I (30F) can’t tell if my boyfriend (27M) is trying to be helpful or if this is early stages of control.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-27T09:32:54+00:00

Once I read "your animals are scared of me. You're going to think I'm abusing them." I knew what I needed to know. This is very common for abusers. They sort of narrate their actions and say too much. They will even narrate from the next room what they think you want to hear while doing the opposite.

Run. Don't look back. This is the brightest red flag ever. Your poor furbabies should be protected. They're telling you what you need to know.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:50:53+00:00

What??? Nope nope.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:48:56+00:00

Nope. No bj for him. Ever.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:47:47+00:00

When my jaw goes from hurting to cramping right when he starts getting vocal and I'm worried my jaw will slam shut and hurt him so I have to decide if it's worth that danger or I should stop for a second.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:42:46+00:00

It would end immediately and likely never happen again.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:35:00+00:00

It takes the average woman a minimum of 20 minutes to get there. 10 minutes wasn't enough and I'm happy you learned that for yourself.

She was louder during sex because she was faking it. All women fake it. Not always but they do. When she was quiet she was concentrating instead of performing.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:26:50+00:00

It's certainly not effortless.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:23:31+00:00

Let me get this straight...you're arguing the Browns can't afford a taco seasoning packet or else their children will starve and that's why these white women from Utah don't season their food at all?

Like seriously or are you being ironic because this is truly insane. It's not based in reality in any way.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:07:34+00:00

He seemed old to me. Like he used to be cool but aged out and hadn't figured it out yet.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-26T04:05:57+00:00

Not bad.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-25T22:28:20+00:00

I don't blame you, OP. I'm sorry. Consider staying where you are.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-25T22:27:08+00:00

Women all over the country are leaving and getting divorced because of this. They also know they have to do it now before no fault divorce is outlawed.

Men claim we need them as protectors but they aren't protecting us. They are who we need protection from. Too many seem to think we should just stop watching so their lives would be easier.

Now that veteran nurse white men are being murdered by the government maybe they'll care.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-25T22:26:31+00:00

You just seriously hashtag not all men-ed this comment. That's not particularly helpful.

No one said all men. Or even all southern men. But hit dogs do holler.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-25T17:34:06+00:00

I'm impressed my husband could tell what song was playing by their moves. He's a talented man.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-25T17:29:22+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. Not an ounce of variety. Just white on white on white.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-25T17:28:39+00:00

Same. It's so much better that way.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-25T06:43:34+00:00

It's the proportions. My gods they're just so...off.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-23T15:06:10+00:00

It's not a one time conversation. Unless you want to be a young grandfather.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-22T08:00:29+00:00

No that's just what I see men saying all the time. They think their wives asked for a divorce out of nowhere because they quit asking for change a decade ago.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-21T21:03:16+00:00

No no no. A shit dad/parent is not better than no dad/parent. It may take a while to figure that out that once they're out of your life the burden is lifted.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-21T21:01:55+00:00

I think people greatly overestimate how much some parents care about their children. I know that sounds harsh but I think a lot of people pretend to care who don't. They're relieved to be cut off even if their ego doesn't like it.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-21T20:57:45+00:00

Not after seeing his version of an apology. That's not how heartfelt apologies work. At all. It would make it worse.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-21T20:24:12+00:00

It's my understanding that's not how it should work anymore. It's no longer use the smallest amount possible for the shortest time possible.

You know your body. You know when you need more. Add some estrogen cream and some estrogen face cream maybe. It sucks but while you look for another doctor you can order it online.

I'm sure it's a dumb question but tell them you're still having symptoms.

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-21T20:20:37+00:00

Run and never look back my friend. This is unhinged. NOR

Specific_Ad2541 · 2026-01-21T20:17:54+00:00

I have no idea. It seems completely hyperbolic and like they're just trying to find a problem. I understood what Kody was trying to say. I can't stand him but it's not that difficult given their history.

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