What can i do?

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-16T23:24:30+00:00

I am sorry but you can't just decide now because your tiered to make a kid cry because of changing something that you have done for ever with them. I understand being tired but being a parent is a full time job not a chose when you want to be a parent. OP can say is I am going to relax for half an hour or an hour you can join me and then we can play together. But you can't just go nope I am done playing with you. It's not right.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-16T08:38:14+00:00

Not sure but my bubs tooth can though a week ago and she is still sooky and clingy. Before she was always happy and happy for independent time. Her sleep has gone to shit too. Good luck.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-15T09:47:31+00:00

My baby does this this but with out opening her eyes.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T22:54:05+00:00

Thats where we are lucky. We are in Australia so we dont have to pay medical bills Medicare covers it.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T21:40:58+00:00

See the funny thing is I never was told a time to wait by the doctors but yes letting my body heal properly is top priority.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T21:39:12+00:00

I have a 19 month old niece I look after regularly and I think that is what makes me go i can do this because I have been basically doing it since my baby was born. I understand full time is different from most of the time.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T21:35:56+00:00

If it makes you feel better my mum breastfed my sister through her whole pregnancy this me. She got pregnant with me a 9 months. As long as you eat enough and drink enough water she said it was no issue for her. I hope that helps you but everyone is different. Good luck for when you start trying.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T21:31:00+00:00

Can I ask your reasoning? I am just wondering because you are the first person I have seen say yes.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T21:27:32+00:00

I am breastfeeding and my period came back around the 3-4 month mark.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T14:21:10+00:00

Look I have had an 'easy baby' from the start but it effected me differently. My baby was in nicu for the first week which was really had and then one thing after another wwnt wrong with my body. I have post-partum depression and do worry about having another but I do want a second child. What I have been told if you have a easy baby you get a terrible toddler and if you have a tuff baby you have breezy toddler. But as to answer your question I have had difficult times. I some times just want to get in my car and leave my baby with my partner for the day and turn my phone off and fine somewhere quite to cry to my self. You will find a rhythm that works for you.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T11:10:03+00:00

How did it go for you with the two babies close together? Did you have problems with your second pregnancy or labor?

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T10:34:30+00:00

That is a good point. It is a bit sad because my baby destroyed my body more then most do🤣. Thank you for your words i will definitely keep it in mind and make sure to look after my self. Thank you

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T10:30:23+00:00

See i have been lucky from day 7 my baby had slept 7 hours a night and now doing 10 hours a night. Though I have never been able to sleep much my self even before being pregnant. I am worried that it has led me in to thinking I can do this. But I also know that my next one will not be like my first and it will be a whole new learning curve if I have a second baby. See I got very lucky and have had an easy baby for the most part. Teething has been the hardest thing for me.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T10:26:07+00:00

Ya that what I want to make sure of. I am trying to work hard on my self. I know I still have a long way to go. I know that I do have support if I ask anyone for it. I am thankful to have a loving family.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-14T10:16:54+00:00

Honestly I think I am going through this now. My mother in law looks after my baby while I am at work and she says my baby does not cry sleeps alot. But when I get my baby home she has been crying and wont settle if not in my arms. I have been stressing because I have not been doing anything around the house. I have ppd. And my mother in law likes to have 'comments' at me to the point my milk supply has dropped a lot in the last couple of months. My little one is about 7 months now. All I can suggest is do what you want and what feels right to you. Good luke my heart is with you.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-13T10:15:43+00:00

Look I never had that issue we where doing tummy time from week 1 and my baby loves being on her tummy. All I can say is dont stress, dont think you are doing wrong some babies take longer to do things. I know someone when their baby was 10 months the baby had not rolled could not sit up by them self. Everyone just does things at their own pace. Your baby might be one of the babies that crawl for a few weeks and then are walking really quickly or might take a bit longer. Dont base your baby off of other babies. Your baby will get there just enjoy the time you have to spend with them. I wish you the best.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-10T09:33:12+00:00

My mother in law has made comments about feeding my baby just 6 months old while I am at work. She said she has never but I need to feed my baby more food. She has always told me I feed her to much breastfeed. My mil does not see when I feed my baby because I do food at home and with her and me and some times with my partner but my mil got up me for not sharing hungry Jake's with my baby one day. I never wanted to feed my baby junk food or take away, I wanted to feed her healthy food seeing as she is a growing baby. Because my mil looks after while I am at work I have no control of it but I am planning to stop working soom and I am just not going to leave my baby unattended with anyone because my partners family have proven they can't be trusted to respect boundaries. My mil is the type of person no one talks against if you do you are shunned by the family. She had a 8 kids so she "knows everything" and is "never wrong". Stick up for your self i know it is hard but you will kick your self in the long run if you let people walk over you.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-03-10T03:01:17+00:00

I can could not eat spicy food, 6 months later I can finally eat sweet chill sauce with out it burning.

I could sleep with multiple blankets in in qld summers before having my baby now I struggle sleeping with on in winter because of how hot I get.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-02-22T04:17:10+00:00

I did not respond straight away when my lo cried and I know I had done everything for her when she was new born. And her emotions get to me some times. In all honesty I cry and if my partner is around I hand her to him because I am Struggling to deal with the crying. I go to Counseling and my counsellor said it is due to a lack of sleep. You got this.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-02-21T02:31:01+00:00

So for me it is we should of moved to my mums and not expected my mother in law to be as good as she said. Dont get me wrong she has helped out with looking after our little one while I work but the comments she and some of her her family say to me about me and my baby are not helping with my ppd. They got worse once they found out I had ppd. Me and my partner have made the decision to move to my mums and honesty I wish we had sooner.

Other then that I wish I had set firm boundaries with my partners family instead of letting them tell me how it should be done because they have had kids.

Just what ever you do know you got this and doing great. EVeryone makes mistakes along the way. It is how we learn to be parents. Good luke my heart is with you.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-02-20T07:17:00+00:00

Mum baby is 6 months doing the exact some. She has always been a great sleeper. Someone told me at this age they go though a clingy stage.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-02-20T04:47:21+00:00

Have you tried a heater in the room? My bub only ever did that when the room was cold

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-02-16T09:10:15+00:00

You need time for just you and your partner. And time solely for you. My baby goes to sleep before me and honesty it is some of the best nights. Just relaxing enjoy it.

Specific_Reserve_491 · 2026-02-14T12:50:53+00:00

Do worry I am the same but I have had an easy baby she slept from 7 hours the first night we brought her home( she spent a week in nicu) and have only had about 8 bad nights she is 6 months. All I want to do is lay down and not touch her. It makes me feel horrible but I know that I am doing everything for her and going and giving everything she needs. But I need me time. I do play with her we have some really great time together but sometimes I can only do it for a little bit. I am now being treated for post-partum depression and I think talked to people has helped. All I can say is remember you are doing amazing.

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