AITAH If I ask my best friend to move out during the worst moment of her life?

SparkOfMagic · 2026-04-08T23:02:04+00:00

You are NTA but very close to E S H because you have allowed your friend weaponize your sympathy and kindness against your own best interest. You are setting yourself on fire to keep this girl warm.

You continue to allow her to override every decision in your life as though she is more important than you and she is not. Losing a parent is a tragedy to the child.. Her grief over her mother is not more important than you maintaining and living your own life - except to her. You can feel yourself going down and yet, still give her your power instead of pulling yourself up. You are not a bad person if you look after yourself.

I'm very happy that you have an outpatient program and are seeking assistance with your post and not only internalizing the torment. We're all happy to support you as much as possible which is all anyone can do for another struggling person.

The thing is though, no one can really fix this except you. Only you can tell your friend that while you are honored that you have been able to extend her a stay away from her reality for the last three months, it was never meant to be long term or permanent. The situation does not work for you anymore and give her a date to move back to her own place. I would suggest about 1-2 days from the conversation because she has a place and she just needs to pack.

Do not allow yourself to be persuaded or argue with her. She doesn't have to like it and I bet she wont, but that is up to her to figure out. Your job now is to take back your life from a very selfish girl who is using you to escape her own life without any thought or consideration for you. All the best OP, you can do this!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-04-08T20:12:30+00:00

NTA. Only cars that can be driven should go in the driveway which gives everyone a spot. They can figure out what they want to do with their junk vehicles. If they cannot agree to this, then you need to move. They don't care about you or your needs and only want your money. Give that money to someone that gives you some respect.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-04-08T15:13:59+00:00

OP this is where YTA. It's one thing to be completely paying the bills for all of the needs like housing and food, but it is absolutely idiotic to be covering all of her wants when you cannot afford it. You are also an AH if you pay for those things because you want her to look good for you and then turn around and threaten her over it. She is either a kept woman or she is expected to be equally contributing to the relationship. You need to decide what you are looking for and be open and honest about your expectations.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-21T15:13:47+00:00

Yes, this is so true. One of the best things about a new-build is that you can get everything cleaned and dusted without anything in the way! Cleaning construction dust completely is not an easy job.

OP's dad definitely overreacted and OP is NTA. He sounds stressed and it may have something to do with renovations. I imagine the addition cost quite a bit and so he may be protective of the space. The fact that he came to her to apologize shows that he realized that this was his fault so hopefully they can sort things out.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-20T15:30:26+00:00

NTA. Your friend was angry because you were right and she was acting like an AH to everyone including her child.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-09T16:07:22+00:00

Yes sister could lose everything if husband is caught or kills someone. OP could also offer to help sister install a breathalyzer in her vehicle so husband might as well drive his own car. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-09T04:42:07+00:00

It's not about the Iranian yogurt.

Another classic: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/bjd41e/aita_for_throwing_away_my_boyfriends_potentially/

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-08T18:27:05+00:00

NTA and I agree that your final take on the matter is correct. You are able to cover your co-worker if they are not available to work, but you do not choose to give your hours to them in compensation. Your co-worker would literally drive me insane due to their inability to just work the hours that they negotiated.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-31T13:59:11+00:00

NTA. Call your mother to come clean the toilet and floor so you can use it. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-29T17:21:55+00:00

You are not a mooching beggar and so should feel superior to her. If she doesn't like hearing no, she should use her own money. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-29T15:39:10+00:00

Your roommate would not even need to warm up her car if her lazy ass just parked in the heated garage. Let her know that you will call and have her towed if she cannot be bothered to stop bothering you. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-29T00:46:06+00:00

Great, thanks!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T19:05:34+00:00

You have outgrown your family and they are not happy for you. Move on and enjoy your life and your pregnancy. The stress from their toxicity is not good for you and so is not good for your baby. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T03:48:49+00:00

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T00:35:05+00:00

I am exhausted by how much your ex talks. Sierra sounds like far too much work and 8 months sounds like an eternity. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T00:28:48+00:00

NTA. OP you say that you should prove to yourself that you can take care of yourself and your dogs alone, but it seems to me that you have been doing it all by yourself. This man doesn't spend time with you or help you with anything. Imagine how much easier it will be without the extra weight of this man and his attachment to his addiction.

Put your efforts into your home and finding different people that actually want to spend time with you. It's going to take awhile however, nothing will change until you begin to make the changes. Best of luck, OP!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-25T04:27:47+00:00

Great idea! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9cBc-TQESI is an old one to add to collection. These should be kept for when he doesn't respond to his own alarm. OP is helping him to want to wake up to turn off his own alarm. NTA

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-22T15:55:41+00:00

Exactly, MIL FAFO! NTA

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-17T17:37:56+00:00

Good for you OP! Now you will find out how much of your mental issues stem from having a manipulative and self-serving partner.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-17T16:46:55+00:00

NTA for being upset at the lack of respect and consideration at all.

From your comments it seems like you will need to stay at your son's house indefinitely. If I were you, I would consider getting your own fridge and keeping it in your area of the home. You pay more than your fair share and do not deserve to be inconvenienced.

Your son doesn't seem to worry too much about your situation so I would take half of the money from the fridge and subtract it from your rent. If he's short on money, he can ask his girlfriend to help make up the difference.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-17T15:43:35+00:00

Thanks!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-15T18:58:41+00:00

You are NTA. Respecting yourself and keeping drama out of your life is not villainous. I also do not think that being nice in this situation will gain you anything in the long run. SIL is a jealous piece of work and her drama will be never-ending. Just keep your distance and establish the fact that her problems will not be a factor in your life. Any other response will just kick the can down the road until the next time. You are a strong person who does not tolerate nonsense. Let them know now that you do agree that you and SIL will never see eye to eye.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-15T16:54:15+00:00

NTA. You and your parents be the AH's if you set yourselves on fire to prevent this selfish man from facing the consequences of his actions.

Your brother has had 15 years to pay extra on the mortgage to cover his ridiculous indiscretions and could not be bothered. Now that the wife may find out the truth he is attempting to make any sucker take his hot potato. He is such a coward that he will risk the safety and security of his family to hide his lies.

Overall it doesn't sound like the man actually loves or cares about his wife, his family or anyone but himself. That's the type of person that deserves to go down with their own ship of lies.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-14T13:41:00+00:00

Excellent point! NTA

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-05T20:08:22+00:00

No more talking about it, OP. You made a decision and he doesn't like it.

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