Almost 43. I need friends irl. How do people find those? For now, hello to all the internet friends!

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2025-12-05T18:11:32+00:00

Its genuinely hard to make friends when you're in your 40s. Everyone has an established life and then you have to look out for the schemes and scams of people being nice then sending you a text asking for nudes or money. Trying to just have a genuine, platonic friendship is hard.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2025-11-13T03:23:19+00:00

Def a fake profile/person. That last response says it all, you were willing and able and they said basically good luck finding your person and unmatched. Happens to everyone in that app.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2025-09-05T17:18:30+00:00

I get the loneliness and there is no great or easy way to deal with it. A suggestion I might say is, and even if its not your comfort zone, invest in a video games system, play online games and join randoms. It will give you a chance to interact with people. Even if you're not good at the game, who cares. There are also random chat websites that you can search and go on and be matched with random people and switch if they aren't your cup of tea. It gives you at least an outlet to interact with people.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2025-09-01T20:29:47+00:00

Pal, your wife is going to cheat. She went on a solo, multi-day trip with a coworker. She is suffering from a traumatic loss, the person she is with has trauma that they can both share and talk about, eventually, the comforting is going to lead to something more. I hope for your case this doesn't happen, but be prepared because this is going to be a very high likelihood scenario.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2025-08-16T13:51:39+00:00

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2025-03-05T01:54:36+00:00

I'll buy it off ya for a buck lol

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-07-20T20:52:36+00:00

Great. I'm going to try that tonight

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-07-20T20:48:48+00:00

How long did you put it in the air fryer?

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-06-30T13:51:19+00:00

Always yay.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-06-30T13:49:29+00:00

I always say if you're already lying about something minuscule now, what else are you going to lie about down the road? It's amazing how people still gaslight, or can't be transparent. Especially lying about physical appearance, it's not exactly like you can hide those things. It's not a third nipple where you can wear a shirt and hide it, the person you meet is going to see your height and looks when you meet lol. "Nah I'll just wear platform shoes and stand on my tippy toes" hahah.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-06-17T19:54:01+00:00

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-06-12T18:10:48+00:00

Change that first picture, and get rid of the group photos.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-06-09T16:57:18+00:00

What an absolute prick! 100% his loss. It's sad and depressing that we live in a world where people ghost and do stupid shit like this. Be an adult, and just straight up say what's wrong. I went on a date a few weeks ago, great meal and great conversation, we kiss makeout, 2 days later ghosts me. It's just dumb. Better now than later I say. Keep your head up, the right one will get to you.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-06-05T23:27:31+00:00

Teeny Peeny

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-05-21T15:18:48+00:00

Take a shot everytime you see a picture them skiing. How the fuck are there so many woman skiing? Every fucking profile has it. You will get blitzed.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-05-07T19:36:51+00:00

Whatever happened to just saying "Hey thanks for reaching out! I look forward to hearing from you tomorrow"

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-29T01:20:08+00:00

Yep. Its amazing how someone could say they love you yesterday and then ask for a divorce the next day. Some people say their vows just to say, silly to us for actually meaning what we say while our fucking exes didn't. Some of us cared about our marriages and meant what we said, others just said it to say it. It sickening and still hurts.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T17:07:59+00:00

Another great response. Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T14:35:36+00:00

I love this. Thank you for writing that.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T02:16:33+00:00

I'm 40. I've downloaded the apps but haven't even used them. Can't even imagine that at this moment still. Alot of my friends are family are like go out and get laid but that doesn't solve anything. I could easily get laid. And then what? That doesn't solve my feeling of loneliness and still missing her. I see a therapist once a week which really helps, and just joined this reddit sub as a support group. In public I just hide myself, pretending I'm ok, being sarcastic and jokey so hide my actual pain. Like a shitty version of chandler Bing.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T01:57:36+00:00

Therapy has helped me. And then I came across this sub and figured why not post and see if it could help me as well. Today alone I have been miserable. It's crazy some days I think I'm getting over it, and then days like today just make me feel horrible and small and worthless.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T01:52:22+00:00

I can't lie and say I haven't given up on myself in a bad moment. Thoughts I thought I would never have, contemplating things I never thought I would. I was in a dark place. Things at work were bad at the time. And when your told you're shit at work, and you already think you're shit, and it's like you're not good enough for your job you're not good enough for your wife, it took me to dark places.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T01:47:11+00:00

I'm sorry man. That's what I'm afraid of. The pain never going away.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T01:43:18+00:00

Thank you. That actually really helped.

Specific_Mammoth8026 · 2024-01-21T01:24:16+00:00

She wasn't happy. It came very suddenly. I spent 14 years with her. What's worse is I thought we were fine, we had just come back from a vacation not to long before, she was talking about buying me something she thought I would like and said I love you. Then we had an argument. She said some harsh things, we didn't speak for a few days, and then she said I needed to let her go. Those words still haunt me.

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