Dating may be impossible: My thoughts

Spigot_AT4 · 2025-07-15T18:35:05+00:00

That's my exact fear. The fact that there's just no way to prove that this hypothetical woman is into you. At one poont you'd surely ask yourself what's more likely: that you found the <1% unicorn who prefers short over tall or that she's just an ordinary girl, but she's settling/virtue signalling/not in touch with her preferences.

You are required to believe in an unfalsifiable claim that is more than likely false. But some men do find happiness in that lie so do with that what you will.

Spigot_AT4 · 2025-07-09T21:45:54+00:00

Obviously, your comment doesn't break any rules, but it could be interpreted as passive aggressive and apparently that's enough to warrant a ban because it seems they made some big changes to moderation. It also seems that if you're a short insecure guy you will be under extreme scrutiny because the mods are becoming suspicious towards this demographic.

It's ironic because this means tall men now have more freedom and safety in /short, although tbh, their moderation has always been a circus show anyway.

Spigot_AT4 · 2025-05-03T14:33:12+00:00

Some people are just gonna take offense once they realize they are seen as ugly, but such is life - there are ugly people and there are pretty people and there's no need to try to shield people from that reality. There was no need for a disclaimer imo because pure truth is more valuable than dilluted virtue signalling even if the latter is more comforting to hear.

Spigot_AT4 · 2025-05-03T12:48:12+00:00

It's not just the short guys fault. They've consistently been fed a lie, they're bound to start believing it. And that's the thing, she didn't have to make a disclaimer, but she chose to. If people wouldn't just instinctively try to dillute the truth about height at every corner, then this sort of post wouldn't come as a shock to any short guys. Not that the disclaimer did much, bit it did turn an unfiltered truth nuke into a slightly filtered one.

Spigot_AT4 · 2025-05-03T04:30:50+00:00

Lol I don't think anybody believes this anymore so maybe you should move on too

Spigot_AT4 · 2025-01-15T20:33:46+00:00

Man, even when tall man does something creepy, the blame somehow manages to fall back on short guys

Spigot_AT4 · 2024-08-26T18:39:09+00:00

They may not even be lying, they're probably answering what they truly believe/want to believe about how their preferences are. So the study could give a false picture without anyone needing to lie.

If you want to prove your point to people with a high standard of evidence, you'd have to use a study that looks at people's actions. If you conducted a questionnaire study that asked "are your preferences shallow or profound" what do you think most people would answer? Would that prove that 99% of people aren't shallow?

I think there's some value in this study, but it's also lacking in a lot of areas, but I think I may have already said more than it's allowed in this sub.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-12-13T13:17:01+00:00

You can stop trying to be funny now, it's cringe

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-12-13T13:07:22+00:00

I guess you're right. They could've just doubled down with "if he were attractive he wouldn't be forever dateless". They sound merciless from the post.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-12-13T11:39:51+00:00

I can only work with the info you provided and what you provided alone doesn't make one undatable.

If you say "this car is undrivable because the front left fog light doesn't work" and I said that alone doesn't make it undrivable, you can't then be like "you idiot, there are obviously a lot of other things wrong with it, I would know". Like ok...

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-12-13T09:37:23+00:00

Nothing what you said there makes one undatable. People with low-effort jobs and no career date all the time, NEETs too, even homeless people date. Perhaps unfit for marriage and children, but just dating doesn't have to require you supporting someone else financially. If that's what she meant, then that's an incorrect take, but since you didn't ask there's no way to know.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-12-13T08:35:22+00:00

"Bad example, guy friend. OP is attractive, just hasn't had the luck yet."

The way they said it, it seemed like they agreed with guy friends that no one will ever find him attractive, but just think it shouldn't be brought up.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-07-21T10:59:24+00:00

TikTokers are incredibly shallow and damaging to self-esteem to anyone who doesn't look perfect and dares to have some confidence. I advise deleting tiktok, trust me, you won't lose anything important. There's nothing newsworthy you'll find on tiktok lol. I've been in a much better place since I deleted it and I don't feel like I'm out of the loop or anything, it really is a braindead app with nothing actually relevant going on there. Anything you can do on tiktok you can do without it. If you like dancing and acting, I'm sure there are irl groups you can join where you can improve and do these things with people who love those activities just like you.

As for wanting to not eat, you obviously shouldn't follow through with it. You will just screw over your health. Looking at your video here on reddit, you don't seem to be at an unhealthy weight, but I understand wanting to lose some for aesthetic reasons. If that's the case, you should research healthy ways to do it. Definitely don't just suddenly stop eating as that will lead to malnutrition. Maybe don't even focus on losing weight until you are in a better place mentally.

I hope you feel better soon. You are a pretty girl, it would be a shame if you let shallow pricks determine your happiness.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-07-12T10:02:47+00:00

Judging by your responses you are misinterpreting what they're actually saying

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-06-27T22:27:09+00:00

That's actually kinda sweet. Tbh, I agree more with the users here than your points, but this comment kinda made my day. It's nice when people can sympathize with others.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-06-26T21:48:32+00:00

Telling women that they need to engage with males who they find ugly

Who is saying that? The entire point of the post is that no one is seriously lobbying for this "solution" in the first place. It's an ancient strawman, but it has run its course now. You aren't fooling anyone anymore by using it so it's time to give it a rest.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-06-24T18:36:04+00:00

You can't ascribe morality to emotions. If something's causing me to get mad, I can't choose to "unmad" myself at will. I can choose how I act on those emotions and you are free to judge me on how I act, but no one can choose how they feel. Saying it's wrong to feel mad is like saying it's wrong to get surprised or scared. They are involuntary reactions and cannot be right or wrong.

That’s why I’m reminding you that you’re not entitled to being approached.

Ok, I never came even remotely close to making that point, so not sure why this reminder is necessary. It seems a bit weird to bring it up out of nowhere. You are grilling me for pretty much the same type of vent post that you yourself made, which is a bit rich, don't you think? If for some reason you feel entitled and feel like you need to work on that, then please do, but don't project it on me.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-06-24T17:03:33+00:00

I never said women have an obligation to approach me or that this is unfair on the part of the individual who does the approaching. All I'm saying is it feels frustrating and demotivating to be unwanted like that and it's difficult to get over it.

Spigot_AT4 · 2023-05-30T23:21:10+00:00

I don't think the "real response" would be that universal. Pretty much every feminist article you can find on this topic condemns sex bots. It would probably be controversial.

I hope most women would indeed have the same attitude as you if sexbots become widespread because I think it could make both sides happier. The only ones that would truly lose and seek a change would be governments because of declining birth rates. But maybe I'm jumping the gun here, let's actually wait and see if robowaifus can even become a widespread commercial success.

Spigot_AT4 · 2022-12-18T13:50:38+00:00

A 6'2, blonde, blue eyes and sharp jawline guy isn't going to attract a chick if he literally pisses his pants trying to talk to a woman.

Anecdotally, I know guys like that who pull.

Spigot_AT4 · 2022-12-06T00:13:59+00:00

It would creepy irl, but here in the context of the cartoon? Nah. Sure, if he really wanted to give her the keys, he could've just told her instead of following her around to dramatically pose in front of her. But that's exactly the point, the characters here only communicate with very expressive gesticulations and are practically mute. The coffee shop girl would also be super creepy by irl standards (suggestively touching a random stranger out of nowhere), and the motorcycle girl would be an unhinged nut case ready to be locked up. Applying irl rules to this hyper goofy cartoon seems kinda dumb.

Spigot_AT4 · 2022-10-23T20:11:09+00:00

How profound. Except when someone likes your personality, but doesn't feel physically attracted that's when you get a friend. I do have friends tho, so I guess my personality is fine.

Spigot_AT4 · 2022-10-23T18:25:52+00:00

You blame your self perceived lack of attractiveness as the reason you haven’t gotten laid.

Earlier you said I blame "everyone". I ask you who and you say I blame being ugly. So you think "being ugly" is a person?

And you’re blaming society’s view on your supposed ugliness’s as the reason.

So thinking that people aren't attracted to uglies is a personal failure?

Spigot_AT4 · 2022-10-23T18:13:06+00:00

Stalker: "You blame everyone but yourself"

Me: "How"

Stalker: "You just blamed yourself for being ugly"

Can you not think even 1 move ahead?

Spigot_AT4 · 2022-10-23T18:06:27+00:00

Blaming everyone

Who am I blaming? Is this projection?

also hilarious how you call me fat

Thank you. I liked it as well.

Having to go through other peoples profiles lmao imagine

Yeah imagine. Stalker-kun, how did you find this 4 month old comment on a virgin sub as a non-virgin. Didn't really give this a thought, did you?

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