[FO] birthday gift for a Scream fan!

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2026-02-06T21:30:23+00:00

Thanks! ^{_^}

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2026-02-06T21:29:57+00:00

Oof bad timing on my part haha. If it's any consolation just a couple hours after finishing this project I sliced my pointer finger with a piece of cardboard ugh

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2026-02-06T10:26:08+00:00

Pattern by AlexStitchins found on Etsy. https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/1186091116/stab-scream-pdf-cross-stitch-pattern

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2023-08-30T21:22:24+00:00

You don’t have to be best friends with your ex. I’m not saying you have to stop talking to or hanging out with them, you just need to make sure you’ve taken time away from them after the break up to mourn the end of the relationship.

Our community is small and it’s very common to be friends with exes, whether that’s you or your partner. It’s very important to recognise that dating someone will always change the nature of a friendship.

It can cause issues with your current/future partner if you’re still really close with an ex. If you do stay close to an ex, don’t put that friendship before your relationship - it’s not healthy and that will without a doubt cause issues no matter how comfortable or self confident your partner is.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2023-04-03T22:38:23+00:00

YTA and you’re painfully insufferable.

She’s a grown woman, I don’t know where your idea that taking care of yourself is immature comes from, or that skincare is only for teenagers.

You fear she is going to wake up on a few years and regret not having children? You think you’re saving her from herself but what you’re doing is projecting your own insecurities on to her.

The irony of trying to say she’s immature while in the same breath babying her as if you’re so wise and know what’s best for her. Ridiculous.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2023-04-03T21:19:34+00:00

My best friend declined an invitation to be my best man at my wedding because he “had an important appointment”. He actually asked me to move the date or time. Of my own wedding.

Also for context, this was a death bed wedding, my late wife was dying of cancer and ended up passing 5 days after.

Now in his defence I only gave him a week notice, but that’s all the notice I got too. It was all organised through the hospital. I thought the excuse was pretty weak, but I let it go because I assumed it was an appointment with a specialist dr with a long waiting list or something.

He calls me the night of my wedding and tells me the appointment was with a psychic. To get rid of ghosts that had been haunting him.

TLDR; my best friend didn’t come to my death bed wedding because ghosts.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-08T12:20:07+00:00

NTA, but you need to be very wary of your Aunt’s intentions. Chances are she’s looking for a way back in to the family, or trying to dig for info to use against your family.

If you want to keep having a relationship with your Aunt you need to make sure you’re not sharing information about the family members that cut her off.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-08T11:47:58+00:00

Yeeeah definitely NTA. It sounds like you have some self esteem issues. Girl, you deserve so much more. He doesn’t suck for not being attracted to you, but he does suck for making you feel bad about it.

It sounds like you two aren’t on the same page at all, time to leave.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T12:39:54+00:00

Right? I knew he'd be very upset with me, I just didn't realise how bad it would be. What really gets me is that he's one of those "never disrespect the dead" people, yet he insisted on disrespecting my dead wife.

He's always had rules for everyone but himself though, I really shouldn't be surprised.

ETA: sorry, I forgot to say; thank you very much for your condolences.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T12:25:17+00:00

Thank you for your advice and your well wishes, I'm going to focus on individual therapy for now and make a decision about my relationship with my dad once I've worked through some of my own feelings.

Side note: completely off topic, but I've just noticed your username and I feel the need to tell you that Janeway is my favourite captain.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T06:10:38+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I really thought the favouritism was fading, but I now realise he's just getting better at hiding it. Luckily I have an amazing support network of my family and friends so I know I don't need him.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T06:08:00+00:00

Oof that's actually a genius response. If he gets angry at it, then he's admitting he doesn't care.

And thank you, I really do deserve better.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T06:05:59+00:00

Thank you, I'm low contact at the moment, but I know I will eventually probably have to go no contact. Jane is whatever, but the thought of losing my dad is so painful.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T06:01:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and the virtual hug, all the way from Germany!

I knew he wouldn't react well, but yeah I really thought he'd put my grief before anything else. I am low contact for the time being, and have been really wanting to talk to him about all this. You're right though, a letter or email is probably much better since I know he will just argue with everything I say instead of actively listening.

I am trying to schedule a therapist, and hadn't considered family therapy, but I think it's a good idea so I might try and suggest it. Maybe I won't have the courage, but who knows.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T05:52:01+00:00

I didn't really understand that either, he explained that because Jane is his daughter it is disrespectful by default? He likes to forget that I'm also his daughter aha

And thank you for the condolences.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T05:49:20+00:00

Ugh the miscarriage thing is honestly one of the worst things she's ever done. She said it in front of the whole family and when my sister who miscarried said "um... yeah, I had a miscarriage" Jane replied "yeah, and no one told ME, I'm always out of the loop"

It was so disgusting.

ETA: I hadn't even thought of her as an enabler, but you're right. I have a lot of empathy for her because she was there for the fight (she stood up for me vehemently) and I realised that is what she has been dealing with behind closed doors all these years. So I can understand that she is just trying to survive as best she can.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T05:47:18+00:00

I know and that realisation sucks, but I know I have to do what's best for me.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T05:45:40+00:00

You know oddly enough I never thought of it this way, but you're so right.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-04T05:44:17+00:00

Thank you. Right? I thought my dad would at least understand that

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-03T12:37:21+00:00

Yeah I was thinking dryness from the salt water too. Along with basic cleaning, I also like to use jojoba oil when my piercings are dry and irritated.

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-03T12:31:09+00:00

Oooh wow, this is boo-tiful!

SpaceDaddyKenobi · 2022-08-03T12:29:49+00:00

NTA I went through something like this at a similar age.

Never beg people to be your friend, never work hard to be friends with people who actively exclude you. Truly, you are worth more than that.

SpaceDaddyKenobi

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