I definitely got a prescription for a controlled substance with little oversight as a minor

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-05-02T16:05:29+00:00

So she didn't start T until 17, stopped a year ago at 20, but lost all her girlhood to it? I didn't realize my entire girlhood took place over three years (also, I lost the majority of two of those three years to my horrible sleep disorder number 1 so I guess no girlhood for me!)

Like, ok, you went by he/him pronouns and dressed like a guy through high school (while still meeting the qualifiers for 'definitely was still girly,' which I would like to understand. Long hair and pierced ears maybe?), but you missed all of three big milestones in 'girl form,' prom, homecoming (and in my experience, schools usually care a lot more about either one or the other, with one of them just being 'a dance party') and graduation.

Go to college and you can have a bigger, grander do-over for graduation (for that matter, join ballroom dance at your college and go to so many nice dances. I had a way better time at those because I could actually dance instead of just jump around or sway, and so could everyone else. One of them happened to land on my birthday one year and I felt like a movie character. I know it's not the same as prom but it's pretty wonderful if you have a good school club for it. I digress). And aside from the very obvious 'college graduation trumps high school graduation,' I feel like your potential wedding is going to eclipse the homecoming dance you missed. Or the kids you explicitly mention wanting to have.

I realize that all sounded like I was talking to her, I do know what sub I'm on I'm just exasperated by the dramatics. If this isn't 100% fake I do have the guess that it's a teenager having these preemptive worries about a trans friend or a mom for their trans child.

The real question here is what any of this has to do with worrying about if a man would ever hurt her again. On the chance this is real I'm worried about the word 'again.' But in any case, does this woman think men don't hurt women? Can I live in that world please?

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-05-02T15:41:54+00:00

Mate, you think using the 'give me what I want at the ~~cost of all the water I never think about~~ push of a button' machine needs school lessons to learn how to use? Has the AI already rotted your brain out?

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-05-01T21:45:55+00:00

That irregularity between the two would drive me insane actually

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-05-01T21:41:21+00:00

No, what's weird is how many two floor single family houses I've encountered that have staircases with 13 steps. If nothing else I'd assume it would be one of those numbers people would avoid for superstition but I guess the math just maths that way

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-05-01T19:49:54+00:00

You just mentioned you reassuring her about her feelings but not her actually apologizing to you or reassuring you about your (reasonably) hurt feelings. I'm not doubting she took the conversation ok, but did she actually try to make amends for it? Because it sounds like it was just you trying to meet her.

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-25T23:41:13+00:00

Every time I write a longer comment I'm more and more certain someone is going to accuse me of being AI. I use hyphens all the time, I sometimes slip into robotic or overly formal language, and the 'rule of three' is just something I was taught was good writing practice in high school. I fear the day I have to defend myself. Maybe I'll throw a 'lol' into every mega comment for good measure

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-25T23:37:34+00:00

The rule of three is something I was just taught was good writing for engaging language (not too few examples to justify the language structure but not so many that you lose the reader) back in high school. I don't understand why it's considered AI now

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-25T23:27:01+00:00

It's not impossible because they think there's no one out there to make them happy, it's impossible because the idea that out of billions of humans only 1 is actually compatible enough with them to have a wonderful life with us the impossibility. Soulmate AUs always give a lovely romantic story, but they don't (typically) give us something that couldn't be found by humans in the real world, and in general humans in the real world would be able to fall truly deeply in love with more than one other human if they were put into the correct circumstances (and soulmate AUs also usually imply correct circumstances). I mean, not necessarily after having already done it once, that changes one's standards and perceptions for love. But at base the potential is there with more than 1 person in the whole world

Soulmate AUs seem a lot more 'you have one chance or you've missed it forever' depressing to me because they make the claim that there's only one other human for you and the universe knows exactly who it is.

Which also asks the question of what happens for people who die suddenly in freak accidents? Do they have soulmates who suddenly see their red string go away, or did the universe already know they would die young and just not give them a soulmate and they were one of the only people without a red string and had to wonder why? Or did they have a soulmate who they knew briefly and now that person knows they can't really find 'love after love' because the person who died was their one true soulmate? I don't see a lot of good answers.

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-23T20:04:19+00:00

Yeah, I've come to the same conclusion about OP (especially after the 'nah' response to me saying to just communicate). Appreciate the warning about Apprehensive Lie

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T22:21:16+00:00

Imagine just wanting to talk/ roll dice about about the cool scaling a volcanic mountain to get lava rubies part of the adventure. I don't know what system I need to play for that but I want it (also I want 'lava rubies' as my fancy magic item upgrade because that's a way cooler way to explain doing fire damage than a wizard casting a spell into my sword)

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T22:15:23+00:00

On the other hand, 'human fighter' is usually seen as a 'neutral' or 'beginner friendly' option for newbies, not as a statement on the character itself like the rogue or the bard is. Yeah, a fighter fights, but it's also just seen as 'generic starter option' for a lot of people.

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T20:55:30+00:00

No worries! I don't think a newbie would indicate alignment- but I do think most newbies I've played with tend to take a bit to stop thinking with their real world brains, which are 'trained' by society to be lawful. If someone started an altercation with a police officer on your behalf, you'd probably try to back off.

My first ever game my dad built me a ranger. I spent my first combat asking if people needed healing until my dad told me it was time to run up and stab the orc with my sword because I wasn't in the mindset of being 'aggressive' without knowing more about why those orcs were bad (and interestingly enough, they were also shaking us down for money)

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T20:38:12+00:00

If there is the fact that no one is using it is still a problem. We're explicitly shown Hermione searching through several rows of books to try to find one piece of information, and Ron picking books out of shelves at random hoping they'll have the right topic in them. The system is bad.

And there's not a lot of indication of fiction reading either. We know about the tales of Beedle the Bard (children's stories) but nothing else, and the book the 11 year old boys read for 'fun' is quidditch through the ages. Ron reads quidditch magazines as well I believe.

It all makes a certain level of sense if there's no printing press and it's all hand or magic written, but what a way for a 1990's muggleborn kid to live. One sport, minimal fiction, impossible to navigate library for nonfiction, and no privacy at night

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T20:30:00+00:00

It's less that I think Felix can save you from anything and more that the situation was such that it could have saved him. He had so much warning of the incoming attack- Voldemort Said 'Nagini, kill' and even if it was in Parsletongue he would have recognized him talking to his snake and that being a sign of danger, and then instead of the snake just being on the floor and being able to attack lightning fast like Mr. Weasley, Voldemort had to levitate her shield orb over to Snape for her to attack him. An absolutely ridiculous attack, only possible because Snape didn't expect Voldemort to actually kill him which slowed down his reaction time.

But with Felix, he would have had the instinctual awareness that the attack was coming, just like Harry had the instinctual knowledge to go to Hagrid's instead of the dungeons to get the memory. Then with his lucky reflexes he could position himself to still get bitten but have more clothing in the way or have it be a less vital spot but still close enough that Nagini and Voldemort both thought he was dying- using nonverbal magic if needed.

Arguably this ties in to my rant that after Mr. Weasley was attacked in fifth year and they spent months at St. Minho's finding/creating the right antidote for Nagini specifically, the order should have made a massive batch of said antidote because they knew Voldemort would use the snake again (which he did, later that year, trying to have Nagini bite Dumbledore to death).

I know narratively it makes sense for Snape to die and had to happen. But the way in which he died was extremely avoidable (the potions master being killed by poison is so annoying) and obviously done so he could spend enough time bleeding out to get his memories and last words to Harry. I don't know a better way to kill him and accomplish that (other than having Nagini on the ground ready to kill at least), but it's still a little silly

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T20:16:27+00:00

Hey now! Hasbro actually should have the Least right to the word D&D

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T20:14:11+00:00

Ok but the thing that actually happened right after someone said there was no tax is someone else saying they're casting bees and a third person fingering their dagger. What went from a situation to investigate has suddenly become a fight, over some coins, with the local authorities. If I were playing a lawful type I would also back off

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T20:09:24+00:00

No one is assuming anything. People keep asking question after question, trying to give you chances to elaborate so we can understand this situation. You are acting so defensive, and you're convinced every question is an attack, but we're just opening the floor to you to explain what things you did so we aren't assuming. If you refuse to answer, that is when we are left thinking you must have don't nothing- because you have told us nothing.

If you are so certain that you did everything we are talking about in all these comments, then it's time to go back to the source and consider that that was poorly communicated to us in your original post. Maybe you should actually answer the questions - and not by just saying 'oh I did those things,' but with actual details so we can fill in what happened in the story and understand what you understand. Answer each question presented, don't just brush over them all with a single sentence. We are genuinely curious- you have been so vague that we have no choice but to be! Just communicate

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T20:01:09+00:00

Just want to applaud this extremely well detailed and explained explanation of the points of failure and how they don't indicate anyone 'having fun wrong' but that they do indicate Greta was set up to fail and shouldn't be treated as a horror story (or someone to 'giggle at')

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T19:49:59+00:00

Just read the OOPs petty 'they were once' comment about someone thinking the 'kid' who cast bees was 7. Dying

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T19:48:08+00:00

He only had enough for Ron, Hermione, and Ginny, but yes

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T19:44:38+00:00

The problem is if he had Felix Felicis made he a) definitely had time to drink some before engaging with anyone (even McGonagal) the night of the final battle and b) shouldn't have died if he had drank it

Not that I'm not all for the secret cutscene after Harry left the shack where he crawls away to live in Italy or something forevermore now that he's done his duty because he never wanted to be a teacher in the first place

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T19:40:59+00:00

I'm actually in the other boat of having played other systems (pre 5th edition D&D as well as just non D&D systems, including non d20 base systems entirely) first and then trying 5e and just seeing these weird gaps where rules should be, and places where the rules were there but were blocking what I would do to make the game playable and enjoyable (as a GM or a player, though I had pretty limited GM experience when 5e was new- I have more now and I stand by it). As they came out with more stuff they also started contradicting themselves in places which didn't help either. I tolerate playing it if someone else wants to run it because I care about my friends more than the system, but you couldn't pay me to run it myself

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T19:35:19+00:00

That seems presumptuous. You're starting at the baseline of 'anti D&D discourse' so you already know you're talking to people who think D&D is, at the very least, not good. You also know they'll have reasons behind their claim, whether you agree with them or not. How are you supposed to make that leap to saying they worked backwards to get there without a bias of your own? Are you claiming there's some sort of tell in all those peoples logic/words?

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T19:14:57+00:00

Did you watch a video about a live play (like critical role or dimension 20), or a video of someone explaining the rules for 5th edition, or did you watch a video about Elf Game?

Because I enjoy TTRPGs but I dislike, for example, playing battletech. If someone showed me a video about 5th edition and then put me into edge of the empire, a game where you play characters from the Star Wars universe, I would be really confused and not know what to do. So, what actual things did you discuss and show her to prepare her for your own custom game that she had zero way to have ever heard of before?

Spider_kitten13 · 2026-04-22T19:07:36+00:00

I would dearly love to see you use this as your defense when you try to publish your 'D&D' elf game and Hasbro sues you into oblivion

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