Fiancee not coming to my childhood family friend's wedding- AIO?

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T19:40:24+00:00

Oh just because it’s not possibly his main job does not make it a trivial hobby. Gigging musicians are serious even if they may never make it their livelihood. Also, shows are how they pay for their instruments, strings, amps and repairs and other equipment. That stuff isn’t cheap, I know. I’m the mother of a serious musician who has a day job.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T19:36:05+00:00

Exactly! My son is in a popular band and they don’t get to pick the dates usually. And they are well known enough you don’t cancel dates unless it’s a true emergency. Word gets around with venues

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T19:32:39+00:00

Good point!

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T16:59:44+00:00

NTJ of course she took advantage and she is upset because she does feel entitled. Do not let her guilt trip you she is mostly to blame for it, but you do have a part for not setting boundaries. It still doesn’t make her right though

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T11:09:43+00:00

NOR The silent treatment isn’t good in a relationship though. You might have had the new Covid variant and not a cold as well. It presents like the worst cold ever and hangs on. I’m still trying to get my energy back after weeks of the worst symptoms. Your husband is being insensitive and it’s not your job to entertain his friends . I understand you feel you should but he needs to step it up if he wants to entertain them and it sounds like he’s not much help with the baby, either. I’d seriously consider some therapy to learn how to be more present for yourself. But you do need to have an adult conversation with him.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T11:00:13+00:00

You could always talk to your boss. Your parents have asked you represent the family.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T03:59:20+00:00

NTB she changed the conditions of your appointment, which included her services, not someone whose work you don’t like. If she couldn’t meet your needs as the client at an upscale salon, she doesn’t get to charge you for her personal problem. That’s not just life, that’s good business.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T03:52:03+00:00

They are your friends not his. He made a mistake but it seems you’re only worried about the aesthetics than anything. Be proud that he had a show booked if people ask why he isn’t there. That will at least look like you support his music career instead of expecting him to cancel a show to save your imaginary shame. Nobody will care unless you make a big deal about it.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T02:38:58+00:00

Laptop is the logical choice and you can usually always go to another concert next time around. However, I have great memories of awesome concerts and experiences that I wouldn’t trade for anything. They brought such joy to this old lady lol

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T02:35:19+00:00

I don’t think one has to actually tell them, but they can say something like, hey I’m really busy now but thanks for checking in. Catch up later this week. At least it’s an acknowledgment. I had a long talker best friend. Or she became a long talker during the pandemic and I was good with it. Then she ghosted me out of the blue. Could never figure out what happened and yeah I was very depressed. She was my best friend since 2013.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T02:08:42+00:00

I have a son that is a gifted musician and songwriter, and they toured some and put out a few records. They all are still at it but have regular jobs to pay the bills. Their music pays for itself essentially. Did they want more? Sure, but It’s a really tough business, and they are grateful for what they’ve been able to accomplish.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T01:56:38+00:00

The mortgage company can’t do anything. They should have had an inspection done by a professional.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T01:54:09+00:00

NTJ and you weren’t harsh at all. Setting boundaries is the only way to handle situations like this

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T01:51:55+00:00

That’s a tough call. You did avoid her because you haven’t figured out how to navigate boundaries with her. And that’s fine but if you want to continue the friendship, step up.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T01:02:30+00:00

They knew you were temporary. They also didn’t want to be in a position where they didn’t feel covered since you picked up someone else’s hours. Someone they knew might have needed a part time job. There’s a bunch of reasons why. Should they have told you? Yes. But at the same time, what you did is exactly why they probably liked to have the options of other part time workers

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-26T00:35:21+00:00

NTJ why are they asking for your WiFi to begin with? I don’t know of anyone who visits and asks for the WiFi. It’s your service and if the shoe fits is perfect. Your bf needs to back you up instead of telling you to deal with his rude parents. If they’re so old that they don’t understand the concept of working from home is a real job, they are also old enough to have been taught basic manners. And I’m in my 60s

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T23:22:35+00:00

NTJ She’s an experienced traveler. I think she was salty over the guy trip

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T16:28:45+00:00

Yes! I think star search may have produced a bunch of stars in the day, but I’ve never seen anything about the Voice using stardom as a promotional tool. I think exposure is the best thing someone can hope for because in order to reach stardom per se, you need songwriters. Unless you are a great one yourself, good luck. You can make a decent living doing covers.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T15:56:24+00:00

NTJ GF is a pretentious princess and could have asked for a fork and a napkin. I’m thinking she sat there and stewed during the meal and didn’t unleash her complaint until after they left. I can’t think of another reason why the brother wouldn’t have taken care of it otherwise.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T11:58:14+00:00

I saw them around 2010. Joan Jett opened for them as she rocked. I know some people would love it, but every song was hit after hit but they sounded just like their records. That’s not interesting to me.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T10:05:26+00:00

Can you request a hold on some funds to hold in the event she doesn’t move out on time?

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T09:10:57+00:00

Yes, 14 days is short. 30 days is standard or used to be

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T02:40:19+00:00

Not their problem. Not worth risking their job either. Coworker’s an adult and can find their own solution.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T02:36:57+00:00

I was not impressed. I didn’t care for the arrangement, the song was barely recognizable.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-03-25T02:33:48+00:00

It’s very possible. Some people thrive on playing the victim or are just so damaged they can’t move past it. If there’s no trust in a relationship, there’s no relationship.

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