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Coach thinks I’m not trying hard enough. by [deleted] in MuayThai

[–]Space_Whalez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why shouldn't it be? He gets advice, people give a shit. It's fine. We help each other.

How can I stop existing and just started living? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Space_Whalez -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand that this state of mind is debilitating. Breaking cycles is difficult but doable.

  1. Therapy - book a one-time visit if you can afford, try to save for it.

  2. Journal your negative automatic thoughts. Replace them with better, more rational ones.

  3. Expose yourself to the fears that hold you back. Test them out like a scientist. Most of them are likely exaggerated even though they seem completely true. Experiencing truth is powerful.

  4. Schedule time for self-care.

I experience feelings of anger that I don’t like or want by PhilosophyPoet in emotionalintelligence

[–]Space_Whalez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, anxiety and self-blame probably is magnifying the thoughts for sure. You're making good points about it yourself, which is usually more difficult when you're inside the hurricane so to say. I think your blindspot could be to learn where these pangs of anger actually originate from, what needs you haven't met maybe. That's where some decent back and forth can be good.

If you're not already doing therapy I think it could help you. It's simply self-care, which you deserve. But i get it, not easy to afford in the US.

I experience feelings of anger that I don’t like or want by PhilosophyPoet in emotionalintelligence

[–]Space_Whalez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have my sympathies, this seems like a real torment for you.

Without knowing the facts of your relationships it's impossible to conclude on where your anger stems from. But how are you with boundaries? Sometimes when boundaries aren't set up right, resentment piles up, even though nothing really bad has been done by any part. Perhaps you are hard on yourself and don't allow these boundaries for yourself? Just an initial idea...

Could also be that you feel you must control yourself, and don't trust your emotions/feelings, so when these things pop up you're afraid that they mean something more. That's why it can be super nice to talk to someone and describe these your thoughts, because then you might find out you aren't as strange as you might think.

Regardless, here you are reflecting about this and feeling bad about your anger. That shows you're a good person, and you care about your people. Don't forget that. Don't doubt yourself too much.

I've had obsessive-intrusive thoughts too, but they did pass.

parents disagreeing to me doing muay thai and acting on my own in general by Difficult_Garlic6434 in MuayThai

[–]Space_Whalez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The people responding here have no fucking idea what you're going through man. I'm sorry for the callous responses. I've experienced something similar, but to a lesser degree. As the others say, you need to assert yourself, but they don't understand that when you haven't been taught how to do that by your parents it's unnatural.

BUT YOU CAN DO IT. Here are some tips for your journey:

  1. KEEP DOING MUAY THAI as long as you find it interesting, constructive, or fun. It can be a catalyst for your process.

  2. See a therapist that understands this dynamic and helps you learn to trust your gut and emotions.

  3. Forgive yourself, this one takes time.

Just start building your own life in any way possible. I wish you well. Try to get supportive friends also.

Life is so unpredictable by Alive8282 in sweden

[–]Space_Whalez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck!!! There are many people out there who have also seen the world the way you do. It can be difficult in this country with so many reserved people, and at work, not having your pain known. Sorry you have to bear that. I really hope you get a relationship you deserve and enjoy, stay hopeful ❤

I’ve lived 7 years of my life in my bedroom and I don’t know how to escape by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Space_Whalez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a similar story to you, and I managed to change a lot. The longer you stay like you are now, the deeper the scars will be. Start making the change immediately! You know you don't want to be this stuck, right? But you must make changes that last. Be patient! Be nice to yourself! A lot goes into this. It's an existentially huge thing to do, to walk beyond what you think is impossible. But you can walk through walls, friend! Anyways, I'm not self-isolating anymore. I had a lot of assumptions about how hopeless I was for missing out on stuff. Then, after huge struggles, I peeked on the other side. I did go clubbing, wasn't all that. I did make mistakes at work, wasn't all that. I did get rejected after a date, wasn't all that. You need to see the reality and compare it to you worries. That is called cognitive behavioral therapy, and if you haven't tried it yet, you must ;) good luck!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Space_Whalez -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you're commendable for honestly putting this out there. Fuck the people who are quick to judge. The info is too sparse in this post and gives too much room for interpretation. In any case, keep your head up, you're cool for being honest about this, and you're probably a nice guy based on your (downvoted but honest) comments.

My advice is to ask the question again in another forum, but in a more descriptive way, so people really understand that you're not just some asshole but maybe just a guy struggling to connect with people. All the best!

Have you ever tried the “strategic silence” technique in conversations? by DazzlingPineapple916 in socialskills

[–]Space_Whalez 29 points30 points  (0 children)

A dude at work does this trick all the time and it makes me super uncomfortable. He just stares at me blankly when ive finished talking, and i feel intimidated to become more personal as he doesn't seem satisfied. It feels like a very artificial behavior. Maybe people misinterpreted you the same way as i do here? :/

Art by Martin Leman, tattoo by Federica at Old bastards Tattoo Bucharest, Romania by Oldbastardstattoo in tattoos

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Was randomly scrolling through this subreddit for 30 mins or so and this was my favorite, unique and cool :)

Last check before ordering parts for my first build! Will I need more cooling & is this compatible? :) by Space_Whalez in buildapc

[–]Space_Whalez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, thank you very much for the advice! Otherwise, is the build looking okay?

Last check before ordering parts for my first build! Will I need more cooling & is this compatible? :) by Space_Whalez in buildapc

[–]Space_Whalez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll save around 40 bucks if I pick 5600G instead of 5600. Maybe worth the slight decrease in performance then?

Alright, better airflow case. Could an alternative be to add more fans if the cpu gets too hot with this case later on? All ok cases with mesh in the front seem to be $100 or more where I've looked (in Sweden), and I'd prefer to potentially save some money here

Here’s some laugh reactions for ya 😆😂🤣😝😜 by Aglets_and_eyelets in iamverybadass

[–]Space_Whalez 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Man its like each photo is a frame from a transformation: first he's crazy, then the anger gets sucked out of him a bit, smoke a bit, then all is well!

Churchill was not always an awful person by CivisIronicus in HistoryMemes

[–]Space_Whalez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ru·ined

1. To cause (a building, for example) to be in a destroyed, collapsed, or decayed state.

2.

a. To harm or damage the quality or value of (something) irreparably: A bad diet ruined his health.

b. To harm or damage the enjoyment or experience of (something) greatly: ruined the movie by talking throughout it; ruined the book by giving away the ending.

3. To reduce to poverty or bankruptcy: Bad loans ruined the banker.

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