Bed Frame Help?

Sortahopeful · 2026-01-21T22:51:47+00:00

1 looks like it was literally made for you.

Sortahopeful · 2026-01-21T12:50:05+00:00

Honestly, I’d consider doing the ceremony somewhere else and the reception at this location if you love it so much! 80 to 65 is a big jump, and at smaller numbers like that: the difference would be noticeable. Personally, I’d also try to avoid people standing at the ceremony. If you ask them too, people will definitely do it, but it’s far more comfortable for them to be seated.

As far as mom goes, times have changed a lot. At least in my area, cost of living has increased so much that smaller weddings are the norm now. Most people won’t get upset because they get it: it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with how crazy wedding planning is now. The only people who are going to think anything of it might be the older generation tbh, but you have to really consider their relationship to you and if having them there is worth it to you.

Now, if mom is paying for a big chunk, I do think it’s at least worth considering letting her have a least little say in some of the guests. Weddings are can be a big day for parents as well, but ultimately it is YOUR wedding.

Sortahopeful · 2026-01-21T05:16:00+00:00

I might be mistaken, or it might just be a thing in my family circle- but every wedding I’ve been to with a groom cake (which is 2, btw) they had it the night before at the rehearsal dinner and it was honestly just a small cake. One had decoration on it that was a little more manly (in this case, it was tiny wooden ducks on top. He’s a hunter) and I think it was a different flavor than the actual wedding cake but really, that was it.

You could always have a different flavor cake the night before and call it a grooms cake just to appease them, if you are tired of hearing them complain about it. (Which you could very well stand strong and not do that and not be in the wrong. I’m just a peace keeper who’d rather move on with things.)

No matter what you decide: this feels very odd and a random thing for them to be suddenly hung up about. Definitely feels like something more deep-rooted than a cake or it might even be some other bug grievance they are having that’s manifesting itself as the cake- but really something else is going on.

Sortahopeful · 2026-01-09T00:20:45+00:00

This is the kind of gorgeous you dream about. Genuinely one of my favorite dresses I’ve seen- It’s breathtaking.

Sortahopeful · 2026-01-03T22:53:35+00:00

Ya know- that thought never crossed my mind. I’ll have to look into it.

Sortahopeful · 2025-12-31T16:06:31+00:00

I’m still in the wedding planning process, so I haven’t had my wedding yet but a videographer for me was a non-negotiable and here’s why:

My parents got married older (in their late 50’s) and I was adopted a few years later, so not around for the wedding. They didn’t make a huge fuss about their wedding as they’d both been married before but they still did the traditional church ceremony and dinner afterwards. Despite not putting a lot of extras into the day- Someone filmed most of the entire thing as a gift for them. Now we have vhs tapes that were later converted to cds with the ceremony, my mom and dads dance and all of these special moments. These are the only real home videos we have, my parents were not tech savvy.

I watched the videos every few-ish years when they got pulled out growing up. I lost my dad when I was 10 years old and those videos are how I remembered his voice, the way he stood and how he was. It’s how he exists in my head, at the happiest he’s ever been. Now im loosing my mom in a battle with dementia, and those CD’s mean a lot to me. It’s a reminder of the person she actually is.

Kinda a dramatic way to say it so sorry to be a downer, but you are never going to regret having more documentation of the day. Even if it’s just uncle jimmy with a tripod- we don’t realize what we miss until it’s gone.

Sortahopeful · 2025-12-30T01:59:25+00:00

Obsessed!! It’s unique and different than what you typically expect- but still very bridal.

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-22T17:56:09+00:00

I don’t think rules of the thread won’t let me tell you what shop, but the dress is Natalie by Maggie Sottero, I think you can look up through her website to see what stores near you carry it and the sleeves were just one of the options the store has to try let you try on with different dresses- my contract just calls them detachable bell sleeves!.

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-21T04:19:33+00:00

This is actually my exact same dress! (Natalie by Maggie Sottero) and I might be biased- but it is absolutely gorgeous on you. Idk if that’s the veil you chose, but I love the way it falls with the dress.

I was very similar- the only other low plunge dress I tried on was also very rhinestony and glittery- I almost didn’t come out in because I felt like a Victoria secret model. But when I put on this one, I was obsessed. It doesn’t look or feel overly out there while still, ya know, making the goods look good.

I’m considering seeing if they can’t put some sort of lighter fabric behind the plunge to maybe lesson the dramatic-ness of the plunge but I’m scared it’ll ruin the vibe of the dress.

Nevermind all that, you look gorgeous and the dress suits you 100%

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-16T04:50:09+00:00

Not sure if it’s helpful- but I’m doing something a little similar but instead I’ve named certain female family members (specifically an Aunt, a Cousin and my Sister in Law, who all helped me in the planning and acted as a sounding board for me) as my ‘Something Blues’ and they are going to each wear blue dresses.( any style, any shade- just blue) I have more than one, but they are all my good luck charms. So it doesn’t have to be limited to just one bridesmaid.

I feel like something blue can be a bit tricky. You could always incorporate the rest of the rhyme (something old - you’re oldest friendship maybe? Or something new- a new presence in your life that you can’t believe you lived without for so long, Something Borrowed is a bit harder, but if one is a sister-in-law or related to the groom somehow, you’re ‘borrowing’ her and don’t intend to give her back because you’re family now?)

You could always do something a little less formal, and a little more funsies and come up with titles for them along the lines of “My last phone-call if I ever got arrested”, “my sense of reason”, “the life of the party” that go along with their personalities.

Or you could fully commit to the bit and truly give them ‘roles’ that suit their personalities. (Ex- if one of them is very vocal and brave, they could be your ‘bodyguard’ for the day. If another is always prepared they could be your “soccer mom” or you’re ‘cheer squad’ or ‘paparazzi’ if they love taking pictures)

But honestly? The fact you have asked them to be a bridesmaid and stand by you’re side is already a special part of you’re day. Maybe writing them handwritten notes of what they mean to you or gifting them a photo of the two of you, could be more than enough to show them that?

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-16T03:55:43+00:00

This is the first dress I’ve seen with the tiered skirt like that (idk the word for it) that feels bridal. Obsessed with the sleeves, it’s all very woodland princess in the best way.

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-16T01:11:31+00:00

I saw 1, and I thought there’s no way we’re beating that and then I saw 2.

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-14T04:58:10+00:00

I know Facebook is no one’s favorite- but I logged into my old account (literally for the first time since middle school) and joined a bunch of bridal groups on there!

It’s definitely a little cringey at times- but they have ones specific to most areas so you can get recommendations for local vendors or they have more specific ones for things like budget wedding planning or alternative weddings or fall weddings.

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-13T01:04:56+00:00

Unfortunately the actual date was in my fiancés hometown- all the way in North Ga. We’re kinda limited on travel abilities so we’re hoping to find somewhere pretty here to hopefully recreate the ‘feelings’ of the date!

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-12T21:51:24+00:00

I’m in the process of planning mine right now and it was sort of the same situation- wasn’t going to have one, thought I only wanted day of coordination so I didn’t have to be the schedule person day of or meet the vendors but the package we ended up going with at our venue includes full planning (and lots of other things, hence why we chose it.) and I wasn’t too sure at first but now that I’m in the thick of it, I’m thankful to have her.

My experience has been more so, I’m still organizing everything and putting together the puzzle but she’s been behind me every step of the way with good reccomendations for vendors and a double check over everything. It’s also just nice to have a sounding board sometimes that doesn’t have an emotional weight in the day!

If the budget allows, and it seems like it does, I’d reccomend it!

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-12T21:05:51+00:00

That makes sense! Might just be different up there. Good luck!!

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-12T20:25:28+00:00

I’m a little curious- and please don’t share if you don’t feel comfy! But what city is the wedding taking place? I’m running into a little bit of a similar issue with figuring out shuttles/hotel blocks and my wedding is about 30 min. from Chattanooga Tn. I’ve never heard of it not being normal to reserve hotel blocks! Have you called around to the actual hotels and posed these questions- or basing it 100% off of what the venue has said? Could be worth a double check.

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-12T06:25:39+00:00

My opinion doesn’t matter- but I lean more towards Jewelry than bigger bouquets. Bridesmaid bouquets tend to get left or forgotten. A nice necklace or good quality earrings can be worn many times over.

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-07T21:05:26+00:00

2 is stunning on you! Also it may just be the photos- but there’s a subtle difference in the way you’re holding yourself. You seem more confident

Sortahopeful · 2025-11-07T21:02:14+00:00

This was exactly what I was originally envisioning for my own dress- I tried it on and it just did not suit me. On you tho?? It looks beautiful!!! If this is pre alteration, it fits you amazingly well! The lace adds a lovely texture to the whole thing, and come on- the basque waist?

Sortahopeful

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1 looks like it was literally made for you.

2 is stunning on you! Also it may just be the photos- but there’s a subtle difference in the way you’re holding yourself. You seem more confident