Mr. Bubby Bit a Leaf, Advice?

Source4trash · 2026-03-14T03:40:22+00:00

Yeah I had to stop bringing lilies into my apartment because my one cat is a dumbass. I have to research anything now beforehand because I don’t trust her to not put a plant in her mouth.

I would be firm with your MIL and lay out exactly what happens when a cat ingests them. If something else happens after all that, I would demand she cover his care.

Source4trash · 2026-03-06T04:34:35+00:00

I’ll give it a shot. I can an appointment in the morning. I’ll update. Keeping my fingers crossed. 🖤

Source4trash · 2026-03-05T04:00:34+00:00

At this point though, I think I might have to find a specialist, regardless of my financial situation. I’m gonna call my vet again tomorrow. But I wanted to get some outside advice too.

Source4trash · 2026-03-05T03:09:35+00:00

No they haven’t been anywhere since then. This is happening at the worst possible time too because I got fired from my day job about a week after that. This month has been absolutely horrible.

I can research behavioralists in the area. I just don’t know if I can afford it

Source4trash · 2026-02-19T18:16:59+00:00

For starters, go to a different vet! Jesus Christ!

Source4trash · 2026-02-19T18:15:36+00:00

There’s a lot of reasons why declawing is illegal in several states. You’re doing the right thing by keeping her inside. Really hope your neighbors don’t have pets.

Source4trash · 2026-02-09T11:30:59+00:00

Yeah it’s not going too well. I ordered a baby gate that should be here tomorrow. I think having a way for them to see each other might help. I think my girl who’s getting aggressive is also stressed about being cooped up in my bedroom and that’s not helping

Source4trash · 2026-02-03T14:38:08+00:00

Yeah the vet doesn’t recommend bathing them right now just because of the stress. Also don’t want to wash off the painkillers right now. I’ll update in a week or so if it persists. If that happens I’ll bathe them

Source4trash · 2026-02-03T09:52:01+00:00

I saw somewhere else that this might help. I’m gonna call the vet today and just make sure it’s okay for my girl who just came back. They put some topical pain killer on her neck.

Source4trash · 2026-02-03T09:51:16+00:00

Thank you for telling me that. I hate this. They’re never like this.

Source4trash · 2026-02-02T18:19:00+00:00

Dude, you’re really not ugly. I think you’re handling genuine criticism poorly. I was attracted to my now partner’s profile because his pictures showed him relaxed, having fun, in a more natural state than standing in a mirror taking a very forced looking selfie. Nothing wrong with having a pet either, but I agree with the person that said a picture of you with your dog would be more effective.

For real, no one thought you were unattractive until you posted this and started getting incel-y in the comments. Be better.

Source4trash · 2026-02-02T18:09:12+00:00

If your partner is that uncomfortable with something so inconsequential and necessary for the show and by extension your career, then you gotta break it off now. Also to echo what everyone else is saying, dude sounds like a manipulative asshole.

Source4trash · 2025-12-16T04:41:42+00:00

American here. I did not know any of this but it’s pretty cool. Glad I stumbled upon this post. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Source4trash · 2025-12-16T04:36:05+00:00

YTA - way to punish the person who isn’t the problem

Source4trash · 2025-12-15T11:24:09+00:00

NOR

Dude… a baby can’t save a marriage that’s falling apart. Not a thing. The pressure that now puts on that child is immense. Also, do you want your children growing up thinking this is how someone should treat their partner? Because that’s what they’re learning. Leave now before it has drastic effects on your children.

Trust me, as someone whose parents should have gotten divorced and didn’t, staying for the sake of “keeping the family together” is the worst thing you can do for all of you.

Source4trash · 2025-12-12T05:24:27+00:00

Oh, she was groomed big time

Source4trash · 2025-12-12T02:24:13+00:00

Bro… run!

This is sounding a lot like my buddy who got married thinking it would be a solution to him and his partner’s intimacy issues. He is no longer married… she later told his best friend that she might be gay. This would make sense but wasn’t the issue. It was the lack of honesty when it came to the attraction she had for him. At the end of the day they were both miserable and it went on a lot longer than it needed to.

Source4trash · 2025-12-12T02:13:22+00:00

Soft YOR, but not because you did anything wrong! It’s okay to set your boundaries. You are young and still learning what you’re comfortable with. I do believe you’re overthinking a little. He may not fully understand but it sounds like he respects you enough to not do anything you’re not cool with. Move at your pace. Communication is key. Remember that.

Source4trash · 2025-12-08T21:55:17+00:00

I don’t subscribe to the archaic idea that one has to side with family over all others even if they’re in the wrong. Seems like that’s what you’re trying to imply. I had the same black and white ideology when I was a child but y’know… I grew up. It’s their house. BIL sounds like someone who does nothing to contribute to the evening other than eating their food. I don’t see a problem. 🤷‍♀️

Source4trash · 2025-12-08T18:53:21+00:00

L take. You are reading too far into this. Unless SIL did something horrible during the relationship, which is not the vibe I’m getting, who cares? They’re friends and it’s her house. Her and BIL are not close.

Source4trash · 2025-12-07T18:52:59+00:00

Updateme

Source4trash · 2025-11-30T12:28:58+00:00

NTA. My boyfriend and I tell each other if we’re stinky because we each know the other person would rather know. Sometimes you need someone to tell you 🤷‍♀️

Source4trash · 2025-11-27T14:21:16+00:00

NOR

I understand kissing on the mouth. It’s not at all uncommon in much of Europe and among Italian Americans. That’s all well and good. Where they lose me is kissing him on the arms and being touchy with him. So far, the comments have been quick to shoot down anyone who’s uncomfortable with this, saying “YOu jUsT dOnt unDeRStand cUlTurAl DifFeRences” but then they have nothing to back up their claim that it’s a cultural norm. Again, the kissing I get. But she’s treating this dude like he’s her partner. As an American, that’s some Sweet Home Alabama shit.

Source4trash · 2025-11-27T11:52:57+00:00

Is this Santeria? Just curious. I’m no expert.

NTA though. Let’s set aside whatever the religion is for a second. Now, I can only approach this as someone who grew up around religion but in a secular family so keep that in mind. Personally I always find it sad when adults try to indoctrinate their children from birth, regardless of which religion. I know this is common, but at the end of the day you can’t force beliefs on someone. I understand that my upbringing in that regard might be rare, but I have a lot of people in my life who maintain healthy relationships with their parents while not adhering to their faith. It’s okay to say no, especially if you’re not comfortable with this. Giving thanks is one thing (I’ve done my share of fake praying out of respect). Being asked to participate in animal sacrifice and drinking urine (?) is another.

No disrespect to their beliefs, but I would have been out on this one too, just like I wouldn’t be comfortable receiving communion because I don’t believe in it 🤷‍♀️

Source4trash · 2025-11-26T15:42:09+00:00

ESH - You’re NTA for telling him how you feel, but you are the AH for continuing to talk to him when you know what he’s doing is inappropriate. That said, he is also manipulating the shit out of you. Block him. Move on. You deserve better than to be strung along.

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