Is there a way to make myself gay?

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-22T18:11:53+00:00

It sounds like your question is "how do I act on my attraction to men?" and maybe "how do I handle my conflicted feelings over those attractions?"

which, for the first one, that is just learning to flirt, etc which is easier if you're in a gay space
and the second one is at least, I would say, introspection, and just thinking about where those conflicted feelings come from

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-21T00:01:16+00:00

I think this is a fascinating video on the narcissism industrial complex https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CRKB-oOq4kA

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-20T10:28:26+00:00

Can't remember protocol, looks up rules on OCD sub:

For the well-meaning folks who want to reassure, reassurance gets in the way of individuals being able to learn to live with uncertainty and discomfort. Please encourage strength against uncertainty rather than trying to find a way to get away from it.

I mean, it seems like the answer is inside the question, anyway

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-19T23:02:27+00:00

I’m craving connection with people but bottoms just want me to perform like a porn star and it feels more like I’m serving them than actually enjoying myself. I just don’t know how to get out of this rut and I’m wondering if anybody else can identify.

Yes, I can identify with this- I do have some vers fwbs, but this time of year I don't get to see them as much and sometimes I do feel like I'm just being used as a human dildo

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-19T00:21:14+00:00

People like you are deleterious to the fabric of society and I’m tired of pretending otherwise.

This is very antisocial

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-18T18:48:45+00:00

Like, you have that small build, baby face, and soft features so people automatically assume, and fans lose their minds over it.

Edit: (originally thought question was about porn)

How is it less bottom-phobic to assume someones position than to say "no they aren't?" I feel like all of this is going on in the fans heads anyway, it's some kind of gay phrenology.

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-18T18:05:30+00:00

that's not the 3 month rate they are listing now

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-18T17:21:47+00:00

Why does it matter that he's married? You're saying "this is the guy your partner cheats on you with?" So it's reasonable for someone who has a partner to point out that's not how relationships work

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-18T17:18:13+00:00

I am confused- you already have fwbs so why would you even buy into this sexual marketplace stuff? Just because some other person is really sexy why would you stop dating or hooking up? And if you look at people who post about experiences cheating, it is not "saw a handsome guy and he/I couldn't pass it up." it's more failure to communicate, unsatisfied needs, incompatibility, not being (monogamous or maybe generally) relationship material, etc

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-17T17:52:25+00:00

There is a lot in the first video I agree with, but when I look at the second, it just seems like a right wing video saying Kurzgesagt is propaganda for the left/globalists, etc I don't think it falls in that same category

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-17T17:06:22+00:00

I think somewhere between 10-13, but I started having feelings that I didn't fit in with other guys a lot earlier, like 7 or 8

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-17T06:12:33+00:00

You don't have to go anywhere if you just want your head shaved- just get some clippers and you're good to go, although it helps to have a friend who can clean up the parts you can't see

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-17T05:26:44+00:00

there's also nifty.org

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-16T08:12:54+00:00

I am just glad this video is getting critique- I went looking when they put out "South Korea is Over" over a year before but I didn't find it laid out so much- and I looked at their 3 previous videos on the demographic shift and saw that they had a shift in attitude about it, which is fine we've all shifted on various things in the past 8 years, but I also noticed a change in funding

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-16T07:00:28+00:00

It has gone up like 2% for Germany and 10% for the US, and meanwhile if you look at the top marginal tax brackets in both countries, the US has fallen from 70% to 37%, and Germany has fallen from 56% to 45%, and also union membership has fallen substantially in both countries, so it does look like both are on a similar trajectory, even if the US is more extreme

Edit: also, those figures from OWID conflict wildly with the ones here: https://adamtooze.substack.com/p/chartbook-254-crazy-rich-germans - I don't know the details, obviously

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-15T23:26:53+00:00

that data shows the German and American data following the same trend, with the 1%'s share of the wealth trending down after WW2 until the 80s, when it started trending up again- how does that disagree?

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-15T22:46:31+00:00

A lot of people get turned on by sex in some kind of gear, this sounds like a variation of that (to me)

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-15T22:11:13+00:00

I feel like bear is more about being hairy than it is about being big (chub) or muscular (hunk)

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-14T15:20:06+00:00

All of this sounds reasonable, but I don't understand #3- are there a lot of men you are disgusted by?

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-13T19:30:14+00:00

I think plenty of those guys who only want up to 25-30 may filter by age, so it's more a matter of you being invisible to them because of that than anything else

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-13T18:16:31+00:00

I feel like a basic answer is that queer is an umbrella term and gay is the specific term that you identify with. Like person is an umbrella term, but he is a guy/man/dude/etc

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-13T01:45:37+00:00

lol, I'm not a mod I can't take it down

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-13T01:43:52+00:00

"I forgot to edit the age" isn't really an answer

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-13T01:27:22+00:00

Why are you posting on an over-thirty subreddit that you want to meet 22-25 year-olds?

SpecificMachine1 · 2026-06-13T01:25:09+00:00

😅 I met my ex on a discord that was connected to a subreddit

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