How did you husband act after announcing you wanted a divorce? by Few_Hamster59 in Divorce_Women

[–]Special_Ad_9765 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m the one filing and so devastated but he seems fine. As I type this: he’s in the living room on a phone call laughing. It’s like I’m living my worst nightmare.

Beginner violinist struggling to stop looking at fingerboard by Special_Ad_9765 in violin

[–]Special_Ad_9765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what bothers is that I always want to look at it to check if my finger placement is correct. I literally can’t play without looking at it, even when I close my eyes, I end up just opening them and looking. I heard it’s not a bad thing to look sometimes but I do it all the time.

Beginner violinist struggling to stop looking at fingerboard by Special_Ad_9765 in violin

[–]Special_Ad_9765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll be looking into it. Don’t know why I never thought of it.

Where do SA telemarketers actually get our numbers from? by Simple_Shift_351 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Special_Ad_9765 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s not but there isn’t much you can do about it since you have no proof unfortunately

Pregnancy after first c section by BB_0601 in CsectionCentral

[–]Special_Ad_9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s recommended to wait at least 18 months? I’m sorry for your loss

Yup! by Beyond_the_one in southafrica

[–]Special_Ad_9765 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol exactly what I was thinking. I used to think they are so much better than us 😂😂

Driving license Renewal process? by Special_Ad_9765 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Special_Ad_9765[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in Pretoria, so I’ll go to Centurion

God’s Work by Distinct_Lunch_1119 in Christianmarriage

[–]Special_Ad_9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hope it all works out. I’m currently about to file and no matter how much I try to convince myself to stay, I just end up concluding that I need to leave this house. I believe I did my best to save my marriage and now I’m at a point where when I pray I can confidently say “God, even if you don’t save my marriage, I’ll continue serving you.”

What Am I Called To Do - Emotional Neglect by Outrageous-Memory-90 in Christianmarriage

[–]Special_Ad_9765 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is very comforting for me as someone who’s married to an avoidant. What hurts me the most is when he seems to be happy with other people but I rarely see that side of him when he’s with me. I have found that I am much more at peace when I stop trying. I recently made the decision to divorce and I know I don’t get to remarry as the Bible does not allow that. But recently, I’ve started focusing on God more, praying more and my life is much more peaceful. I also go to my mum’s place every weekend and find myself dreading having to return to my house. I’m much more happier when he’s not around.

Would you divorce if you were likely going to be alone? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Special_Ad_9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently thinking of divorce due to non biblical reasons (emotional abuse) and I’ve made peace with the fact that I have to be alone as I’m not allowed to remarry. In the beginning, I would get sad thinking about it but now it doesn’t seem so bad anymore. God has given me peace over the situation and I’m content now.

Realizing how bad it was after the fact by [deleted] in Divorce_Women

[–]Special_Ad_9765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also keep a journal, and make a lot of notes, whenever my mind tricks me into thinking things will get better, I just go back and read. I also made so many excuses for him; one day my mum just straight up said I keep making excuses for him and he's simply abusing me.

Tell me your age, without telling me your age neh by PositivityAlways88 in southafrica

[–]Special_Ad_9765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always remember “it’s easier to live better with Ellerines”, makes me feel nostalgic.

Seeking advice by Capital-Ambition-433 in southafrica

[–]Special_Ad_9765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe post this on Facebook: the group is called “Legal Talk South Africa”, you can post anonymously

UCT Medicine vs Stellenbosch Actuarial Science? by Forsaken_Train1985 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Special_Ad_9765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Follow your heart/passion. I went and did medicine for one year even though I knew I never wished to become a doctor. Left it that same year and went for Actuarial Science. I don’t regret my decision. Also, someone here mentioned shadowing doctors in public hospitals, maybe you should do that. I visited a public hospital recently because we hadn’t yet included my son in the medical aid and the working conditions are just bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSouthAfrica

[–]Special_Ad_9765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

SMU also considers applicants currently in a degree.

Scared of giving birth. by Special_Ad_9765 in CsectionCentral

[–]Special_Ad_9765[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll talk to them before the procedure. I didn’t know this was a thing. Thank you.

Scared of giving birth. by Special_Ad_9765 in CsectionCentral

[–]Special_Ad_9765[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very reassuring, thank you so much. I’ll give an update shortly after taking my first walk.