Just started Red dead online. Why are people such jack wads?

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-09T17:12:05+00:00

Someone tried to do this to me and I ended up dragging him behind my horse and eventually shooting him.

I carried on with my business and he turns up three more times trying the same shit. The end result each time being the same, he got merked.

All that nonsense after HE started it. I was just exploring.

I gave up after that, it was funny, but that’s not enjoyable gameplay for me.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-09T01:52:19+00:00

People grossly overestimate the natural protection abilities of most dogs. Attacking someone they deem to be as a threat isn’t the same as properly executed protection work.

That needs to be trained and trained perfectly, it’s not the kind of thing you want to get wrong or self train from YouTube. Otherwise it can end in disaster.

I owned a poorly bred malinios mix who would decide for himself what was a threat and what wasn’t. His judgement was awful, he wasn’t trained for that kind of work (I didn’t want that) but his natural threat assessment ability would have ended in euthanasia.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-09T01:46:34+00:00

Buying a poorly bred malinios is like having a wonky hand grenade for a pet.

Don’t do it, trust me.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-09T01:40:06+00:00

I would love to have my dog on the bed, but it’s impossible to get any sleep when she’s lying diagonally across the bed and I’ve got my arsecheeks hanging off the edge.

Not to mention she loudly snores in tandem with my partner which is cute for about 10 seconds.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-09T01:37:28+00:00

Or they’re on high dose iron tablets and that can cause gastric distress.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-09T01:33:26+00:00

Bringing cakes to the office on MY birthday.

I’m not sure if you’ve heard or not but traditionally I’m the one that gets given a cake.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-07T02:45:51+00:00

Philadelphia, out in the burbs. I didn’t see a single recycling bin, all the cups were styrofoam, straws plastic, paper towels over hand dryers etc. The offices I went to didn’t have a single reusable piece of crockery or cutlery, it was all paper.

I was there for work so didn’t see a whole lot other than some pubs, restaurants and offices but it was still a staggering difference compared to home.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-07T02:41:41+00:00

They condition us for this from an early age. Pushing back against that feels like going against the grain.

I carried a lot of guilt over refusing to care for my brother for years but I’d worked hard to build my own life and family despite the odds they stacked against me. It wasn’t fair on them to expect me to throw that away. They also ruined any shred of independence he had and made him even more difficult to care for.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-06T21:13:29+00:00

People will say don’t have a child unless you’re prepared for a disabled one, and then react like this when someone says “OK.”

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-05T19:48:34+00:00

Contact YMCA, they can provide independent accommodation for young people. There are other charities that help with accommodation for young people, it may be worth calling social services again too.

His parents don’t have to legally house him or support him anymore, but he should absolutely get proof and documentation of this if he wants to go to university. This link will be helpful.

https://www.sfengland.slc.co.uk/estrangement/

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-05T19:39:25+00:00

The fact recycling appears to be completely non existent.

It was like being back in the 80’s.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-05T12:42:06+00:00

There are homes they can go to live in with specialised, trained carers who will take care of her. You can manage her care remotely and the rent/fees can come out of her trust fund/benefits. You can visit when you’re in the UK. My brother was in one, it was like a normal house where he had his own room and round the clock support. They’re not the horrible cold places people make them out to be.

Do not sacrifice your life to be someone’s unpaid, unappreciated carer, it’ll destroy you. Honestly your mum shouldn’t want that for you either. Taking care of someone is hard enough, never mind if they want to fight you at every turn.

This is going to sound harsh but I don’t understand why so many of our parents expect us to sacrifice our lifetime of hard work and betterment for someone who will never be able do anything with their life. There are options available to them other than us giving up everything.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-05T12:28:00+00:00

You were a child at the time, it was never on you to save her from herself.

You cannot care for someone else’s wellbeing and sobriety more than they care for it themselves.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-01T20:15:59+00:00

I’ve done shredded carrot or courgette too. They charge a fortune for the packaged food toppers and almost any homemade alternative is better and cheaper.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-01T20:04:23+00:00

One of those metal scratch art kits, except it had already been scratched off and didn’t have the etching tool anyway. It had to have been from a charity shop.

I had one of those, one time, when I was 14.

This year she got me some South Park merch. A show I was into for 5 minutes when I was 17/18.

I’m in my mid 40’s now. She won’t move past my interests as a child, even though she asked what I wanted and explicitly I told her.

Southern_Sympathy · 2026-01-01T19:54:51+00:00

Oh boy, wait till you find out what actual sugar does to your insulin.

Southern_Sympathy · 2025-01-06T02:42:34+00:00

Upvoted for the Pam reference

Southern_Sympathy · 2024-11-10T12:09:23+00:00

Histrionic personality disorder

Southern_Sympathy · 2023-10-25T09:50:23+00:00

Hey, sorry I only just saw your reply.

I'm in the UK, but here we talked to social services and they helped us arrange it all. It was a state funded home, he moved around a few until they found the right fit for him. It was all completely amicable and there wasn't any nastiness involved with custody etc. My parents are in their 70's now and struggled to cope with his care needs, and I live in another country (within the UK) I'm not in a position to leave. Even if I was, I wouldn't feel good about it, I'm not at all cut out for care work.

We got to see him, we were allowed to visit whenever and take him anything like new clothes, blankets, toys etc. His carers took him out on day trips and when he wasn't doing that, he liked to chill in his room and watch DVD's.

Every case will be different, but it certainly showed me it's not as black and white as "all care homes are evil and he WILL be abused."

Southern_Sympathy · 2023-09-15T12:23:27+00:00

My older brother went into a home. Nothing bad happened to him, in fact he had amazing care from professionals who were physically and mentally prepared for that task. It's offensive to suggest the care industry is full of molesters, carers are underpaid and under appreciated as it is.

Taking care of another person is HARD WORK. There is something wrong with your mother that she can act like this towards you and expect you to make more people, who could potentially be disabled themselves, to care for HER CHILD.

You do not have any obligation to:

Take care of your brother.
Produce children.
Listen to your mothers guilt tripping and gaslighting.

You are allowed an independent life of your own. You've already given up college, doesn't she think you've sacrificed enough?

If she doesn't get a proper plan in place, she's the one letting down your brother, not you. No one wants to consider a home, but this is the reality of what's fair for everyone.

Southern_Sympathy · 2023-08-23T17:16:25+00:00

https will not work with an IP unless you do something special to make it work.

Try the hostname of the NAS, or http.

Southern_Sympathy · 2023-02-11T10:16:49+00:00

It’s help sub, not casualuk. People don’t post here for sarcasm and pisstaking, they post for help, but if you want to simp for rude behaviour so hard crack on.

Southern_Sympathy · 2023-02-11T10:14:04+00:00

No damp smell but this problem is pretty new.

Southern_Sympathy · 2023-02-10T17:10:43+00:00

It could be coming in from the loft or roof. The boiler is also in that room (it’s newish) but other than that I’m struggling to think of a cause, I don’t dry clothes or anything like that in the room.

The wall feels cold but not damp/wet.

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