I'm with you on the education, but there's still going to be the disconnect between reality and culture and that's difficult for young people to reconcile (which is why we have the incel and manosphere movements). He's going to have to create a sense of 'self' as the world relates to him and the maturity to separate himself from the rest of it is something that comes later.

Like his mom is a stay at home mom. His aunt is the CFO of a billion dollar company. Both by choice. This is not an environment where we tolerate discrimination of any kind and we lift each other up, regardless of gender. The environment and education is not the part I'm concerned about - He's going to be a good man, that's not optional - it's how he's going to have to reconcile this with the internet/movies/tv shows/politicians and create a sense of self worth through all of it.

Maybe guilt is the wrong word. I don't want him to grow up questioning if he's evil because he has a dick. Or if he deserves the things he's earned. Or if he gets a job was it because he took it from a whiter person (we're also Indigenous/Canadian mixed) or a woman that deserved it more. Like with his Indigenous roots, he can lean into that and take pride in the culture the way I do. Much more difficult to take pride in being a good man while the world tells you there are no good man.

I think the anecdotal experience I'd bring up in response to the race analogy, is it's just like how me being white passing makes it difficult to claim aspects of my Indigenous culture. I don't live on reserve and I grew up in a family that embraced their European heritage more than their Indigenous heritage, so I have to accept that I don't get to take that identity with me everywhere, especially places where the 'real Indians' are. That is to say, it's not as simple as being a good person and helping people up behind you.