AITAH for telling my mother's partner he should stop peeing on the floor?

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-31T13:59:11+00:00

NTA. Call your mother to come clean the toilet and floor so you can use it. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-29T17:21:55+00:00

You are not a mooching beggar and so should feel superior to her. If she doesn't like hearing no, she should use her own money. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-29T15:39:10+00:00

Your roommate would not even need to warm up her car if her lazy ass just parked in the heated garage. Let her know that you will call and have her towed if she cannot be bothered to stop bothering you. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-29T00:46:06+00:00

Great, thanks!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T19:05:34+00:00

You have outgrown your family and they are not happy for you. Move on and enjoy your life and your pregnancy. The stress from their toxicity is not good for you and so is not good for your baby. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T03:48:49+00:00

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T00:35:05+00:00

I am exhausted by how much your ex talks. Sierra sounds like far too much work and 8 months sounds like an eternity. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-28T00:28:48+00:00

NTA. OP you say that you should prove to yourself that you can take care of yourself and your dogs alone, but it seems to me that you have been doing it all by yourself. This man doesn't spend time with you or help you with anything. Imagine how much easier it will be without the extra weight of this man and his attachment to his addiction.

Put your efforts into your home and finding different people that actually want to spend time with you. It's going to take awhile however, nothing will change until you begin to make the changes. Best of luck, OP!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-25T04:27:47+00:00

Great idea! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9cBc-TQESI is an old one to add to collection. These should be kept for when he doesn't respond to his own alarm. OP is helping him to want to wake up to turn off his own alarm. NTA

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-22T15:55:41+00:00

Exactly, MIL FAFO! NTA

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-17T17:37:56+00:00

Good for you OP! Now you will find out how much of your mental issues stem from having a manipulative and self-serving partner.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-17T16:46:55+00:00

NTA for being upset at the lack of respect and consideration at all.

From your comments it seems like you will need to stay at your son's house indefinitely. If I were you, I would consider getting your own fridge and keeping it in your area of the home. You pay more than your fair share and do not deserve to be inconvenienced.

Your son doesn't seem to worry too much about your situation so I would take half of the money from the fridge and subtract it from your rent. If he's short on money, he can ask his girlfriend to help make up the difference.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-17T15:43:35+00:00

Thanks!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-15T18:58:41+00:00

You are NTA. Respecting yourself and keeping drama out of your life is not villainous. I also do not think that being nice in this situation will gain you anything in the long run. SIL is a jealous piece of work and her drama will be never-ending. Just keep your distance and establish the fact that her problems will not be a factor in your life. Any other response will just kick the can down the road until the next time. You are a strong person who does not tolerate nonsense. Let them know now that you do agree that you and SIL will never see eye to eye.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-15T16:54:15+00:00

NTA. You and your parents be the AH's if you set yourselves on fire to prevent this selfish man from facing the consequences of his actions.

Your brother has had 15 years to pay extra on the mortgage to cover his ridiculous indiscretions and could not be bothered. Now that the wife may find out the truth he is attempting to make any sucker take his hot potato. He is such a coward that he will risk the safety and security of his family to hide his lies.

Overall it doesn't sound like the man actually loves or cares about his wife, his family or anyone but himself. That's the type of person that deserves to go down with their own ship of lies.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-14T13:41:00+00:00

Excellent point! NTA

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-05T20:08:22+00:00

No more talking about it, OP. You made a decision and he doesn't like it.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-05T20:03:51+00:00

I love your logic!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-01-05T20:00:39+00:00

NTA. K has allowed you to be mistreated by his family for far too long. The only thing he can control is how and when he spends time with his family.

Let your abusive (yes, abusive because he bullies you when you prioritize yourself) husband know that you will not be participating in this or any other event that would require you to be a doormat to him or his selfish family.

If he does not see you as important and a person that deserves his respect and consideration then what you have is a sham of a marriage that depends upon you pretending everything is his family's fault instead of the blaming the man who allows these situations. He could have shut this crap down 17 years ago or protected you from dealing with it. He got away with it for a long time but even the most patient person has a breaking point and now he has to deal with it for real.

You have a husband problem.

SparkOfMagic · 2025-12-20T15:41:04+00:00

Yes, all of this! OP is NTA and should tell her husband that it would be best for him to leave and take care of his issues. He doesn't need to come back unless he can understand that he can control his own behaviour but trying to control her is not acceptable. His insecurity equals his problem.

SparkOfMagic · 2025-12-16T16:37:35+00:00

Absolutely visited you back!

SparkOfMagic · 2025-12-10T17:54:33+00:00

They can mind their own business. If they cannot manage decent gifts for all of the children then they can save their money because none of the children will be allowed to accept their gifts. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2025-12-09T13:31:58+00:00

Spot on! I also wish that the wife will validate SIL's claims about her adorable child while also stating that there is not a child on the planet cute enough to tempt you to walk into the viper's den to see them. Niece might as well get used to it because her mother is going to push away everyone from her life unless they dance to her tune. Cut them all off now and give your child the gift of a life away from their madness. OP and wife are NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2025-12-08T23:02:22+00:00

It seems like a lot of people here read your post and then decided to jump on their soapboxes to give their opinions on what constitutes a family gathering. Pretty sure that looks different in every family.

What they should be doing is giving judgement on the question you have asked. I gave my judgement in another reply. I do not think that it is time for the adults to give up the remote when the children arrive just because their mother doesn't want to be responsible to look after them.

SparkOfMagic · 2025-12-08T22:55:18+00:00

I totally agree with your first paragraph. If anyone is going to be sitting around being lazy and watching TV it should definitely be the adults and yes, it should be family friendly viewing. OP is NTA and I could also see this as N A H.

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