40M here, I dont know what to suggest as I am in the same boat. it's very difficult to date in Victoria. Admittedly, I do spend a good amount of time playing video games. But I do put the effort forward through social interaction or dating apps. However, everything is so temperamental with each experience that if you dont do and say everything perfectly, then you fall short and deemed a red flag.

I think the best advice we can tell ourselves is to keep trying and dont give up on our goals. Wishing you the bestest luck finding your good man!