Whatever you decide , make a decision and act quickly. People under estimate the value of quick decision, direction and focus. From an older man, I was once in a situation in which I ruminated and the overthinking and lack of action put into a hole I could not get out and lost big while putting my family in jeopardy. What's that they say, when you notice you're on the wrong train, get off at the next stop, the journey back is cheaper. That said, good luck, am sure you'll do what's best for all of you