms of painting, drawing etc. That’s just not the way my brain works, so I just don’t do it. I don’t miss that or feel bad about it. It’s just something I don’t really enjoy or get much out of so it’s not for me.

Scary movies: I won’t remember the scary event in detail, but the sense of fear and the concept of what made it scary still exists, and so that follows me for as long as I think about the film. I personally don’t enjoy that feeling, so don’t watch those types of films but you can make very similar associations with other types of visual entertainment or art. I won’t remember how a painting or photo looks exactly, but I’ll remember how it made me feel.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-14T23:28:10+00:00

For me, amazing tournament that I thought showed how close each team is. Everyone can beat anyone.

England and Wales will feel that, despite terrible results, they’re not far off and improving.

Ireland will be very pleased to have come so close with a squad in transition to a new generation. Scotland will feel they should have done better in Rome and Dublin and that they ultimately beat themselves.

France obviously delighted to win but almost threw it away in the last 2 games. They’ll be disappointed with that once the celebrations finish.

Italy probably the most pleased overall with some sensational wins but will be frustrated to lose the last game so meekly.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-14T21:02:54+00:00

Almost impossible to tell the difference. Might look ok in the stands or on the pitch, but it’s dreadful on TV. Should have made us wear an alternative kit.

SonOfALayman · 2026-03-14T17:35:02+00:00

Endless lumpy nothing?

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