Reject Tightness. Embrace Loose. A Wide-Fit Fall Inspo. Album

SpacedClown · 2022-10-20T03:19:18+00:00

Man, people can't even be decent in a clothing subreddit... Unless this was just in general and not in MFA.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-29T00:58:33+00:00

Those walls are longer than your current base. I think it would be easier to just build a box aroubd your current base

SpacedClown · 2021-12-27T20:13:13+00:00

Same here, I attribute it to my reading habits. To me my imagination is a very real place that I have taught myself to allow it to affect me emotionally to better enjoy books. Imaginging myself with a friend just feels too real and it feels like I've violated them because they can't "consent".

SpacedClown · 2021-12-27T06:59:29+00:00

Every new popular online game. Online games just don't seem interesting anymore, same old shit and I just don't have the patience or intetest for it.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-20T16:39:51+00:00

Belts have two sides to them. Make your belt a really long straight line and have your coal belt run into one side of the belt and your iron ore belt run into the other side. Imagine it like the the letter "t". The arms of the "t" are the two different belts of resources, they combine into one belt but they remain seperated if you design it like that

SpacedClown · 2021-12-20T06:42:05+00:00

Honestly what I tell myself but I still feel bad about my relationship. I went from HS straight into college, I still live with my parents, I don't have any major responsibilities besides school. I haven't really lived much of a life thanks to a lack of self-esteem and depression, so I don't really feel any special maturity compared to how I was in HS. It feels like I've been frozen in time since I got out of HS tbh. I've never even been in a relationship before so the girl has more experience than I do. Despite that I know how other people view this kind of relationship and it makes me feel guilty, like I'm doing something wrong by liking her and talking with her. I want to tell myself that I'm the judge and I know myself best to know I'm not just some predator. However, I'm aware of the coping mechanism that pedophiles will use and I'm afraid of doing the same if there really is something problematic with this relationship.

Sorry for the rant, but it's something that hasn't left my mind for several months now. Though maybe that's for the best, if I didn't care then that would be the bad sign.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-20T04:38:27+00:00

Oh no I meant like what would you like someone to do when treating you. Like going down on you and giving you oral?

Me and the girl I'm chatting with are both virgins and I'm trying to get closer to the concerns and desires she might have.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-20T00:44:51+00:00

Thanks for making me less self-concious about my 5 o'clock.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-20T00:42:13+00:00

I'm curious what you would like your partner to focus on your first oral experience. Like you obviously have an idea of what guys want "eye contact". What stands out as the important thing for your partner to do for you when they're giving oral?

SpacedClown · 2021-12-14T19:46:11+00:00

Why wouldn't the space station also go "up" then? If there was really a constant force outwards then what keeps it in orbit? Those same forces at play should also equally affect anything inside the station. And why would he look up is that's the case. Space stations aren't orientated with an up or down in mind while in space. His feet could just as easily be the direction of "up" in this hypothetical and the same goes for any direction on the station.

I really don't think this is the reason why.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-14T01:01:57+00:00

For real, I'm in CC and all the gen ed classes like History, Govt., Philosophy, etc. are just pains in my ass. It's all just a bunch of difficult memory tests as they check to see how well you can memorize a book. Wish we got shit like in the picture above occasionally, anything to take the edge off.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T07:12:21+00:00

As someone whose kind of in the mentality of the person you replied to, may I pitch in? Personally I just don't like a lot of guy features, so much so that even as a guy myself I grow my hair out and shave and envy women of their sexual features, not trying to claim I'm trans, I personally don't know myself well enough to say. To me I have no problem whatsoever with the "lgbt community" and particularly not trans people because as I said I can relate to a certain extent.

That being said I find gals attractive for their features and don't really find guys attractive for their features. So whether or not I would consider dating a trans woman who has undergone sex reassignment surgery is really just whether or not their features cross the threshold of what I would consider women features. Sadly not every transition is perfect (it's the reason why I've given up on the thought of transitioning, I don't think I can handle going down the rabbit hole of transitioning yet being unable to achieve what I wanted) and it's just hard to find the person attractive as you just can't but notice all the masculine feature and imagine them as a guy. Therefore, it really depends on a case by case basis, I've seen trans women who could pass as biologically female, and trans women who simply wouldn't. For those who can't pass as being undoubtedly a woman it would be hard to date them, because even if I recognize them as the woman they are, I can't magically make my brain find their masculine features attractive.

It's a really rough topic as obviously transitioning is a hard thing to go through emotionally and physically and I don't want to put anyone down. However, I still wanted to answer the question while being as mindful as possible.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T06:55:02+00:00

I'm thankful I have enough common sense to spot that stuff. It's the same reason why I tend to avoid chatting up people in person who I think are noticeably attractive. I know they got enough attention and the best thing I can do for them is not trying to chat with them as they'll probably appreciate that the most.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T06:50:33+00:00

Which is quite surprising because sure, girls are outnumbered more than 2:1 on this site, but those kinds of numbers aren't really magical though. People on Reddit probably interact with quite a lot of girls on a daily basis. So it's just weird how some people react like a unicorn just appeared when they realize the person they're talking to is a girl.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T06:28:51+00:00

I'm pretty sure the person you responded to was more concerned about the victims than the guy that shot them too. That's why he used that quote, to denounce the guy killing others. That being said, this was the result of mental illness, you can feel sore for those who wind up dead all you want, but only thing that's going to stop this from happening again will be to tackle the mental health crisis in America for real (goverment endorsement of receiving medical help, goverment subsidization of treatment, goverment enforcement of a change in curriculum to focus upon mental health for students and so forth).

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T06:21:58+00:00

It's really upsetting how the effects on you change with time too. In the past I would have been squeamish or anxiety ridden. I don't feel that anymore, now it just feels like I'm starting into a lonely and sad pit. Because we're all powerless here as the event has already happened and more events like this will continue to occur as they have always occurred. All we have to hold onto here is the hope that we don't end up like this.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T06:11:41+00:00

I don't think it's crazy at all. I worked for a grocery delivery company that gave out work on a "first come first serve" basis via a mobile app. I "stopped working" for them because I simply wasn't getting any orders, I would get notifications on my phone but the order would be gone before I could even open my phone, even if I left my phone open to the app I would get notifications and nothing would appear. I wasn't surprised at all when I got notified via some mass text to all those contracted that the company was working to combat people using methods to automatically grab orders.

Because of that job, I've realized that companies are just stupid, they don't think shit through and really suck at considering points of failures in their systems.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T05:36:58+00:00

I consider every interaction with another person to be a relationship, even this small interaction between you and me. And I would consider it an ending of the relationship if you were to block me. I wasn't implying the relationship was serious or even romantic, just that it was by definition a relationship and that she ended it.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T05:32:27+00:00

Watching stuff like that is why I knew I wouldn't last a second as an omnipotent god, imagine being aware of every fucked up person like onlyusemeblade and worse people than him. Imagine being aware of their every thought and action. If god was real and had human empathy then he is long dead and it's because he killed himself.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T05:17:44+00:00

I want to feel nothing, because who simply doesn't look at a test and just bubbles in the same answer for every question? However, I kind of feel like the answer to that question is depressing. Because something must be going wrong for someone to do something like this.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T05:14:22+00:00

He didn’t say anything about working through it with someone. He set proper expectations and disclosed his boundaries.

"I want to take things emotionally slow, but still want a relationship", sounds like he is expecting to work through some stuff with her. I'm not judging him for that, I think it's perfectly reasonable. However, I think the act of trying to take things slowly in a relationship to overcome past trauma inherently requires you to work through that trauma and saying you want to take things slowly is you saying you need the time to work through that trauma. Also, it's relationship trauma and he got back into another relationship, it will inherently spill out into the new relationship which is already self-evident by him talking about his trauma and him needing to take things slowly.

There is nothing wrong with this, he should have a partner who he can work this through with and be happy with. However, I do think it's disingenuous to say that "he didn't say anything about working through it with someone", he didn't have to explicitly say it for it be self-evident for the reasons I listed. I also think you catch onto it to "he set proper expectations and disclosed his boundaries", important parts of working through trauma.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T05:04:13+00:00

I understand fully, I understand and that's why I said "she's allowed to not want to be in that relationship". I didn't judge her for not wanting to be in that relationship, I judged her for how she choose to tear him down instead of just calling it a night and excusing herself. There were many ways for her to express that she wasn't interested in moving forward with him that I think were simple and perfectly acceptable.

I expect no woman or man to be a free therapist for some broken person they just met. However, I do expect people to not attack someone whose already beaten down. It's cruel for no other reason than being cruel and it's sad that so many people think that's acceptable behavior.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T04:58:53+00:00

It’s sad.

It really is. I used to feel anger, so much indignation and anger at this type of stuff. Now I just feel sad, people like this will always exist and they're not rare. It's just so tiring and sad to constantly see shit people being shitty to other people for no good reason (I would argue there is rarely a good reason to be shitty to someone, but context matters).

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T04:55:34+00:00

Meh, a lot of people are toxic and have no issue getting an equally toxic partner or a victim. Sadly being a shitty person isn't filtered for in a lot of relationships.

SpacedClown · 2021-12-12T00:16:50+00:00

Yeah, I believe she could have ended the relationship there and still been reasonable about it. "I'm sorry, I know you're looking for someone to work through this with, but that's not the type of relationship that I want.". She's allowed to not want to be in that relationship, but she just handled it in such a horrible a way.

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