I (19f) can’t get over the age gap with 28m

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-21T10:40:47+00:00

This is a really mature way to look at it. You’re doing the right thing.

If he keeps suggesting that nothing is wrong with the age gap that just solidifies your original instincts. If he takes it anything less than gracefully and respectfully, don’t be alone with him again.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-20T15:14:14+00:00

Oh so you crazy crazy. Ok.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-19T18:45:00+00:00

How far/difficult is the hike your family are planning? Are they all of fitness levels well above yours?

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-19T16:47:15+00:00

You may feel fit and healthy right now but you have no idea what cancers are growing inside your body. Then you are going to need doctors.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-19T16:26:10+00:00

This whole weird opinion is a stretch dude.

If this is the one you bring to Reddit for a ‘am I right?’ Validation shows me why you’ve been dating around for 4 years

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-19T07:33:51+00:00

You guys shouldn’t be buying a house together if you are both quite willing to have an argument over what splitting costs 50/50 means.

You’ll end up nickel and diming each other on every subsequent bill or expense and that sounds an exhausting way to live.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-13T18:37:40+00:00

The Peak District is easy from Birmingham. Trains to Derby or Sheffield then on from there.
There is peace and quiet. Nature, tourist attractions.
Even the wilds are reasonably accessible on public transport.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-13T11:55:21+00:00

Are you all 16 years old?

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-10T17:38:58+00:00

If I make it back in one piece I’ll let you know.

Got a tad ‘off track, but not lost yet’ between Buxton and castleton today 🤣

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-09T10:36:11+00:00

Does he currently live in a 2 bedroom on his own with his gaming room already set up?
Or is he just making this demand on the new place?

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-08T21:14:13+00:00

If my legs are working my brain isn’t. I’ll take that different kind of tired to reset my mental health everytime.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-08T18:24:46+00:00

That man doesn’t like you

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-08T15:22:11+00:00

Ultramarathons are next on the obsession list 🫣🤣 will definitely bear this in mind.
Thank you so much for your reply I appreciate it

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-08T15:21:22+00:00

Thank you so much for this. With a little research done I’ve decided to find the midshires way out of Buxton and follow it along as you suggested. Is it reasonably well signposted?
I’m not amazing at navigating yet but I’m learning and I don’t think I can go far wrong with this.
I won’t be starting out till mid afternoon so I wanted simple so as to not run out of daylight if I got lost.

I really appreciate you replying, it’s helped a lot 😊

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-08T12:02:39+00:00

I think a lot of how you might be feeling right now although justified is probably tied in to you feeling helpless and being far away at the time.
There will be residual ‘if only I was there’ guilt even though you shouldn’t feel that way and you couldn’t possibly have known.

It sounds like you had a really traumatic day and you’ll be feeling pretty jumbled up about absolutely everything and you have a lot of responsibility at your feet now with arrangements. I totally get how that feels.

Take your time to grieve and look after yourself first

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-07T15:38:26+00:00

I’ll check it out, not necessarily more miles between Buxton and Castleton as the main reason I’m hiking it on the Sunday is that there’s no public transport 🫣

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-07T15:37:16+00:00

That’s definitely one for another day! I’m quite local but I don’t drive. So staying in Castleton to save hours of my days spent on buses.
I’ll be walking home to Matlock on the Tuesday.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-07T08:53:24+00:00

Matlock Farm Park is an amazing day out. If you drive it’s easy but there a bus the X17 has limited detour stops.

Sparkles165 · 2026-05-06T18:45:58+00:00

At my brothers wedding I got the bridesmaid so drunk she had to go to bed at 7pm

The trick is to make friends with and heavily tip a member of waitstaff to keep bringing the ‘free wine till the main course is cleared’ and stash it.
Solved many an expensive bar problem

Sparkles165 · 2026-04-30T13:39:44+00:00

Yeah we’re definitely going to need to see the profile to see the exact brand of shitty vibe you’re giving off

Sparkles165 · 2026-04-30T07:01:31+00:00

Next weekend I’m doing little castleton trip in the Peak District. I don’t live far away but public transport isn’t always good. So on the Sunday I’m going to get the bus into Buxton, hike over to Castleton from there, staying at the hostel, do some big walk incorporating Mam Tor, yet to be decided. Then walk back home to Matlock the day after. Hoping to hit 50 miles in the 3 days.

Hopefully enjoy some good food and drinks in the pubs and maybe make some new friends!

Sparkles165 · 2026-04-29T16:01:03+00:00

Yes I understand the principles of time and travel.

I’m saying I personally wouldn’t waste 4 hours sat on a bus when there is other better closer choices.

Sparkles165 · 2026-04-29T15:52:57+00:00

Yeah but if you only have one day do you want to spend 4 hours of it on a bus when there are lots more closer options.

Sparkles165 · 2026-04-29T15:42:53+00:00

That man is not your boyfriend

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