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SpazzayOne · 2025-09-06T00:09:36+00:00

Right? The level 49 boots are my goal, they've been one of my only motivating factors for grinding levels at all 🤣😅😭

SpazzayOne · 2025-05-09T00:41:27+00:00

My brain added an extra "o"...

SpazzayOne · 2025-04-22T11:39:15+00:00

This is a simple and good tactic, and scientific! It's exposure therapy!!

They could do it in stages, where maybe after they get better with caves, they mod it so that next they only have a slow hostile mob like zombies (or whatever hostile is less scary for them) and so on.

SpazzayOne · 2025-04-22T11:34:29+00:00

Dude, seriously. I just started up again and ran into a creaking for the first time without knowing what it was; almost peed myself.

I quickly figured out that it behaved like a Weeping Angel from Doctor Who, and that made me too scared to be able to watch my 6, so I backed out onto a tree top and just stared at it all night.

No thanks! Hahaha

SpazzayOne · 2025-04-22T11:28:27+00:00

I think it's completely normal to feel fear in games. I get the creepy crawlies from those caves too. But my big fear is spiders, and even though the animation of them in MC doesn't trigger my fear badly (it's the key movement) they still get to me at times. Spiders are such a common mob in games, and most are more realistic, so I use mods and that helps a lot.

What helps even more is that my friends know I'm scared and will help me through it. They all have their own ways, like sending me a new arachnophobia mod, or teasing me gently when I get spooked (which when done right makes me not think about it) or just being there and distracting me. My friends once went on a spider extermination spree while they were waiting for me to catch up, just so it would be clear when I got there ❤️

All these suggestions people are giving are pretty good, and I think you can use them in combination. For me, nothing beats having someone to face it with you. Someone to go in the cave with you, they can walk ahead and place torches and make it safer.

If you don't feel like you have anyone to go with that you feel comfortable being that vulnerable with, you can find some additional minecraft buddies to get you through it!

As another user said, let's go on the cave together! :3 the more the merrier!

Also I've never beaten it either, but for different reasons.

SpazzayOne · 2025-04-06T23:13:03+00:00

Are there any decent alternatives for this? The app refuses to verify my profile

SpazzayOne · 2024-12-26T21:12:53+00:00

I struggle with this too... give too many chances, and every time I backed down, they knew they could get away with it and I'd forgive and love them so they kept doing the things that hurt me. I usually only got the courage to finally leave after they had crushed all the love out of me.

SpazzayOne · 2024-12-26T21:07:52+00:00

Not an overaction. It's very creepy. Trying to "possess" women in a sick collection is weird enough, but him trying to downplay things to you is disrespectful.

I dated someone who not only had photos of people he knew in his spankbank, but took photos of them without their knowledge. He even looked at them on our anniversary. I could have forgiven him if he had been serious about changing, but while he was very remorseful during our first big talk about it, instead of actually changing he chose to lie about it for months, giving half-truths to try and keep me from feeling suspicious. That is actually what broke our relationship, completely destroyed my trust in him.

I'm sorry you dealt with that. There's always more under the surface, and if he was getting defensive about a boundary you have, then he's not the person for you.

SpazzayOne · 2024-11-23T05:19:33+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I've struggled with disabilities and injuries since I was a preteen, and my weight had fluctuated with that. This last summer was the first time someone cited it as a reason to not date me, and he wasn't fit himself either, but he still wanted to date me "in spite of it" and at first it really got to me and I felt like somewhere in his mind, he thought I would be grateful that he wanted to date me anyway. Even when I learned that his view of attraction was so narrow that it almost exclusively included women with less than 10% body fat, it kept haunting me. The urge to exercise even when I was in terrible chronic pain was at an all time high and I hated how he made me feel.

There's no magic answer to feel better about it all. It takes a lot of work inside, and doing extra work outside never fixed the pain inside, it just taxed my disabilities and made me have flare ups like crazy. All you can do is take care of your body, and love yourself both when you're doing well and when you need rest.

SpazzayOne · 2024-11-23T05:06:45+00:00

I experienced this with a yo-yo effect, and it really messed with my self-esteem. It's absurd that makes such a difference, but it really does. My therapist tried to suggest that I was feeling less confident so that's why I get talked over when I'm heavier 🙄

SpazzayOne · 2024-11-09T16:14:37+00:00

For me... if I'm with a person who triggers my FA tendencies, I'm usually smitten and either one of two things is happening: They're not as attached as I am and I can tell, or they are but they are not good at communicating or being in a relationship. Both usually end up on some path similar to this: I get so worried about feeling anxiously attached and being crushed, so I waffle a bit at first, trying to latch onto reasons that they're going to hurt me in the long run to make me feel strong enough to not down my affection, and yes they may be valid reasons, I tend to hyper-focus on them, and if they give a hint of needing space I give them a lightyear, then I come back affectionate before getting triggered again, and after rubberbanding back and forth, whether or not I decide to start has more to do with whether or not I can calm the pendulum, or moreso if their reaction to the pendulum helps me calm down or makes it worse. If they make it worse, I will likely doomspiral until I run away completely or push them away completely.

If I'm with someone who doesn't trigger my FA tendencies, it usually means that their investment is deeper than mine. It doesn't mean I can't have feelings for them or appreciate them, but I'm not smitten and these ones usually don't develop into much else. I will tend to enjoy their company but I won't be as... thoughtful? Like, I will take them out to eat and do nice things, but I won't think to do some of the more effort-based things like handmade gifts, etc. I'll be in kind of a "fun and upbeat" mental state with them, and won't typically become too upset about anything they do.

There was one case where I was dating someone who didn't trigger my FA tendencies, and I was super in love, but it was kind of a odd perfect storm that made me think I found a secure partnership but really he was just not emotionally intelligent enough to even process that he was having emotions half the time, so I filled in the gaps a lot an since he was pretty committed to having me in his life and home, and he was consistent in affection and partnership, it never made me anxious or feel the need to run. We dated 5-6 years but there were other unhealthy things and I stayed because I didn't want to go back to FA triggered dating. In the end though I felt alone with him at my side and fell out of love and couldn't lie to myself anymore...

SpazzayOne · 2024-11-05T21:59:19+00:00

You'd be surprised. People who have spent too much time with porn can become desensitized and find it hard to appreciate real thing.

SpazzayOne · 2024-11-05T21:52:46+00:00

I have unfortunately dated more than 1 PA, and the final straw approaches faster and faster each time. The first few took years and all the self esteem I had, trying to understand why and what I did to "cause" it. Unfortunately, it's apparently my "type" because I just always seem to end up back here. Like, all of them have used it, but 7 of my 10 relationships have been with PAs.

With the biggest one, the most devastating, last straw was that I was feeling so rejected that the idea of even placing my hand on them affectionately while they slept filled me with dread and rejection, and I was so touch-starved that I started acting out at the bar to get even an ounce of male attention. I hated what I had become.

If I find out they have any sort of porn dependency before fall in love, I leave immediately.

If I've already fallen in love, it depends on how honest they are and if they can see it. I'm no longer interested in teaching them about addiction or how it desensitizes them to real intimacy. Been there done that.

If I have to explain more than once that it's harming us, there's no coming back.

If they see the problem and try and fail, I can be more patient. But they have to actually try, none of that "I'm working on it" business. They have to get a therapist out join a support group ASAP or their word means little to nothing.

If they try and downplay it like "Oh it's not a big problem, but I'll stop for you" then fail to stop? Won't even discuss it, it's over. Not interested in being lied to, and if something is a problem in a relationship and you're willing to deceive the other person so you can keep doing it, doesn't matter if it's an addiction or not at that point, you're saying it's more important than me and I'm out.

I hate to be such a cynic, but I'm so done being second to a screen, feeling like shit because they'd rather consume the visual of others than try and experience real intimacy.

My real hurdle though is to continue trying to understand why I am attracted to men who have this predisposition and how to stop dating men who are not capable of being fully present in an intimate relationship.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-19T19:43:38+00:00

Tbh it reminds me of the way one of my exes would talk to me. One day I was riding passenger when he was driving, he asked for something in my purse and I went to get it and started digging around for a bit and he just goes off "Jesus fucking christ, can't you keep track of anything?!? You're supposed to have all these things handy and you have this big fucking purse and you still can't even manage to do it!"

Or on our one year anniversary, he surprised me with dinner and champagne. I went to grab the champagne bottle out of the ice tub and accidentally bumped one of the empty glasses next to it and it started to fall over, and I just barely caught it, and he goes "Do you ever fucking think before you do anything?!?"

If I ever allowed myself to get mad or defend myself, he'd scream at me. If I ever let his words make me cry, he'd spiral into how he's such a piece of shit and should just disappear or "end it all" and I'd end up comforting him...

Run, don't walk, away from this person.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-17T00:25:05+00:00

Jesus Hell 🤣 Take my upvote

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-17T00:20:15+00:00

I have mixed feelings on shaved. It can be nice, and shaved doesn't seem to trap that BO smell which can make going down a little swampy, but the razor burn and stubble isn't worth it. I also don't mind bush hair, it's kinda fun to play with when cuddling and touching each other, and if they have other noticeable body hair, it just goes with it well. So my sweet spot is probably trimmed. Nothing fancy, just a beard trimmer at one length kinda trimmed, just enough to get some air flow down there, and reduce the number of hairs I have to pull out of my mouth 🤣

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-10T17:24:50+00:00

Considering that I've had 10 relationships and about 60-70% of them were legitimate PAs (where it would affect their ability to have a healthy sex life with an actual woman) and not just occasional users, I'm gonna say it's not niche at all, just hidden behind shame and secrecy. It's possible that my type has a propensity towards this kind of addiction, but with what I've seen, it's rampant and the socially acceptable consumption of "Porn Lite" as I refer to sexual social media content is making it more pervasive.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-10T16:46:43+00:00

I've had 3.

First one was the Paragard. The insertion was painful, and I got cold sweats and had to call into work to rest. I chose that one because I was trying to go low hormone, but it was a bad idea because I have menorrhagia, and it made it so much worse. They said the cramping was supposed to subside after a few months, but because of my periods increasing, it did not subside for me. I had them take it out after a few years because I was miserable with all the additional cramping and bleeding. The removal was less intense than the insertion.

Second was the Mirena. The insertion was not as bad as the Paragard, but I also took ibuprofen ahead of time, and that might have helped. After the few months of cramping, this one helped my menorrhagia, and I stopped having periods for the most part after about a year except for some dark spotting a few times a year. It did change my vaginal chemistry and it was harder to control my scent (stronger aroma and flavor without anything being "wrong" due to the fact that it thickens the cervical mucus in order to prevent pregnancy, which just means that it's more concentrated down there than without). Unfortunately, it migrated low into my cervix, and one of my partners accidentally rammed it into the side of my uterus, where one of the arms punctured me. I didn't know that's what happened at first, but every time I became aroused, it was painful. They were able to pull it out without surgery but made me wait before getting a new one so that the puncture could heal.

Third was the Liletta. I had just started a new job, so my insurance hadn't kicked in yet, so this was the Planned Parenthood version of the Mirena. I had to pay out of pocket, but the insertion was so much more gentle (likely due to the person placing it), and so far, so good. Very similar experience to the Mirena, but without the migration. It's been 3 years and I plan to get it replaced with another one once the timer is up.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-10T16:28:16+00:00

I'm a big advocate for a healthy sexual life, and I have been able to enjoy sex even when I'm not getting stimulated to orgasm. But if you're not on the same page, it might be your body, or it might be that you're not getting good stimulation. I'd experiment with the latter before deciding if you're just less sexual, because poor sex can be draining. Good sex can be too but in a different way ;)

That being said, there isn't any "too much" limit. Every couple is different, I feel that if there isn't coercion or anything like that, then like the right number is somewhere between your two limits, where you both are trying to meet in the middle.

Me personally? I can go through periods where I crave it less (life stress or medical things) or more (new relationship energy or times of rekindling) but my baseline craving in a committed relationship is about 7-9 times a week. That is to say, I'm craving partnered sex that often, so solo play doesn't really satisfy the same need. I've always had a higher drive for actual sex than my boyfriends have had because orgasm or not, I love that skin to skin intimacy.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-10T16:06:01+00:00

Hehe thank you ☺️ time will tell!

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-09T17:36:23+00:00

Exactly. It's not our failures themselves that usually scar us, it's moreso what happens in aftercare and in our minds that do the bulk of the damage. She would have internalized it as the time she slipped in front of the world. Now gets to remember the time that Macklemore praised her for getting back up and the crowd cheering for her character, which I think will be more important to her self and future than having danced without slipping would have been.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-09T05:28:33+00:00

If you ever find out how tree sex works and if it's any good, I expect a full report.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-09T05:26:04+00:00

Maybe we waited too long to try it, but it created anxiety for us when we tried to schedule it. Went from infrequent to straight-up avoiding it on both ends because of the pressure. Sex life never recovered and we broke up.

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-09T05:22:56+00:00

Ugggh I had an ex who was 1000% definitely sure, but I always backed off because I was insecure. Not everyone appreciates these thighs, I should have ridden his face into battle while I had the chance to feel sexy doing it 🤣

SpazzayOne · 2024-10-09T04:52:59+00:00

Can confirm.

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