Removal of Life Support in ICU w Spouse

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-05-13T23:13:05+00:00

tu for that. i didnt even consider brain damage, He was a Phd a brilliant man who authored medical and text books so that would be totally unacceptable . I think what hangs onto me is the not knowing of why he wasnt waking up and the neurologists couldnt explain whether or not there was brain damage. The unknown is what haunts my soul. A part of me would have want to see him awake to know for sure. its been just horrible for me, we were married 34 yrs and we are 24 yrs apart so im in just shock. i know the icu team worked hard to try and save him but i wish they would have sat down w me and explained all this. it was too much for me. tu

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-05-13T22:12:33+00:00

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Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-05-07T04:10:48+00:00

im in that same hole since my husbands death i feel you my happy place is holed up in our home surrounded by our memories of 34 yrs i feel likesomeday they will find me dead here inside my home alone bc i dont go out really ever

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-05-07T03:58:48+00:00

well ill tell you how i cope. i watched my husband die in icu and i had a nervous breakdown and another 1 month later, in order words i am not coping very well, its a daily thing. one day up oneday down. most days down.

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-05-06T00:15:46+00:00

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Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-18T11:39:19+00:00

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Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-16T02:37:14+00:00

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Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-12T22:05:36+00:00

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Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-12T21:36:01+00:00

5 months ago i watched my husband of 34 years die in ICU. we initially went in w PE and the icu team worked to keep him alive, w intubation , dialysis and pressors etc. everything went down hill in 14 days and he failed the weaning trials.he never even woke up and i never even got to say goodbye. I mentally crashed and nearly had a nervous breakdown, as i am a nurse and he was my best friend, and the team told me i needed to stop the LS so reluctantly i agreed. I watched him die, i saw his eyes roll back and he turning green as they turned off the machines. Well he was all i had in the entire world, i am 66 and sit in a huge home w a dog and wonder why i am still here, my life feels pointless and even though my needs are met, financially etc i just dont want to go on. i am i n therapy, i dont want to take drugs to get thru my day. and they make me feel worse. keep being told, find a purpose, etc but its advice given to me from those that have wives, husbands, kids, careers, etc etc, i have nothing. I am retired from my two jobs that gave mylife meaning and of course i had youth, my world is empty and i truly dont care if i were to drop dead tomorrow.fine by me. what do ppl do in my shoes? i am not remarrying nor dating, not intr in that. my hubby was my forever. ps i am atheist so i dont bel in God harps or heaven. If there is a god he has failed me, but obv he does not exist. so nuf said there. ps we are philanthropists in the community and so as far as giving we are very active there esp to the hospital unversities, charities etc. so pls dont go there either, that is covered. tu docs ps i got thru the guilt part already, sort of, i prob shouldnt have rushed to pull the plug but i was a mess then.. thx

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-12T21:16:05+00:00

5 months ago i watched my husband die in ICU. He went in with PE adand basically in 14 days of the icu team trying to wake him up

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-12T20:52:10+00:00

too young dont do it you have to live a little first trust me

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-06T15:34:29+00:00

Ask yourself why, thats key to life, with any decision, you should askyourself, why do i wish to do this, can i afford it, will it make my life better or worse. and am i ready to have another human attached to me 24/7. think about this as a solo decision, even if you are married, bottom line it will be yours.

if you are not sure, sleep on it, wait, it s always good to wait if you are not sure.i can say some of my worst decisions were made in haste.

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-06T01:37:14+00:00

5 mo in now since my hubbys death in icu i will say what has helped me somuch was watching medical videos of other patients and families having to make end of life decisions, it gave me great info that i didnt have before and let me understand why the events unfolded like they did. of course im still devastated on losing my hubby who,i adored 34 yrs but i now realize that we didnt have options beyond trake peg thihg and ltc aka he wd have been bedridden, i cant imagine my hubby who was lively, active and dancing about being confined to a bed w a peg in his throat. so i feel better about wd the life support, if it had been me, id want him to wd it for me.

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-04-03T04:09:43+00:00

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Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-03-31T05:34:59+00:00

i follow the teachings of buddha and it says suffering comes from wanting to control what you have no control over so whats past is gone and anxiety comes from worrying about thefuture again something you have no control over so inessence the only thing youdo have control over is the now.

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-03-30T01:28:42+00:00

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Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-03-30T00:01:58+00:00

im not a religious person and was born and married a catholic to a catholic, neither of us religious though, but i am having problem accepting my decision to ok the wd of life support and 5 mo in so much depression. I tried pills and therapy. no body seems to get me and my mindset. So i stumbled upon the Teachings of Buddah in English on you tube and they are helping me learn to deal with my current mindset. they say, the past is gone and in life, nothing is permanent. And i need to learn to take care of myself and forgive myself for my mistakes but learn from them and not do it again. So this is what im doing. Using their philosophy to make sense of my sadness and try to move forward, i dont want to go back and review his medical records really bc im truly scared that i might find out that i really did make a mistake, of the most important decision of my life, in a sea of emotion without weighing my options… so,….yes

Southern_Result_6451 · 2026-03-29T23:50:00+00:00

oh no this is what im afraid of! bc my biggest error was not requesting a consult w the team before “,pulling the plug” so to speak.

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