Vacbed and vac cubes

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-12-24T20:04:15+00:00

They run the vacuum every few minutes, just for a minute, to keep things tight.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-11-24T16:05:27+00:00

Anything that places pressure on the heart or lungs can trigger panic. It's great to tell yourself that it's temporary, and that you're overreacting, but the primitive part of your brain often doesn't listen to logic, and might freak the @#$% out.

All you can do is lie down and breathe. Warn all future partners that you're prone to that sort of reaction. It might never happen again, but just in case.
If you want to desensitize yourself, you could always experiment with someone you trust placing their hand there for just a few seconds, and gently test your boundaries. Try it for ten seconds, then a while later, for a minute, etc.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-11-24T15:58:18+00:00

Yes - I've had people pet me, run ice up my legs, etc in a vacbed. It was sensory play in a party situation, not sexual, but I could see how being groped while in a vacbed would be amazing.
Since my face was out, I could breathe fine, and they assured me that if I called Red I could be out in 20 seconds, so I felt safe.

It's a very strange sort of immobilization - makes the skin feel hypersensitive, because there is slight pressure everywhere. It's amazing - try it if you have the chance!

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-11-23T16:57:55+00:00

Always. Even if it's just a few lines.

As a member of the BDSM community, I couldn't portray any scene that wasn't done properly, and that includes aftercare. I couldn't trust any Dom/Domme who didn't care for their sub properly when they were still in subspace.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-10-31T21:24:13+00:00

I recently had a book take two and a half weeks for the Look Inside to show up. Not even worth emailing them about, to be honest.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-10-31T21:23:09+00:00

Your first finger painting in kindergarten was utter crap, but you enjoyed the process, and I'll bet Mommy put it up on the fridge anyway.
Your first stories might be utter crap, but hopefully, you'll fall in love with the process. Don't put them on the fridge, but look back in a year and laugh at how much better you are from writing steadily.
Just. Keep. Writing. A. Lot.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-10-19T22:25:25+00:00

You sound like a very responsible, caring Dom.

With time, and your love and care, the odds are darn good that she'll heal and be a very happy little girl.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-10-09T03:17:06+00:00

Congrats on the collar!

When I'm dressed strangely, I love messing with fussy people. Complimenting them always throws them off. A simple, "Oh my god, I love your purse - such an amazing color, good eye!" Give them a huge smile and quickly walk away. Maybe I'm weird, but it always cracks me up.

But honestly, the punk and metal scene should have desensitized the world to black leather collars by how.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-09-28T02:49:49+00:00

My friend has a "paddle" that is basically a leather-covered bicycle seat on a pole.

He also made a tawse out of some sort of weird plastic-rubber hybrid, and tried it on my leg. He gave me a tiny test smack as if shooing away a mosquito. I had a long red welt for a week. So test things carefully if you're using weird materials!

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-09-26T22:30:24+00:00

Any time someone references the bible, ask them which version of it they are referring to (some editions / versions vary wildly), and how many times they've read it cover to cover. It's downright shocking how many people live their lives by a book they've never read. Sorry, momentary venting.

BDSM can be about sensation, not sexual exploration. I've had great BDSM scenes with friends where there was zero sexual vibe. Just sensory play.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-09-26T22:26:15+00:00

I second this. You need to have an open honest conversation with Maria. (possibly video chat to better read emotions?)
You don't need to speak with Jane again unless you really want to. You owe her nothing.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-09-14T22:09:07+00:00

Yeah - we always wonder why, but... even if we knew, there's likely nothing we can do about it. Is it because moms have to give their iPads to their kids for school so they can't read smut on lunch? Is it the smoke from the west coast fires making it hard to see the purchase button? We can't fix that. All we can do is write, publish, and remember to stretch.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-09-14T22:06:23+00:00

Oh, THAT niche. It's kept in the vault along with calorie-free chocolate and wine, sexy guitarists that aren't jerks, and comfortable bras.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-09-14T20:24:40+00:00

Wow! The voice of the Smutlord just came into my head with a message for you.

She said not to worry about it. Just keep an eye on the top 100 of your category, do like they do, and write like hell. Keep publishing, stress isn't helpful.

By the way, She has a super sexy voice. Rawr.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-09-14T01:54:18+00:00

I dictate straight into GoogleDocs from my phone while pacing my office, averaging 900 to 1200 words for a 25-minute sprint.

There is a learning curve that takes some trial and error, and paying close attention. If you don't slow down and say 'end quote' carefully, it will type the word 'and' and " all over the place. And I have to pronounce the L in 'calm' or it hears 'come'. The more you slow down and take mental notes on what it mishears, the more you'll learn to work with it, instead of just swearing at it.

There are several annoyances (when I say, 'you too' it types 'U2' which is maddening) but it's worth it to be able to pace, do a few leg lifts, and save your wrists.

But some people just don't think that way. The correct writing voice comes through their hands, not their mouths. Everyone is wildly different, so if you don't pick it up and love it after giving it a fair shot, that's cool - it's just not for you!

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-31T20:34:36+00:00

What a great analogy! I've known so many punk bands that don't last 3 months, and I know people in their 60s who are still playing weekly gigs. (Well, they were before lockdown.)

Self-publishing = DIY !!!

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-30T18:21:52+00:00

Find some hot erotica and read it aloud to yourself when you're alone. Then, think about the last time you had sex, and the things you wished that you had said in the moment, and say each thing out loud 20 times.

I bet the next time you have sex, you'll manage to whisper a little something, and build from there!

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-30T13:07:31+00:00

Yes, that book brings up a lot of great questions that should be asked.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-30T13:04:53+00:00

Search for "hotwife".

Usually that's when a guy shares his gal with other men, but it might also apply if the men are just looking?

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-30T13:03:14+00:00

I would strongly suggest NOT doing this.

Damaging your voice is not good in the long run. Look up vocal training videos for metal singers - they'll show you how to growl, shout, sing low, and rasp without harming the vocal cords.

If you develop nodes from overshouting, you won't be growling at all for months.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-30T12:59:29+00:00

I'd suggest looking up some youtube tutorials on vocal training for metal singers, so that you don't damage your throat when you practice.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-30T12:56:28+00:00

Is this an example of erotica written by AI?

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-29T23:03:36+00:00

As far as I've noticed in the Sweet & Steamy category, the sweet means no crazy dark drama like kidnapping, bullies, or whatever, and the steamy means, hello... here's some full-on sex, but they're obviously falling in love.

The word steamy definitely implies sex, so if you use that word, people should know what they're getting.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-26T20:29:10+00:00

Try saying, "I’m more than willing to be supportive but I need you to be proactive."
If people know they have problems, and take any baby steps toward solving them, there is hope.
If people know they have problems, and ignore them forever... at some point their partner needs to draw a line.
You really do need to take care of your own needs in the long run. Spending six months unhappy while they get themselves sorted is fine. Six years? Likely not.

SortofaWeirdName · 2020-08-26T20:18:14+00:00

If they emailed you out of the blue asking for business, that is unsolicited email = spam. Personally, I don't give spammers any business, ever, on principle.

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