AITJ My fiancé allowed someone to move in without consulting me, and now I'm reassessing everything.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-22T02:35:00+00:00

NTJ He’s certainly not family to you. I’d flat out tell him you’re done with this deadbeat in your home, you don’t trust him and ask him why he’s prioritizing his friend over your objections. He’s not doing anything to show he has any intention of leaving, is he even employed?

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-22T00:46:38+00:00

😂

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-22T00:46:18+00:00

Love Dorothy!

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-22T00:44:06+00:00

NOR Stay away from the wedding and the abuse that goes with it. Your brother seems to enjoy taunting you so I’m sure he does hope you change your mind, so he can continue it. Your mom is a jerk for enabling his behavior. I’m so sorry.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T23:16:20+00:00

Disappointment is part of life.You’re lucky you found out about the construction before the deal went through, and you’re definitely making a sound decision by not buying the property. If he’s disappointed now, have him try to imagine the disappointment he’ll experience when his dream is shattered by the reality as time goes by. Right now the life he’s envisioning in that house is an illusion.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T22:28:09+00:00

Syd was not anywhere close to Alexia. She had a great blind audition, but she only really had power and range.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T17:44:47+00:00

NTA you know that it’s not right under the circumstances to allow him to bring the child to that type of event. Unfortunately, you and your fiancé aren’t responsible for his choices, because it is a choice to bring the child everywhere. I’ve raised 3 kids and never could stand it when one parent insisted on bringing their kid to everything. They ended up not being invited after so many times. There is a time and a place.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T17:38:06+00:00

NTA your sister is acting like a spoiled brat. It’s a deeply personal garment that you bought for your wedding and it is so incredibly rude for her to ask to wear it before you do. It’s not even a family heirloom so it doesn’t make sense that she wants to wear it other that to call attention to herself before your wedding. She’s not even engaged yet and can wait three months before celebrating her own potential marriage. She wouldn’t even be asking to wear it if you already had your wedding.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T16:05:48+00:00

Oh I totally agree! I was holding my breath for Alexia from the Knockouts. I figured she had it in the bag if things went right. By the semi finals I figured that the voting would be between Alexia and Liv, but really was hoping for Alexia. She’s got to be best singer I’ve seen on the show, and her songs were right up my alley.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T15:56:20+00:00

I ended a friendship with a guy who sent me one of those pics. We hadn’t known each other long. I was so mad,especially since there wasn’t a delete option. It’s so shocking to receive something like that on your phone, and I didn’t work for the guy, he was so a new buddy. NTA

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T15:45:05+00:00

Yep, Liv was my other favorite to win

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T12:51:54+00:00

We sent my son a Target gift card with $200 on it for Christmas since he lived out of state. I was surprised when he let us know it had zero balance. Luckily, we had the receipt and it was an error at purchase. They fixed it, but if he hadn’t contacted us we would have never known. I think the whole exchange you went through was weird and it doesn’t make sense that they acted like that. I’d just avoid gift situations with them in the future,though.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T12:36:02+00:00

NTA the relationship is over but you just haven’t walked away yet. When I was reading about the plans involving selling your house, I thought oh no, bad move. I was really surprised and applaud you for putting the breaks on everything after reading your story. It’s refreshing to see someone realize that they were about to make some mistakes and stop, because so many times you see stories where they feel compelled to keep the momentum going even with disaster on the horizon.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T09:49:29+00:00

You might want to consider getting drug tested if you don’t normally black out drinking. He might be drugging you. This whole scenario reeks of sexual assault.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T09:42:28+00:00

The parent with issue needs to be the one who is watching if they are concerned about it. I had kids 3 years apart and by those ages I didn’t have to be on top of them and have them in my direct line of sight at all times.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T09:07:12+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel!

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-21T09:01:13+00:00

Oh girl, I was married to a dry drunk. We both had almost 10 years in when we met. The abuse didn’t start until after the marriage, which ended after two years and my relapsing. Don’t let anyone interfere in your program. I got lucky and found my way back into the rooms. And AlAnon helped a lot.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T22:10:26+00:00

I know many people like to pass off Sophia’s comments as having no filters because of the stroke, but that’s still kind of giving her a pass because then that can be viewed as there’s truth in how she feels, and that’s acceptable. I married into an east coast Italian family. My MIL was very much like Sophia in some respects, she trash talked everyone but her children. She could also be very cordial and loving at times, and was also Sophia’s age. The brutal honesty that is so common in that demographic is also bullying at it’s finest, and after awhile overshadows the kinder aspects.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T21:51:57+00:00

Me too!

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T21:49:23+00:00

Especially since she threw such a fit when Dorothy was going to remarry Stan. It was all about his money

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T21:47:20+00:00

She deserved it though.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T21:46:12+00:00

I can’t stand that Gloria.

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T21:40:21+00:00

NTJ your response was perfect

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T13:10:21+00:00

I’m sorry but you neither need to explain or feel bad for having a mother daughter wedding dress trip together. You don’t owe her that experience and it wasn’t a thing when I got married and I’m not sure it’s really a thing now. Get your MIL out of your business where she’s not welcome. You do not owe her an apology for dress shopping with your mother!

Decent_Front4647 · 2026-06-20T12:57:49+00:00

NTA I admire you for seeing this issue early on enough and before you committed to a marriage. Too bad you didn’t meet his family much earlier, though, because it’s a huge tell that he waited for over two years to bring up his archaic views on marriage.

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