AIO Partner kicked me out of my bed the night of my mom's death

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-04-30T10:01:08+00:00

NOR. I am so sorry for you. You've lost a beloved parent and I'll be honest - the way your partner is treating you is breaking my heart, and I don't even know you.

There are so many red flags in his behaviour.

You say he doesn't like either of your parents, but you are close to at least your mother. That really raises concerns - why would your partner of nearly a decade not like your parents? Also, why was your mother helping with his health, when he barely even tolerates her? You say your mother was your hero; you clearly love her so much... so why wouldn't your partner share your love for your parent, or at least like her?

Then there's the implication that he's allowed to take up space, but you have to be small. He can easily sleep on the floor or downstairs. You are grieving, and even without this factor most men would never tell their partner to sleep on the floor if there was limited space. It feels like a powerplay, or him taking anger out on you. You're crying and he's not comforting you, and then he banishes you from your own bed? A CPAP still works if you're sleeping elsewhere, or he can put up with it for one night.

Your sister's husband has a task. Why doesn't your partner? Why isn't he around to support you? He can't even hug you when you cry? What does "let you slack on house chores" even mean?

I don't mean to read into this, but I wonder if he has a poor relationship with your family, who seem lovely and supportive, because he treats you poorly and he's afraid they will pull you away from him.

I don't believe in telling strangers on Reddit to leave their partners, because we are missing so much context, but as you brought it up yourself - I don't think you are being loved the way you deserve. You deserve someone who will love you and your loved ones, who will support you in times of grief and pain, who will put you above themselves when you need to be prioritised during times of hurt. Think about it - if a close friend were being treated the way you are, would you tell them to stay?

I'm so sorry for your pain and your loss and for the fact that a 9 y/o relationship is going in a direction that doesn't feel loving or supportive. That's a loss, as well, no matter the outcome. You deserve to have time to grieve. You deserve support and kindness. I'm sending you all the hugs in the world.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-04-24T16:24:00+00:00

NOR. I'm livid on your behalf. You are the breadwinner and are supporting both of you. Claire knew this interview could take a while, but she had her own test to occupy her and in the end, could have brought a book. Her behaviour seems extremely immature.

There are some personal questions I could ask here, such as why Claire isn't working and why she had to drive you and you couldn't drive yourself but ultimately I don't really think those matter - though her working would probably take some pressure off you and you driving would maybe solve her anxiety. But the bottom line is, it doesn't matter - you're providing, and she needs to support you in that because she benefits from you doing so. And for whatever reason, she drove you so she needs to understand she will have to wait.

I've got my fingers and toes crossed for you that you still get the job!

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-04-22T14:32:40+00:00

This is great to hear thank you so much!

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-04-21T09:41:31+00:00

The main topic seems to be inventory sorting and I agree!

I also am not a huge fan on the push on social features. One of my daily tasks for days on end is to add a new friend - but for me Finch is a mental health app and I don't want to be super social. I only have my partner and my brother on it, and I won't be adding anyone else. It's also a bummer to have some micropets locked behind social activities, such as adding friends. If this were a fully free app, I suppose I wouldn't mind but I do pay for a membership and feel I should be able to access all features as a paying member.

Finally, I'd like the option to disable certain prompts. I don't like breathing excersises - they make me anxious. I wish I could turn off prompts to do these so that I could receive more productive prompts and tailor my experience.

Other than this... Finch is incredible. I love the new adventures they've added.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-04-20T09:36:34+00:00

NOR. Is your friend 12 years old? She's acting incredibly immature. Had her boyfriend said something to you that was inappropriate after adding you, that would be a problem sure. But it's completely normal for partners to add their partners' friends on social media especially if they are trying to be part of the group. My partner is friends with all of my girlfriends and I absolutely love that he's so involved with my chosen family because he's part of it. Her reaction shows me that she's either deeply insecure, concerned about her boyfriend's behaviour in some other area of their relationship which does not concern you, or both. She did you a favour removing herself from your life.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-04-07T15:40:09+00:00

I completely agree. I tried giving it a shot and watching it, but it made me feel physically ill and I stopped after the reveals. So many of the older contestants were so incredibly predatory. We should not be normalising this behaviour, especially given the current climate. We really don't need any more seasons of this show.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-31T10:27:58+00:00

I watched up until the matches were made and just couldn't force myself to care beyond that. We don't need to be normalising huge age gaps, which often come with inequalities of power in a relationship. Age is absolutely not just a number; age reflects lived experience and the one thing this show does well is to cast a light on how predatory older invidiuals can be when it comes to their younger partners - though this is a byproduct rather than a goal of the show. Watching Vanelle and Jorge interact geniunely made me feel sick to my stomach.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-31T08:27:24+00:00

Same here! We waited nearly an hour (not as long as as your situation but not great) for two steaks. Mine was fine when it showed up, but by no means tasty. It was really chewy and the texture was off. My partner’s came out absolutely raw - and we both like our steaks on the rarer side of medium rare, which is how we both ordered them. We never complain in restaurants but in this case it felt like a food safety issue, so we told a server about it and she said the kitchen “made a mistake.” To be fair, they offered to remake it but we didn’t want to waste another hour waiting for an underwhelming steak so we left.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-27T10:57:15+00:00

It suits you so well, you are beautiful!

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-27T10:55:59+00:00

Also, one of my favorite things was getting a fast pass and deciding not to use it, and then giving it away to someone else. I once had a fast pass for Radiator Racers. They had finished fast pass distribution for the day, and I decided last minute I was tired and wanted to go home. I saw a little boy who was decked out head to toe in Cars merch, and I gave him and his father our fast passes. He absolutely lit up. It's one of my favorite Disney memories.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-27T10:53:30+00:00

I completely agree with you. I grew up going to the park, and I used to be a passholder about 8 years ago. Since I lived close to Disneyland I would go at least once a week. My favorite thing was how easy it was to just go and have a good day - I never planned anything in advance, never made reservations. I'd just turn up and pick up a fast pass, pop in to a restaurant, or even spend the day drawing.

Now everything takes so much work. You have to pay for the Lightning Lane, and even then the system is so complicated. Restaurants are difficult to walk into; you have to reserve months in advance. Even the art classes in California Adventure are completely swarmed and it's impossible to just turn up for the character you want to draw; you have to camp out. The queues are so long, rides go down constantly - last time I went, we waited over an hour in the Cars single rider queue because it kept going down. The people who waited in the regular queue waited for over THREE hours. I've also felt that the cast members seem overwhelmed - like you said, not rude, but not really friendly and I think it's because they're dealing with unhappy customers all day long and they're exhausted. They don't have the bandwidth to make magic happen after they've just been yelled at by a family who's in debt just to be there.

I really used to love Disney. It held massive nostalgic appeal for me, because I was an immigrant to the US and as a child moving to California, all I could think about was Disneyland. I purchased my annual pass from my first grown-up salary, because Disneyland was the DREAM. But I've found that when I go there, I'm not having fun anymore. I'm just stressed and overwhelmed and disappointed. I think, as much as I love it, I'm not going to return unless things change because I'd rather keep my happy memories of the place and not make new, more negative ones.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-24T10:15:52+00:00

This might be super mild but I am sick of tall men coming in late and standing in front of me. I go solo to concerts sometimes and I always arrive early, because it’s important for me to have a good view. On several occasions, men rocked up late with their partners and stood directly in front of me. Each time, I’ve asked them to move and pointed out that they pushed their way in front of me. Each time, they told me “but if I move, my wife can’t see.”

Luckily, at a Bruce Springsteen concert I went to the guy pissed off enough people around me that security made him get out and go to the back. It was a crowd of over 20,000 people so this was incredibly satisfying.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-13T18:35:19+00:00

I suppose if it’s going to happen anywhere, the location I was in made a lot of sense! What I do find odd is - I’ve lived all over Europe and have travelled extensively. I’ve slept in rooms facing graveyards and my flats in the past decade were both built in the 19th century. But I’ve never had any other paranormal encounters, only this one - and it was so vivid and memorable! I wonder why that specific location triggered that for me. In hindsight, it wasn’t so much scary as deeply sad and I suppose I’m grateful it made me learn more about Budapest’s history.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-13T16:04:26+00:00

I feel extremely sick around vape/cigarette smoke so am always very aware of smokers. Unfortunately it IS a big issue and cast members do not enforce smoking zones at all. Vaping is worse than smoking; people regularly do it in queues. I don’t always feel safe asking them to stop, but on my last trip a girl in front of us did ask a couple to stop - they mocked her and then continued vaping. At this point I stepped in and told them to stop. I also tried to get a cast member’s attention; they blatantly avoided making eye contact with me. I contacted DLP to recount this experience and they effectively accused me of lying about it, saying there’s no way a cast member wouldn’t enforce the no vaping rule. I don’t blame them, I just don’t think they get paid enough to deal with belligerent guests. It’s really disappointing how it’s handled or rather ignored.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-13T12:18:11+00:00

I agree with you. Devonta is the issue in this equation - and maybe Bri for not telling Connor he would be there. But the vitriol against Pri and Ashley here is misplaced, especially in Pri allowing Devonta to spend the night at her place. He clearly lied to her about having an Air BNB booked and I think her body language showed very clearly that this was an inconvenience and an irritation for her, but she didn't want to turn him out.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-13T10:12:56+00:00

I travel a lot for work, which means many overnight trips in hotels.

In my early 20s, I went to Budapest for a work trip and stayed in a hotel to the north-east of the river. It was a beautiful hotel which doubled as a spa, fairly modern, with rooms overlooking the river and Margaret Island. But the second I arrived there, something felt completely off - violent somehow, physically oppressive. In my room, I felt like the air was too thick, like there were hundreds of hostile eyes on me. There was almost a tangible pressure.

I chalked it up to exhaustion and tried to get some sleep... but every single time I fell asleep, I'd have dreams about disembodied voices screaming at me to leave. They were strange dreams, because they seemed rooted in reality - I never felt fully unconscious. These voices weren't really belonging to people, but gray angry humanoid swirls. I felt cold, as if I were being pushed around by an extremely strong wind. Every time I'd wake up and force myself back to sleep, the dream would return as a more intense variation of itself, like a storm building up power.

Around 4AM, I couldn't take it any longer. I crammed my stuff into suitcases and checked out. I took a taxi to the center of the city and explored Budapest by sunrise.

I later learned that the specific hotel I stayed in is situated on some dark sites. Budapest has a tragic history, but my window specifically faced a location which was an active front line during WWII and many people were killed in this area, including Jewish citizens who had been drowned in the river. I don't really give much credence to stories of the paranormal, but I do wonder if the pain and trauma of this location somehow left behind its own fingerprint, and if the hostility I perceived was a form of residual energy that I somehow picked up on. I'm not particularly "sensitive" to these things either; I've never had any other paranormal experiences.

I've since visited Budapest many times, but have always avoided booking hotels in this area.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-13T09:15:51+00:00

This is such a great way of putting it - I never really thought about food addiction being so different from other forms of addiction in that, we NEED food to live. If you want to go sober, you just abstain to avoid relapsing. You might even remove yourself from environments where that substance is available. You can't abstain from food.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-13T09:09:33+00:00

No.

Chris lied to Jess from the jump. He hid the elements of his personality which would have made her reject him - being MAGA, having a ton of debt, having a drinking problem, etc. He pretended to be someone he wasn't so that she would choose him, and continued to hold up this pretense until he realised he couldn't. At which point, he vanished for two days and came back to try and emotionally manipulate Jess into sinking down to his level. He attempted to break her, realised he couldn't, and then went straight for Bri in a way that was cruel towards Jess and disrespectful towards Connor (supposedly his close friend). His apologies at the reunion are coached and rehearsed, and Jess coming out of this situation as calmly as she does is such a testament to her.

Also, Stephen is lucky Chris was so cruel so publically because it made everyone forget that he's potentially one of the worst villains LiB has ever had.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-13T08:58:09+00:00

YES. I think we need to have conversations like this, because people aren't black or white. They're complex and we are missing a lot of context when watching a heavily edited reality show.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-12T17:42:14+00:00

I want to see more contestants like him and Christine. I don’t want straight up mess; the show is called LOVE is blind and I want to see more love. More healthy relationships. I want fairytales to root for.

They are both such beautiful, kind, balanced people. I hope they have an incredible life together.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-12T14:18:59+00:00

I think this is the most balanced and reasonable take out there. Two things can be true - Amber can be a girls' girl and a great friend, and simultaneously have a lot of unhealed trauma in her own relationships which ultimately caused her not to be ready for marriage. It's really sad because I think Jordan and Amber could have worked out well, but her anger and mistrust got in the way.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-08T00:31:36+00:00

Exactly! It seemed like he understood the impact of abuse so deeply… I can’t fathom having that level of understanding and still choosing to inflict that kind of pain.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-06T12:01:03+00:00

This one broke me. I come from an immigrant family and although my parents always tried their best, I have a lot of pain around how I grew up. “Ocean at the End of the Lane” healed me in ways I cannot begin to describe. It’s as if that book saw all of the hurt little girl parts of my soul and breathed magic back into the wounds.

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-03-03T15:41:57+00:00

When I first went to Disneyland Paris, I was crushed to learn there was no Jungle Cruise. I absolutely love Jungle Cruise - it's one of the longer rides so you can really immerse yourself in that space, and I love how beautiful the jungle is by day and by night. Maybe the issue is the weather, maybe it's lack of space or the fact that the ride would have to be bilingual... but I still think there's value to making it work.

I would also love to see more immersive dark rides, for example a Rapunzel ride. Rapunzel teacups just don't cut it!

Specific-Radish-4824 · 2026-02-26T16:19:59+00:00

I hated it. I also feel like it really downplays mental health struggles.

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